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Emotional Incest - A True Story

Many teenage girls suffer the consequences of a father-daughter-mother triangle in which the father's over-expressed love for the daughter motivates the mother to reject both daughter and father. They are often survivors of covert emotional incest - adult children of parents who loved their children inappropriately. See Daddy's Princess and Mother's Little Prince.

This is a true story - these excerpts of conversations are mildly edited and posted with permission.

Troubled Teenagers & Silent Screams

Teenage girls who feel rejected by their mothers react in many predictable ways. In our experience, these girls often ...

• dye their hair in multiple colors
• take prescription anti-depressants
• are very thin - sometimes anorexic
• use or have used illegal drugs heavily
• have cuts or cigarette burns on their arms
• have self-inflicted piercing with unusual studs
• prefer garish make-up - often shades of purple
• have red or white scars on their wrists and forearms

Although we find that depression usually reflects relationship issues, a common solution for depression is medication. The more expensive anti-depressants are SSRI - selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors such as Zoloft, Prozac or Paxil. These drugs increase serotonin in the brain. But if depression is reflecting relationship problems, then drugs, legal or illegal, are unlikely to heal relationships.

Many older, cheaper anti-depressants are MAOI (MonoAmine Oxidase Inhibitors), with worse side effects. MAO inhibitors such as Nardil, Parnate and Marplan may be prescribed when other drugs fail. For side effects of MAOI anti-depressants ... visit Side Effects of MAOI.

Ritalin, an amphetamine, is a drug of choice for hyperactivity and attention deficit disorders. Side effects associated with Ritalin include irritability, anger and loss of appetite.

Many depressed survivors of emotional incest medicate themselves with alcohol, nicotine and illegal drugs. You may despise these people as addicts ... unless you hear their silent screams for help.

Attachment Disorders & Relationship Bonds

Covert emotional incest can generate limiting beliefs and behaviors that can affect all aspects of life. We offer coaching solutions for:

• Behaviors: defiant, impulsive, destructive, lies and steals, aggressive and abusive, hyperactive, self-destructive, cruel, irresponsible
• Emotions: intense anger, sadness, depressed, hopeless, moody, anxious, irritable
• Thoughts: limiting beliefs, poor friendship skills, attention and learning problems
• Relationships: no trust, controlling, manipulative, unstable relationships, victimizer
• Physical: poor hygiene, accidents, dissociated, depressed, hyperactive
• Moral/Spiritual: lack of compassion, remorse, meaning, identifies with darkness

Medication is a common way to manage (but not cure) these symptoms. Medication is not the only way to manage symptoms - but may it may be the easiest way and is most often recommended by medical authorities.

Teenage Sex

Sexual intercourse with many partners increases the risk of pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and damaged reproductive health. Studies show that girls who start having sex at young ages often have many sexual partners. Also, teenage girls who have sex with more than one partner over a few weeks are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, use illegal drugs and / or sniff glue.

These behaviors are likely to hurt a girl's health, education, sport abilities, future partnership and / or future children, unless the underlying emotions are assimilated and any trauma or abuse dissolved.

Medication is not the only way. We help people resolve complex relationship problems ,although few people who have not witnessed our work can imagine that fast, effective solutions are possible.

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