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Solutions for Mid-Life Crisis
by Martyn Carruthers

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If you've suffered enough, there are solutions! You don't have to suffer the consequences of middle age anymore. You can still have wonderful relationships, and fulfill your goals. You need not feel alone.

Systemic Solutions for Middle Age Crisis

Have you reached a phase of your life where you merely exist, without peace or joy? Has your life become a series of habits and compulsions, perhaps centred on TV or alcohol? Have you dedicated your life to your family and career, yet cannot you enjoy peace, professional expertise or quality relationships? Please consider these questions:

1. Do you lack clarity?
2. Do you feel ineffective?
3. Are you unhappy with your life?
4. Do you long for more adventure?
5. Do you lack creativity or enthusiasm?
6. Are you confused about your life goals?

If you find yourself saying "Yes!", you may be experiencing what some people call a mid-life crisis - a growing dissatisfaction with your life direction and achievements. These feelings often occur during middle age. Most people try to deal with this by themselves ... and most people fail.

If you feel dissatisfied, confused and discontent, we can coach you to create new possibilities for your future. We can support you in many ways - to help you make your life more worthwhile.

Winter of our Discontent

There are many reasons for confusion and discontent during middle-age. Some are:

1. Your life consists of routines that you do not enjoy.
2. You realize that the end of your life is approaching quickly.
3. The distractions that you liked when you were younger no longer work.
4. You cannot answer questions such as. "What is my life for? What is my legacy?"

You can improve your life! We can coach you to solve relationship problems and to end unhappy behavior. We can help people you dissolve entanglements with problematic people and your ancestor's weaknesses. We take time to understand you, to help you find your emotional freedom and sense of life. Get the coaching that you deserve - from experienced systemic coaches.

You can control your problems and build a happier life. Email us for systemic telephone coaching, or browse our site to see if you want to work with us. We can be there for you every step of your way.

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Mid-Life Crisis Coaching

Have you given up on your dreams? Did you try to do everything by yourself? Do you get support from your family, friends and colleagues? You can supplement your life with our telephone coaching.

1. Know your priorities so that you keep your life in balance.
2. Know your life goals. Build a vision for what you want in your life.
3. Know what makes you happy. Assess your values, strengths, and beliefs.
4. Know how well balanced your life is. Assess your fulfillment and satisfaction.
5. Create and implement a workable plan that will get you where you want to be.

Are you starting life again in middle age? Do you have good ideas, but you procrastinate or sabotage yourself? Would you like us to help you set new goals and make them come true? We can coach you to keep your goals and plans alive ... and to achieve them.

From Midlife Crisis to Peaceful Maturity

What do you really want? And what do you need to get what you want? Here are some questions to help you get ready for our coaching:

1. Midlife Relationships and Dating

1. Which of your relationships are helpful and supportive?
2. Which of your relationships are not supportive?
3. Do you stay in unhealthy relationships?
4. Do you want intimate partnership?
5. Do you want to create a new partnership?
6. Do you want to improve your present partnership?
7. What stops you improving or changing your relationships?

2. Resolve Midlife Emotional Complaints

• Sadness; sad; loneliness; frequent crying; mood swings; irritability; feelings of helplessness and/or hopelessness; lack of interest in most activities; low-self-esteem; thoughts about suicide.
• Fear: anxiety and/or nervousness; panic attacks; fears and/or phobias; social fears, shyness.
• Anger: aggression, rage, frustration, irritation, suspicion, paranoia
• Identity Loss: dissociated; hidden or missing qualities; forgotten skills

3. Resolve Midlife Behavioral Complaints

Withdrawal and/or isolation; lack of assertiveness; perfectionism; hyperactivity; irritability; aggressive behavior; self-harming behavior.

4. Resolve Midlife Cognitive Complaints

Difficulty remembering; difficulty concentrating; disorientation and/or confusion; excessive fantasy and/or daydreaming; preoccupation; racing thoughts; hallucinations (voices/visions).

5. Resolve Midlife Environmental Complaints

Your living situation; your education; work; family; history of mental illness; history of operations and/or illness; alcohol and/or drug use; past or current physical, emotional or sexual abuse.

6. Resolve Midlife Relationship Complaints

You can plan this next phase of your midlife or retirement. What improves your life quality and lasting happiness? What increases and diminishes your pleasure of living?

•  Explore the consequences of your choices
•  Know your values and then choose your vision
•  Define specific, attainable goals that lead towards your vision

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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.