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Do you want to trust yourself?
Self-Intimacy
At the root of all immature behavior is a desire to escape
from accepting one's own feelings.
Practicing observing one's own feelings is the foundation of
every work upon the self - as well as being one of the most natural, simple and
actually pleasant methods employed in the field of self awareness. I cannot
emphasize enough how important it is. You can practice this at every moment of
the day, in all circumstances and situations of your own choice - and not only
won't your functioning in the world be disturbed; it will improve.
Observing your feelings carries with it multifaceted and
important benefits to your life:
- friendship and love toward the self and one's own
feelings - in all parts of self - as a consequence of their own
acceptance and recognition, the loss of fear of unpleasant feelings, and the
linking of many sub-personalities into a whole;
- creation of a strong center of intimacy with your self
and trust in oneself; a feeling of inner strength and self worth that can
assist in taking risks and makes it easier to surmount the most difficult
emotional crises of one's life;
- ability to function in the world through consolidating
feelings of integrity, authenticity and centeredness, without the need to
act or exaggerate - which in turn is the foundation of creating quality
relationships and positive attitude towards you of other emotionally mature
people;
- ability to more quickly and clearly recognize and express
one's own, sometimes very subtle, feelings and needs through communicating
with other people, even in situations in which the majority of people lose
that center within that allows one to govern outer influences;
- ability to recognize subtle communication of other
people through an increased awareness of every moment within a given
circumstance or situation, through observing other people and their
reactions toward the details of joint communication;
- a deeper presence and awareness within the current
moment and learning from each situation;
- multifaceted strengthening of intuition due to the
ability to observe and put in words even very subtle emotional
impulses;
- strengthening of creativity for the same reason expressed
above;
- ability to recognize and follow the physical needs of
one's body (for food, movement, rest, etc.), as well as to recognize the
impulse towards specific activities, in order to allow a harmonious and open
existence and an increase in productivity. When one listens to the healthy
messages of one's body and feelings, it is impossible to become lazy! My
experience is that when I in fact follow this principle I often complete the
greatest amount of work in the minimum amount of time, and at the same time
I enjoy myself, in contrast to the rational control which makes many jobs
seem imposed or burdensome;
- facilitated application of any technique of
self-improvement through improved introspection and recognition of
internal processes, especially systems that explore repressed contents of
consciousness and memories;
- honesty with yourself which dramatically reduces
self-deception, the postponement of and escaping from work in resolving
unwanted behavioral patterns;
- ability to recognize and find total pleasure within
positive and pleasant feelings;
- feelings of independence of other people and
circumstances; the ability to fulfill our needs instead of feeling dependent
on others and transferring to them our own responsibilities;
The results are hence worth the amount of effort and time
spent on them! You can start immediately without any foreknowledge or
preparations. You do not need a specific space, equipment or setting - all you
need is yourself and a little will for long term continuous work on the self.
Coaching with Kosjenka
Plagiarism is theft © Kosjenka Muk, 2005-2012
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