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Systemic Coaching - Professional Training

Many solutions for emotional and relationship problems are nice, simple and wrong.
Good intentions and kind advice so often result in unpleasant consequences.
Systemic coaching helps people make difficult decisions in changing conditions.


There's no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love.
There is only a scarcity of resolve to make it happen.
Wayne Dyer

Systemic solutions do not replace coaching. Ordinary coaching is useful when you make simple decisions in controllable environments with single objectives. Our systems coaching is wonderful when you must make difficult decisions, especially in complex environments or with ambiguous objectives.

People who attend our training are either motivated to solve their own issues or solve other people's issues or both. Many of our students do not wish to become professional coaches, they wish to be more resourceful in their own lives, and perhaps occasionally helping friends and colleagues.

Those students who wish to help others may already have university or other training as helping professionals, or our training may be their first taste of helping others. Either way, we suggest that students consider early what specialties they would like to consider. Many are well-educated in science, engineering or art, and want to learn a set of skills that they never before considered.

We find that students who choose potential specialties, even if the students change their minds later, have more focus and motivation during the training. So here are the three main choices:

Coach Training Personal Development Specialty Training

Do you want to do something truly worthwhile?

You can help people solve emotional and relationship blocks to happiness and success - and build a second income.

This is especially appropriate for therapists, counselors, etc

You can learn systemic coaching in eight 5-day workshops.

Overview of Coach Training

Do you want to improve your communication and relationship skills at home and at work?

We can help you increase your freedom from entanglements and relationship habits.

We can help you sort out some personal issues during demonstrations and exercises.

For rapid personal development ...

Relationship Skills

 Do you want to coach people through special situations?

Do you want to help people deal with issues such as abortion, adoption, compulsions etc.

Or do you want to be a coach supervisor or trainer?

Most specialty workshops are 2 to 5-days.

Specialty Training

One of your primary tasks as a coach is to manage your own emotions, especially fear and discouragement. Your attitudes will greatly influence your clients. Many people are natural hypnotists, and can hypnotize a helping professional into believing that there situation is hopeless, that the client is helpless, that change is pointless etc. The more you encourage yourself to solve challenges, the faster and easier you can solve them.

If you are motivated and have credibility, you could enjoy free systemic coach training ...
... if you organize our workshops. See Organizers

Anybody whose calling is to guide souls should have his own soul guided first, to know what it means to deal with the human soul. Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people. Carl Jung

Our training helps people provide effective coaching for a wide variety of emotional issues and relationship problems. We don't teach tricks and techniques, we teach ways to understand how people create their situations, what stops people solving their own problems, and how intelligent and motivated people can dissolve those situations.

Is this you?

  1. Do you want to help people - or just help yourself?
  2. Do you want to enjoy helping people build their success?
  3. Do you want to enjoy your own development?
  4. Are you friendly, and motivated to help people?

Your next steps

  1. Get our coaching - experience its benefits
  2. Compare our training to other trainings
  3. Consider organizing our training in your area

And then

  1. Attend our systemic solutions training
  2. Improve your relationship and coaching skills
  3. Consider offering an essential coaching service
  4. Add systemic coaching to your professional repertoire
  5. Find simple and cost effective ways to share your skills
  6. Learn how to set up, promote and provide systemic solutions

Many of our students have university education in psychology, psychotherapy and medicine. They have the greatest amount of knowledge ... and often the most to unlearn. If this is you, are you willing to put ineffective knowledge aside during our training, and learn what works? This way you lose nothing and can gain useful models of human effectiveness. (If you come only to defend your education, you probably won't last long).

We teach a unique big picture of coaching and how each step fits into that overall model. We offer many demonstrations and exercises in which students practice the skills required for each step. We discuss what happened during the exercises - and what could have happened. We do more demonstrations with the most difficult or intricate situations that were expose during the exercises. People can learn very quickly this way.

What stops people solving their own problems?

  1. Relationship entanglements
  2. Cannot define goals
  3. Inner objections / criticism
  4. Emotional immaturity
  5. Inner chaos
  6. Toxic beliefs
  7. Identity loss
  8. Mentor damage

Do you want to learn practical coaching? Do you want to learn how to plan coaching sessions, to make coaching contracts, to clarify difficult relationships; to resolve guilt and conflicts; to control obsessions and end compulsions; to change toxic relationships and limiting beliefs; to deal with trauma and to dissolve therapist damage? Advanced & Specialty Training is also available.

  • Coach people to evaluate their relationships
  • Provide appropriate relationship coaching strategies
  • Learn to identify emotional expressions (not so easy!)
  • Learn to identify relationship types and relationship health
  • Learn how to access adaptive emotions to produce change
  • Learn appropriate skills for handling different emotional states
  • Coach people recognize their problems and potential solutions
  • Understand the role of emotion in dysfunction and relationship distress
  • Understand relationships in the contexts of intimacy, identity and attachment

Free Systems Coaching & Coach Training

Do you want our coaching or training - without payment? Can you be a
demonstration subject at a training? Can you promote a workshop?


