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Do you want Healthy Relationships?
In our Systemic Coaching, healthy relationships
can be defined as as those in which the rights of each individual are
valued and appropriately respected.
Most healthy relationships are based on appropriate
respect, sharing and trust. People accept each share power, control and
decisions appropriate to the context. (In this context, a child is not equal to
a parent, nor an employee to an employer, although their views are important).
Some characteristics of healthy relationships are:
- Acceptance - listening, valuing each other's opinions and
beliefs, and attempting to understand the other's perceptions, logic and emotions.
- Accountability - acknowledging past abandonment,
betrayal or abuse, and accepting
responsibility for one's actions or lack of action.
- Fairness - willing to compromise, accept change,
and seek mutual solutions to conflict.
- Gratitude - being thankful for the blessings and life-lessons learned
- Honesty - communicate openly and truthfully, admitting mistakes
- Peaceful - talk and act in ways that both can feel comfortable and safe
in discussing values, beliefs and behavior.
- Responsibility - decisions on distribution of work
and completion of tasks.
- Support - know and support each other's goals, and respect
each person's right to feelings, opinions, friends, activities and interests.
Unhealthy Relationships
Relationships without clear boundaries may be codependent.
Popular Western culture defines romantic love, in songs, television and
movies, as relationships in which the partners are inseparable, are lost without
each other, and in which each partner only derives a sense of life
in the presence of the other.
Relationship Types
Each relationship type has different conditions for
health that are subject to laws, cultural traditions and
family habits. See also Relationship Yoga
- Early Family - learning about life and preparing
for adulthood
- Friendship - enjoying life together
- Teamwork - joint effort to fulfill team goals
- Partnership - making important decisions together; ensuring that
both partners benefit
- Parenthood - sharing parental responsibilities
and being good role models
- Community - living together in harmony
- Humanity - appreciating diversity
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Love or Addiction?
Addictions show need - not love.
These differences between healthy love and addictive love may help you recognize genuine love.
- Healthy love develops after you feel secure. Addictive love tries to create
bonds when you feel frightened and insecure.
- Healthy love is part of being alive. Addictive love is
frozen. You think you can separate love from people.
- Healthy love is unique. There are no ideal lovers.
Addictive love is stereotyped.
- Healthy love is gentle and comfortable. Addictive love is
tense and combative.
- Healthy love encourages you to be yourself, to be honest
about who you are. Addictive love encourages secrets. You only want to look good.
- Healthy love is accepting the partner you have. Addictive love
looks for more or better.
- Healthy love is based on your desire to be with a person.
Addictive love is based on NEED.
- Healthy love is making yourself happy.
Addictive love requires someone else to make you happy.
- Healthy love creates life and joy. Addictive love
creates melodrama and suffering.
Where are your Boundaries?
| Boundaries are important
in determining the health of a relationship. Boundaries clarify where
you stop and where I begin, which problems belong to you and which
belong to me ... Just as homeowners set physical property lines
around their land, we need mental, physical,
emotional, and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguish
what is our responsibility and what is not. ... Dr. Henry Cloud |
Boundaries are about physical proximity,
touch, acceptable words, honesty and intimacy. If you cannot set appropriate
boundaries, you and others may suffer. When is the right time to change this?
Relationship Coaching ...
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