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Do you want to resolve
family chaos and enjoy better relationships? There are no limits to the happiness of good
relationships ... nor to the suffering of dysfuntional relationships!
Deficiencies in relationship skills can make any
relationship difficult. You may like, respect or love someone very much, yet be
unable to show it appropriately. You may want to work cooperatively, yet often
feel rejected. You may want a loving partner, yet no-one returns your
approaches. You may feel lonely in a crowd.
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You helped me improve my relationships with my parents,
my girlfriend is now my wife ... and we can discuss sensitive emotional
issues peacefully.
Relationship skills should be taught in high school! Atlanta, USA
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So many people take a do-it-yourself approach to
their life and use whatever free or low-cost advice they can find. And
those who do hire helping professionals often assume that discussing
their past or defining their problems will magically help them become
more mature.
A few helping professionals
mention emotional maturity as part of their services, but rarely describe
their offer in detail. Many others don't mention maturity, perhaps
because they don't understand it, maybe they don't think it's important,
or perhaps they don't believe it's possible.
Some people think that
maturity is like a graduation present from school, university or military
service! If you don't even know what maturity is, it's unlikely you will
bring it up with your coach, counselor or therapist. In which case, the
helping professional may assume that you don't want it.
Some immature people have told us that they don't
want maturity - they call it boring. Later, they may suffer enormously
after another divorce when their lives just don't make sense. We offer you
many years of experience in helping people create mature, healthy
relationships.
Mature Relationship Skills
Relationship skills form a hierarchy related to
emotional" maturity. If you stop developing - at any age -
then your relationship skills remain stuck at that age. In a crisis,
or generally, you may act like a child. We help people untangle whatever delays
their progress - and catch up on the years in between.
Relationship skills can be fitted into a natural hierarchy ... a hierarchy of
maturity:
Put ELATION into your
RelationSHIPS
We can help
you find relationship solutions - from friendship to dating to marriage;
from making friends to creating community, from joining groups to participation
in focused communities.
As you develop your relationship intelligence, you can change your relationship
habits. Why not change your habits to better express and receive love?
We encourage maturity and passion.
Learn how to change from singles to Soulmates - groups to top teams - and depressed
families to dynamic community members. Our relationship coaching includes
solving problems for partners, friends, teams, parents and communities.
Emotional Maturity
. Meaning of Life
. Referrals
Use your relationship intelligence to identify
relationship dynamics, and understand why people do what they do. Communicate
more effectively to resolve conflict and increase happiness. Use relationship
intelligence to transform your relationships
with family, friends and colleagues as you gain sense of life.
Good intentions are a good start! We can train you to resolve
relationship problems, and to prepare for future challenges. Through our
training we offer you quality relationship coaching skills.
- Find focus as you resolve any current crisis
- Find motivation as you define relationship and life goals
- Find peace as you clarify relationships
- Find congruence as you dissolve
inner conflicts
- Improve relationships as you change
relationship bonds
- Find lost resources as you dissolve
abuse
- Find appropriate mentors and dissolve
mentor damage
- Coach couples and partners as you dissolve
counseling damage
- Coach teams and team leaders - simultaneously
- Coach families - simultaneously
The absence of integrity leads to suffering, loneliness and depression.
Systemic relationship coaching helps people end suffering and take steps towards
the long-term happiness of healthy relationships.
Friendship Skills
Your friends range from casual acquaintance to close companions.
Good friends are life blessings - but good friends are
not luck. Friendship requires skill. Friendship is a contact sport.
We can help you develop and improve your friendship
skills and solve problems with friends, which are pre-requisites for effective teamwork,
happy partnership and parenthood. Many adults were never taught how to be friendly ...
and they may become lonely and depressed. Some important friendship skills are:
- How to offer help
- How to join conversations
- How to give and receive suggestions
- How to show "I'm interested in you" ... appropriately
Our
couple coaching can save you years of trial-and-error and suffering. Good relationship
coaching simultaneously helps you and your partner to build or improve double vision.
We coach couples to evaluate partnership, to resolve relationship
problems, and to prepare for future challenges, while avoiding
codependence.
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You helped us examine the consequences of our beliefs and
assumptions. You helped us tell each other our points of view and our feelings.
Then we could find solutions that were invisible before our sessions.
London, UK
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Our couple coaching helps partners:
- compare and share values
- rebuild a joyous relationship
- change toxic relationship habits
- resolve guilt and the consequences of affairs
- clean up past partnerships and previous romances
- separate peacefully and with dignity, if all hope has faded
Our coaching includes resolving issues of abandonment, betrayal, crisis and trauma.
This may include
Premarital Coaching to prepare for long-term commitment
- or Separation Coaching (see
Partnership Breakdown) -
to peacefully disconnect and rebuild separate lives. Happy partnership is not luck. Partnering demands skills.
Couple Coaching Overview
- Define relationship goals
- Dissolve relationship conflicts
- Compare values and requirements
- Clarify past and present relationships
- Find their own solutions to future problems
- Benefit from individual coaching as required
- Handle external challenges (mothers-in-law, single friends, ...)
Family Skills for Happy Families (Systems 9)
Families are like intimate teams! Families feed and shelter the young and the
old, and provide morals and values that shape individual lives. Family coaching
is integrated throughout our work - even young, single adults have families and
will probably create their own families later.
Our family coaching helps families to resolve internal and external
challenges. Family coaching simultaneously coaches your family members to
resolve challenges in ways that increase family harmony and resourcefulness.
Family members can receive integrity coaching to present their needs
and fears. Each member can be coached to "try" other member's
perspectives. Each member can be coached to examine family conflict as
a mutual problem - and find mutual solutions.
Systemic Family Coaching helps all family members.
Raising children to adulthood demands years of
loving patience and strength. Many parents are not prepared for parenthood -
our
Parent Coaching can help parents who need additional resources. See
Learning Disabilities, Parental Alienation
and Children of Divorce.
Team Skills for Team Spirit (Systems 10: Team
Training)
Our team coaching can helps you work together to achieve goals that
you cannot achieve alone. We coach team members support and protect
each other! We coach team leaders to identify and organize relationship resources,
and get appropriate feedback and information.
Flatter, leaner organizational structures require that managers have more
roles and responsibilities. Senior executives may have few people with whom to
discuss important concerns.
We coach people at all levels. Our team coaching simultaneously coaches all team members
to work together effectively. Team coaching includes coaching the formation of new teams,
maintaining and enhancing teams and training team leaders. We also
assist team members to separate without stress.
Our team coaching has become part of the learning and development for some organizations,
as we help people fulfill their potential and help companies and businesses prosper. Team
leadership builds on team skills - we coach leaders to lead during interactions
with their team members ...
Our Team Coaching includes:
- Define team objectives
- Plan for an unknown future
- Select new team members
- Select and coach team leaders
- Define task content and priorities
- Define team leader's role and tasks
- Define team rules in four categories
- Dissolve hidden agendas and other objections
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