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Overview of Systemic Coach Training

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Our coach training can develop your skills in observation, planning, assessing and implementing coaching with individuals, couples, families and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing complexity, that follow the sequence of practical systemic coaching. Here's the exam.

Systems 1: Relationship Entanglements & Systemic Diagnosis

if you ask people, "What do you want?", many people cannot answer clearly. Many people are so entangled in relationships that they cannot focus on personal goals. In this first segment of systemic coach training you can learn how to recognize many types of relationship entanglements and how to start clarifying those entanglements.

After clarification, most people can better discuss their goals, and plans for achieving their goals. For some people, this is all the systemic coaching they need to move ahead in their lives. For others, systemic diagnosis provides a summary of which relationships need what sort of attention, which forms a basis for a relationship coaching plan. And for a few, systemic diagnosis can show that you would be wise to refer them to other professionals.

On Systems 1 coach training, you observe many demonstrations with real relationship issues, and you can practice with other participants to build your experience:

  • Relationships and systems theories
  • How to stay resourceful in chaotic relationships
  • How to recognize emotional incest and codependence
  • How success, health and relationships are interconnected
  • How to select exercise partners for homework assignments
  • How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
  • How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)
  • How to recognize relationship transferences and entanglements
  • How to quickly assess relationship health and relationship habits
  • How to use relationship diagnosis to create relationship coaching plans
  • How to identify which clients are unlikely to benefit from systemic coaching
  • How to coach people to clarify relationships with living, missing and dead people
  • How to dissolve entanglements and heal relationships with parents, partners and children

Systems 2: Goalwork, Goal Diagnosis & Objections

Few people know exactly what they want. People more often know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have some abstraction as a goal. Many people have verbal and nonverbal objections to their own goals, and often describe conflict about the achievement and consequences of their goals.

If coaching is to be truly goal-directed, then you need some way of coaching people to specify congruent (supported by unconscious non-verbal communication) goals.

Systems 2 coach training offers you proven ways to coach people to use both conscious and unconscious resources to make effective plans for achieving congruent goals. You can observe many demonstrations concerning problematic goals, and you can practice with other participants to develop your skills:

  • How to ask goalwork questions
  • How to respond to philosophical goals
  • How to respond to negative goals
  • How to respond to conflicting goals
  • How to respond to manipulative goals
  • How to respond to abstract goals
  • How to respond to untimed goals
  • How to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections.
  • How to respond to spontaneous trance during goalwork
  • How to recognize identity loss (lost identity, identifications and identity conflict)
  • How to recognize relationship bonds
  • How to dissolve "Yes-No" objections (simultaneous incongruence)
  • How to dissolve "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation
  • How to build harmony with "inner critics" (self-criticism)
  • How to deal with criticism
  • How to deal with compliments and flattery

Systems 3: Trance, Dreamwork & Integrity

Many people interrupt their coaching plan with descriptions of vivid or recurring dreams. Other people may be unable to answer questions about life goals without going into trance-like states. (In systemic coaching we don't use trance inductions ... we don't have to).

Hence Systems 3 coach training explores how to find life goals and how to continue goalwork in dreams and in trance. You will observe many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with other participants to build your experience:

  • How and when to use mini-metaphors
  • How to recognize and respond to spontaneous trance
  • How to change reality using isomorphic metaphors
  • How to start and continue interactive metaphors (Dreamwork)
  • How to create isomorphic interactive metaphors to identify goals and blocks
  • How to coach people to end nightmares or recurring bad dreams
  • How to commence and use goalwalks
  • How to recognize major identity loss
  • How to recognize identifications
  • How to recognize identity conflict (complex conflict)
  • How to recognize relationship bonds
  • How to recognize ecstatic and transcendental states of consciousness
  • How to coach a person to experience integrity (the Soul of Soulwork)
  • How to stabilize integrity as a basis for dissolving emotional incest, bonds and trauma.

