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Chaos, Coaching & Transformation (Part 2)
Solutions from the Edge of Chaos © Martyn Carruthers

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Creative Chaos in Coaching & Therapy (2)

Your life reflects a complex phase space, with vast information enfolded around the organizing principle of your identity. You can change your identity to survive and prosper in complexity and chaos. You can benefit from chaos theories.

Continued from: Creative Chaos in Coaching and Therapy
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On the edge of chaos, when nothing makes sense and everything is possible, miracles can happen. But waiting for a miracle is rarely enough. Survival may require that you transform your identity. Your changed identity would generate new values and beliefs, and support behavior appropriate to survive your changed environment. Martyn Carruthers

Fractal by Martyn Carruthers 2004

Chaos & Consciousness

All systems, even simple systems, become chaotic as they approach their limits. Rocks in a desert erode into unpredictable shapes. Ethics and morals become flexible under stress. Entropy prevails.

Form is emptiness, and the very emptiness is form; emptiness does not differ from form, form does not differ from emptiness; whatever is form, that is emptiness; whatever is emptiness, that is form. The same is true of feelings, perceptions, impulses and consciousness. Buddha - Diamond Sutra

According to the Buddhist Diamond Sutra, you can find chaos in order, and order in chaos, if you use your mind as an organizing principle. The organizing principle we focus on in our changework is integrity - a stable experience of connectedness, integration and purpose - an ongoing experience of self-as-system that need not fade with passing time.

Perhaps integrity can only be given by someone who has it!

When people approach the experience of integrity, not just the descriptions, they often describe a series of non-ordinary realities (we call them ecstatic states) that seem to represent stages of undifferentiated consciousness. These experiences can be characterized as non-linear, self-generating and self-organizing.

(Some people likened these experiences to fractals - computer generated visualizations of mathematical equations; and describe endless complexity within tiny details of experience.)

To doubt everything or to believe everything are two equally convenient solutions;
both dispense with the necessity of reflection.
Henri Poincare

Soul of Soulwork . Psychobiology of Soul . Quantum Thinking

Transforming in Chaos

  1. Recognize your goal or crisis
  2. Evaluate your current reality
  3. Define exactly what you want
  4. Experience your emotions
  5. Examine your limits
  6. Experience your identity
  7. Embrace paradox and confusion
  8. Experience complexity and chaos
  9. Let a renewed identity emerge
  10. Enjoy your renewed consciousness

Bifurcation (Moving fractal)

During our systemic coaching, if you prefer not to suffer, we can help you change the "you" that chose inefficient, self-sabotage or masochistic behavior. (We often call this identity work as much of our systemic coaching helps people change their sense of identity).

Chaos is fundamental to life - and death. Sooner or later life will force you beyond your limits - and you either integrate and transform - or disintegrate and disappear. Each crisis includes opportunities to create an identity better adapted to your changed environment.

If you adapt, you may survive. If you adapt well, you may thrive. If you do not adapt, you may suffer and perhaps die. Within chaos, between sanity and insanity, and beyond sympathy, you can regenerate your identity, beliefs and behavior. Martyn Carruthers

We can help you experience a phase space that contains both chaos and order, in which you can redesign and rebuild your identity - a "new you" - in alignment with your chosen mission or purpose. (This is easier to demonstrate than to describe!) You can literally make up your mind - and recreate yourself out of nothing.

Human Identity is a Process

Native Hawaiians told me that the volcano goddess, Pele, destroys old land to create new land. New governments are often created during crisis and revolution. Order can be renewed in chaos.

Nonlinear Dynamics

We are open systems in constant interaction with our environment. While closed systems can reach equilibrium, open systems allow unpredictable oscillation ... and times of instability. Open systems are organized by attractors, which act as identities within a system.

If, in a complex system, an identity (organizing principle) becomes obsolete, the system degenerates into chaos - unless or until other potential identities emerge. In human systems, different leaders will differently evaluate relationships, find different solutions and differently manage or control behaviors.

If you are afraid to change your beliefs, or if you identify with your beliefs, your beliefs are your limits. If you are comfortable only within your beliefs, you may fear whatever might move you beyond them. But your comfort is temporary. Sooner or later, life will push you into unknown territories.

We cannot defend you against complexity - rather we can help you accelerate and intensify your movement through it. If you recycle your old self (phase transition) - you lose yourself to gain a new sense of life. A new identity (attractor) can coordinate appropriate new values and beliefs. Your new experience of self (identity), can re-organize your relationships within your environment.

During your Soulwork, the world I knew seemed to vanish and reappear with diamond clarity, and I could see and feel that every breath links me to all the people I love ...
and I could experience those links ... I am connected to humanity.