Systemic Solutions - Coach Training

Our coach training can help you develop your skills in planning, assessing and implementing systemic coaching with individuals, couples, families and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing complexity, that follow the sequence of systemic coaching. And here's the coach exam!

Systems 1: Relationships & Systemic Diagnosis

Many people cannot answer the question, "What do you want?" clearly. Many people are entangled in relationships and cannot focus on personal goals. In this first segment of our coach training you can learn how to recognize many types of relationship entanglements and how to start clarifying those entanglements.

After clarification, most people can better discuss their goals, and plan to achieve their goals. For some people, this is all the coaching they need to move ahead in their lives. For others, systemic diagnosis provides a summary of which relationships need what sort of attention, which provides a basis for a systemic coaching plan. And our diagnosis may indicate that you would be wise to refer them to other helping professionals.

On Systems 1 coach training, you can observe many demonstrations with real relationship issues, and you can practice with other participants to build your experience:

  • Relationships and systems theories
  • How to quickly assess relationship health
  • How to stay resourceful amidst chaotic relationships
  • How to recognize emotional incest and codependence
  • How success, health and relationships are interconnected
  • How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
  • How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)
  • How to recognize relationship transferences and entanglements
  • How to clarify relationships with living, missing and dead people
  • How to select exercise partners for class homework assignments
  • How to dissolve entanglements with parents, partners and children
  • How to identify which clients may not benefit from systemic coaching
  • How to use systemic diagnosis to create a relationship coaching plan

Systems 2: Goalwork, Goal Diagnosis & Objections

Few people can define what they want. People more often know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have abstract goals. Many people show verbal and nonverbal objections to their own goals, and often show conflict about the achievement and consequences of their goals.

If coaching is to be truly goal-directed, then you need some way of coaching people to find well specified and congruent (supported by conscious and unconscious communication).

Systems 2 coach training offers you ways to coach people to use both conscious and unconscious resources to make effective plans for achieving congruent goals. You can observe many demonstrations concerning problematic goals, and you can practice with other participants to build your experience:

  • How to ask goal questions
  • How to dissolve self-criticism
  • How to respond to untimed goals
  • How to respond to negative goals
  • How to respond to abstract goals
  • How to respond to conflicting goals
  • How to respond to manipulative goals
  • How to respond to philosophical goals
  • How to recognize and respond to flattery
  • How to recognize toxic relationship bonds
  • How to deal with criticism from other people
  • How to respond to spontaneous trance during goalwork
  • How to dissolve "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation
  • How to dissolve "Yes-No" objections (simultaneous incongruence)
  • How to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections.
  • How to recognize identity loss (lost identity, identifications and identity conflict)

Systems 3: Trance, Dreamwork & Metaphor

Many people interrupt their coaching plan with descriptions of vivid or recurring dreams. Other people may be unable to answer questions about life goals without going into trance-like states. (We don't use hypnosis or trance inductions).

Hence Systems 3 coach training explores how to find life goals and how to continue goalwork in dreams and in trance. You will observe many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with other participants to build your experience:

  • How to use mini-metaphors
  • How to start goalwork in trance
  • How to recognize identifications
  • How to recognize major identity loss
  • How to recognize spontaneous trance
  • How to recognize toxic relationship bonds
  • How to recognize identity conflict (complex conflict)
  • How to change reality using isomorphic metaphors
  • How to start and continue interactive metaphors (Dreamwork)
  • How to coach people to end nightmares or recurring bad dreams
  • How to coach a person to experience integrity (Soul of Soulwork)
  • How to recognize ecstatic and transcendental states of consciousness
  • How to stabilize integrity to dissolve emotional incest, bonds and trauma.
  • How to create isomorphic interactive metaphors to identify goals and blocks

Systems 4: Abuse, Trauma & PTSD

Many people who cannot achieve their goals carry unresolved and often forgotten trauma. Until these trauma are resolved, these people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They will likely sabotage themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail.
 
