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You don't have to suffer the consequences of middle
age anymore.
You can still have wonderful relationships, and fulfill
your goals.
Systemic Solutions for Middle Age Crisis
Midlife is a time of achievement and satisfaction
for many adults. Retirement is on the horizon, and getting closer. The children
are growing up, and some of the children may be parents themselves. And for some
people, this part of life's journey can be a time of disillusionment and
despair.
A midlife crisis may be intensified by the
empty nest syndrome, which refers to the loneliness that parents may
feel when the last or only child leaves home, or with the marriage of the
youngest or only child. The role of being parent is nearly over, and the
role of grand-parent hasn't yet arrived.
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Parents and adult children who are
bonded to each other may carry emotional
burdens. Common consequences are that an adult child feels compelled to find and
marry someone who is like an opposite-sex parent, or is unable to commit to
partnership. |
Have you reached a phase of your life
where you merely exist, without peace or joy? Has your life become a
series of habits and compulsions, perhaps centered around TV or meetings that
you don't enjoy?
Have you dedicated your life to your family and career, yet now you cannot
enjoy peace, professional expertise or quality relationships? Please
consider these questions:
- Do you lack clarity?
- Do you feel ineffective?
- Are you unhappy with your life?
- Do you long for more adventure?
- Do you lack creativity or enthusiasm?
- Are you confused about your life goals?
If you find yourself saying "Yes!",
you may be experiencing what some people call a mid-life crisis -
a growing dissatisfaction with your life direction and achievements
that often occurs during middle age. Most people try to deal with
these feelings by themselves ... and many people get lost in them.
If you feel dissatisfied, confused and discontent, we
can coach you to create new possibilities for your future. We can support you
in many ways - to help you make your life more worthwhile.
Winter of our Discontent
Western cultures tend to celebrate youth - which may in part
explain the popularity of the midlife crisis concept in Europe and
America, which is not so prevalent in Asia and Africa. But, cultural or not, there are many reasons for
adults feeling confused and
discontent during middle-age. Some are:
- You realize that the end of your life is approaching.
- Your life has become a set of routines that you do not enjoy.
- The distractions that you liked when you
were younger no longer work.
- You cannot answer questions such as,
"What is my life for? What is my legacy?"
You can improve your life! We help motivated adults solve
relationship problems and end unwanted habits. We help people
dissolve entanglements with problematic people and ancestor's
weaknesses. We can take time to understand you, and help you find your emotional
freedom and sense of life.
You can change your habits and build a happier life. Email us
about telephone and Skype coaching, or browse our site to see
if you want to work with us. We can be there for you every step of your way.
Are you curious? Read
our FAQ for insights.
Mid-Life Crisis Coaching
Have you given up on your dreams? Did you try to do
everything by yourself? Do you get support from your family, friends and
colleagues? Do you feel alone?
- Know your priorities so that you keep your
life in balance.
- Know your life goals. Build a vision for
what you want in your life.
- Know what makes you happy. Assess your
values, strengths, and beliefs.
- Know how well balanced your life is. Assess
your fulfillment and satisfaction.
- Create and implement a workable plan that
will get you to where you want to be.
Are you starting life again in middle age? Do you have
good ideas, but you procrastinate or sabotage yourself? Would you like
us to help you set new goals and make them come true? We can help you
keep your goals and plans alive ... and to achieve them.
From Midlife Crisis to Peaceful Maturity
A Midlife Crisis is often a period of
dramatic self-doubt during the "middle years" or middle age of life. It may
occur as people sense the passing of their youthful energy and strength and
realize the imminence of old age. During this period, middle aged adults may
become predictably unpredictable.
Suddenly there may be a need to make significant
changes in everyday life, such as a career change, a marriage change, expensive
purchases (a sports car, perhaps), or in physical appearance. There may be a
sudden huge desire for an intimate or sexual affair.
What do you really want? And what do you need to get
what you want? Here are some questions to help you get prepare for and resolve a
middle-life crisis:
1. Midlife Relationships and Dating
- Which of your relationships are helpful
and supportive?
- Which of your relationships are not
supportive?
- Do you stay in unhealthy relationships?
- Do you want intimate partnership?
- Do you want to create a new partnership?
- Do you want to improve your present partnership?
- What stops you improving or changing your
relationships?
- Family
- Friends
- Colleagues
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- Partner / Past Partners
- Children / Grandchildren
- Community
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2. Resolve Midlife Emotional Complaints
Some useful questions during a midlife crisis are:
- Do you daydream about sexual encounters?
- Do you desperately search for undefined dreams?
- Do you feel deep remorse for missed opportunities?
- Do you dwell on how you would live your life over again?
The emotions often associated with a midlife crisis are:
- Sadness; sad; loneliness; frequent crying;
mood swings; irritability; feelings of helplessness and/or hopelessness;
lack of interest in most activities; low-self-esteem; thoughts about
suicide.
- Fear: anxiety and/or nervousness;
panic attacks; fears and/or phobias; social fears, shyness.
- Anger: aggression, rage, frustration,
irritation, suspicion, paranoia
- Identity Loss: dissociated; hidden or
missing qualities; forgotten skills
3. Resolve Midlife Behavioral Complaints
Withdrawal and/or isolation; lack of assertiveness;
perfectionism; hyperactivity; irritability; aggressive behavior;
self-harming behavior.
4. Resolve Midlife Cognitive Complaints
Difficulty remembering; difficulty concentrating;
disorientation and/or confusion; excessive fantasy and/or daydreaming;
preoccupation; racing thoughts; hallucinations (voices/visions).
5. Resolve Midlife Environmental Complaints
Your living situation; your education; work; family;
history of mental illness; history of operations and/or illness;
alcohol and/or drug use; past or current physical, emotional or sexual abuse.
6. Resolve Midlife Relationship Complaints
You can plan this next phase of your midlife or retirement.
What improves your life quality and lasting happiness? What increases and
diminishes your pleasure of living?
- Explore the consequences of your choices
- Know your values and then choose your vision
- Define specific, attainable goals that lead towards
your vision
We help motivated adults prepare for and survive this
emotional and often depressing experience.
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