The I of the Cyclone

As tiny changes in initial conditions can lead to enormous differences in effect, creating the seed of a new human identity is a significant event. We often initiate transition with a seed question, "What do you want?". Exploring your answers can lead, step by step, to your core desires ... to your life goals ... to your sense of mission. Then transformation makes sense and fulfillment is worth any effort. If you have a mission worth fulfilling, you will find ways to take the next step.

I created a few fractals to illustrate the manifestation of strange attractors within complex environments. Your human identity can organize a near-infinite number of potential behaviors, which can unfold following the patterns set by your values and beliefs.

Your identity organizes your behavior within your environment. If your behavior or your environment reaches a limit, you can regenerate your identity or you can suffer the consequences, which include disease, depression, anxiety or rage ... or sometimes the end of identity - destruction or suicide.

We help people solve the consequences of clinging to old beliefs, which include:

  • Depression: You retreat from a lifestyle that lacks sense
  • Lost Identity: You lose access to an identity or sense of self
  • Relationship Bond: You identify with other people's limiting beliefs
  • Emotional Stress: You experience overwhelming anger, sadness and fear
  • Identification: You identify with another person's emotions or sense of life
  • Identity Conflict: You embody a conflict between two or more other persons
  • Age Regression: You demand that the world follow your (childish) expectations
  • Relationship Chaos: You develop destructive relationship and communication habits
  • Addictions, Compulsions & Obsessions: You attempt to distract yourself from reality

We can guide you through and past these traps. As with a super-saturated solution, a seed crystal of your congruent desire provides a nucleus for a new core identity - a new organizing principle for life that you automatically express in your thoughts, beliefs and actions.

If you rebuild your identity while focused on a well-formed outcome, a congruent life goal, your new identity will automatically focus your behavior on your chosen mission. See Quantum Thinking.

"At one point in your coaching, I experienced confusion and disorientation; my sense of "me" was like sugar dissolved in water. I was totally "here and now", feeling connected to all people. I experienced an almost unbearable sense of potential in which everything, absolutely everything, was possible. I felt like I was assisting my own birth." Boston

Fractal by Martyn Carruthers, 2004

Perceiving people as complex systems can complement classical,
pre-systemic notions of perceiving people as statistical data.

Altered States

As tiny differences in initial conditions can make huge differences in the subsequent behavior of a system, we coach people to focus on positive, congruent goals. Focusing on conflicting goals can produce more than one attractor (resulting in identity conflict). Focusing on somebody else's goal can produce an attractor based on a role model (resulting in identification). Focusing on a negative goal (E.g. "I don't want ...") may not form an attractor (resulting in identity loss).

This journey can lead people to a sense of connectedness and integration, to the Soul of Soulwork. You are not separate from the universe, you are part of all-that-is. You reflect the whole and you can feel connected with the whole. Many people describe these experiences as transcendental.

You can make space for a new identity, and for new life patterns that support your chosen mission.

During a phase transition, our chaos coaching can manifest or rebuild a new core identity. After this timeless moment, you may perceive your old beliefs as strange ideas. You can create new ways to interact with your environment, in alignment with the crystalline seed of your new identity - which is your congruent purpose or mission. The patterns set by your new identity will spontaneously appear throughout your behavior.

Fractal by Martyn Carruthers, 2003

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Chaotic References

Abraham & Gilgen. (1995). Chaos Theory in Psychology. Westport USA: Greenwood.
Barnsley (1988). Fractal modeling of real world images. Peitgen and Saupe (Eds.), Science of Fractal Images. New York: Spinger-Verlag.
Bütz (1992). The Fractal nature of the Development of the Self.
Psychological Reports, 71
Elka, Goldbeter and Goldbeter-Merinfeld (1987). Analysis of the dynamics of a family system in terms of bifurcations. Journal of Social and Biological Structures, 10.
Gampel (1991). Fractal selves, the fragility of relationships, and chaos theory. Presented at the Conference for the Society for Chaos Theory in Psychology
Goerner (1994). Chaos and the evolving ecological universe: A study in the science and human implications of a new world hypothesis. New York: Gordon & Breach.
Lewin (1951). Field Theory in Social Science. New York: Harper & Row.
Loye (1983). The Sphinx and the Rainbow: Brain, Mind and Future Vision. Shambala.
Mandell (1980). Toward a psychobiology of transcendence: God in the brain. Davidson and Davidson, The psychobiology of consciousness. New York: Plenum.
Prigogine and Stengers (1984). Order out of Chaos. New York: Bantam.
Rossi (1989). Archetypes as strange attractors.
Psychological Perspectives, 20
Schwalbe (1991). The Autogenesis of the Self. Journal for the Theory of Social Behavior
Swinney (1991). Chaos Consciousness in Psychotherapy. Presented at Conference for the Society for Chaos Theory in Psychology, San Francisco

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