The consequences of abuse, trauma and PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of life). Trauma may create major identity issues (see Systems 6) and toxic relationship bonds (see Systems 5). Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving identity issues and relationship bonds provide only short-term benefits at best. Our coach training provides you with effective skills for most life issues.
  • Recognizing stages of crisis
  • How to prepare for future unpleasant events
  • How to transform unpleasant emotions into motivation
  • How to dissolve trauma about disease and health issues
  • How to resolve phobias - and the underlying symbols and triggers
  • How to help people recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
  • How to coach people to evaluate and integrate emotions that they don't like
  • How to recognize the delayed consequences of abuse, crisis and emotional trauma

Systems 4 was another fine piece of the complex and comprehensive system called Soulwork Systemic Solutions. I hope that this develops and spreads, so that it helps people to fulfill their lives.
Professor Martin Šmid, (PhD, Prague, Czech Republic)


Systems 5: Toxic Relationship Bonds

Many people feel compelled to repeat actions that they would prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect relationship bonds - deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. In Systems 5 you can explore the systemic structure of compulsions and obsessions as you learn how to end relationship damage and help people improve their lives.
 
In our early systemic coach training we called these bonds thoughtforms. (Relationship bonds may be called demons by esoteric, archaic and medieval authorities.)
 
In Systems 5 coach training you can learn:
  • How to differentiate between relationship bonds
  • How to recognize seven types of relationship bonds
  • How to limit the consequences of relationship bonds
  • How to explore the consequences of bonded relationships
  • How to replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love

After relationship bonds are dissolved, we can better dissolve emotional abuse and trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, offer resolution for most relationship entanglements that cause emotional and relationship problems.


Systems 6: Identity Loss: Lost Identity, Identifications & Identity Conflict

If people have existential (all life) blocks against long-term happiness; then endless encouragement or goal coaching cannot help them fulfill meaningful goals. This coach training segment is about people who have lost themselves (identity loss), who have identified with others (identification) or who have complex conflict (identity conflict).

These systemic disturbances may be contextual (triggered by some internal or external event) or existential (all of life). Identity loss is associated with subtle or overwhelming emotions, or the lack of emotions. They are usually formed during family crisis or relationship chaos during childhood, but may remain dormant until adolescence.

In Systems 6 coach training you can learn how to explore the varieties of identity loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic coaching and interactive metaphors. You will observe many demonstrations with real issues, and you can practice with others to build your experience:
  • How to coach people to resolve chronic dissociation
  • How to coach people to resolve chronic anger or rage
  • How to coach people to resolve chronic fear or anxiety
  • How to coach people to resolve chronic sadness or melancholy
  • How to coach people to resolve complex conflict (cannot be resolved by sequencing goals)

Extreme identity loss may be diagnosed as mental disorders. After identity loss is resolved, We address relationship bonds and then emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements that cause many emotional and relationship problems. We estimate that 20% - 25% of Europeans and Americans suffer from chronic identity loss.

The issues of Identity Loss covered in this coach training segment are considered to be an extreme form of relationship bonds. Lesser forms of identity loss are covered in earlier coach training.


Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship

You can learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors. Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving techniques. Learn how to coach people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.

Systems 7 training includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see Exit Coaching), incompetent therapists and well-meaning authorities.

  1. Introduction to financial maturity
  2. How to start a systemic coaching practice
  3. How to coach people to resolve some sexual issues
  4. How to evaluate and fine tune unconscious strategies
  5. How to do expert modeling of conscious and unconscious expert strategies
  6. How to recognize and dissolve mentor damage (damage by therapists and teachers)

Systems 8: Couple Coaching

As the consequences of even the best individual coaching can disturb a partnership, couple coaching is a wonderful way to complete a systemic coaching program so that changes support couple happiness.

I came to you for coaching for my symptoms of chronic fatigue ... your coaching worked great, but soon I was in crisis with my (older) partner ... my chronic fatigue suited our retired lifestyle, and as soon as I had energy again ... our marriage was in crisis!  CP Italy

You can coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from solving their own problems. Coach partners to coach each other! You can coach couples to increase love and resolve complaints. You can help couples dissolve transferences (mistaking a partner for someone else) and projections (pretending to be someone else).

Coaching couples to prepare for committed partnership, end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully. Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching begins true systemic coaching, which we continue with the more complex family coaching, team coaching and community coaching.

Systems 8 coach training includes:

  1. How to prepare for couple coaching
  2. How to notice and avoid triangulation
  3. How to quickly uncover core partnership issues
  4. How to build and maintain trust with both partners
  5. How to coach people through separation or divorce
  6. How and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
  7. How to resolve transferences and core transference loops
  8. How to set homework for couples during couple coaching

Systems 9 - Family Coaching . Systems 10 - Team Coaching

Would you like to benefit from our experience?

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Systems 1 How to evaluate relationship dynamics and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, identify blocks, resolve objections & plan for success
Systems 3 How to provide or continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma, and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to resolve therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
Systems 8 How to coach partners to build lasting happiness and avoid partnership breakdown
Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems and to achieve family goals
Systems 10 How to coach team leaders and teams to develop while solving team problems
Systems 11 How to coach communities to survive and prosper in a changing world
Specialty Advanced workshops and specialty training tailored to fulfill your goals and needs

Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must have Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.