Systems 4: Abuse, Trauma & Motivation

Many people who cannot define or achieve their goals are blocked by unresolved and often forgotten trauma. Until these issues are resolved, these people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They will likely sabotage themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail
 
The consequences of trauma and PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of life). Trauma may create relationship bonds (see Systems 5) or identity issues (see Systems 6). Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving identity issues and relationship bonds may  only provide short-term benefits - at best. Our coach training provides effective skills.
  • The stages of a crisis
  • How to recognize the consequences of abuse, crisis and emotional trauma
  • How to coach people  to make friends with parts of themselves that they don't like
  • How to help people recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
  • How to transform unpleasant emotions into motivation
  • How to dissolve trauma about disease and health issues
  • How to prepare for future unpleasant events

Systems 4 was another fine piece of the complex and comprehensive system of your coach training. I hope that Soulwork develops and spreads, so that it can help people to fulfill their lives. Professor Martin Šmid, (PhD, Prague, Czech Republic)


Systems 5: Relationship Bonds

Many people feel compelled to repeat actions that they would prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect relationship bonds - deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. In Soulwork 5 you can explore the systemic structure of compulsions and obsessions as you learn how to end relationship damage and help people improve their lives.
 
In our early training we called these bonds thoughtforms. (Relationship bonds may be called demons by esoteric, archaic and medieval authorities.)
 
In Systems 5 systemic coach training you can learn:
  • How to recognize relationship bonds
  • How to differentiate between the isomorphic descriptions of relationship bonds
  • How to coach people to identify the consequences of bonded relationships
  • How to limit the consequences of relationship bonds
  • How to replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love

Toxic relationship bonds loss may be diagnosed as mental disorders. After relationship bonds are dissolved, our systemic coaching addresses issues of identity Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements that cause emotional and relationship problems.

Systems 5 was fantastic! I didn't believe that relationship bonds were real until I found and replaced some of my own bonds during this excellent training. Please make these coaching skills available to other professionals. Academy Director, Croatia


Systems 6: Identity Loss: Lost Identity, Identifications & Identity Conflict

If people have existential (all life) blocks against long-term happiness; then endless encouragement or goal coaching cannot help them fulfill meaningful goals. This coach training segment is about people who have lost themselves (identity loss), who have identified with others (identification) or who have complex conflict (identity conflict).

Systemic disturbances may be contextual (triggered by some internal or external event) or existential (all of life). Identity loss is associated with subtle or overwhelming emotions, or the lack of emotions. These disturbances are usually formed during a family crisis or period of relationship chaos during childhood, although the consequences may remain dormant until adolescence.

In Systems 6 coach training you can learn how to explore the varieties of identity loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic coaching and interactive metaphors. You will observe many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with others to build your experience:
  • How to coach people to recover Lost Identity (chronic dissociation)
  • How to coach people to end Dead Person Identification (chronic sadness or melancholy)
  • How to coach people to end Victim Identification (chronic anger or rage)
  • How to coach people to end Hero Identification (chronic fear or anxiety)
  • How to coach people to end complex conflict (cannot be resolved by sequencing goals)

  • How to coach people to end Identity Conflict (chronic conflict)

Extreme identity loss may be diagnosed as mental disorders. After identity loss is resolved, we address relationship bonds and then emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements that cause many emotional and relationship problems. We estimate that about 20% - 25% of Europeans and Americans suffer from chronic identity loss.

Many issues of Identity Loss covered in Systems 6 coach training can be considered as an extreme form of relationship bonds. Other forms of relationship bonds are covered in Systems 5 coach training.


Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship

You can learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors. Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving techniques. Learn how to coach people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.

Systems 7 includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see Exit Coaching), incompetent therapists and (often) well-meaning authorities.

  • How to recognize therapy damage and coach people to dissolve it
  • How to expert modeling of conscious and unconscious strategies
  • How to compare and fine tune unconscious strategies
  • How to discuss solutions for sexual issues
  • How to start a systemic coaching practice

Systems 8: Couple Coaching

As the consequences of even the best individual coaching can disturb a partner, couple coaching is a wonderful way to complete a systemic coaching program.

You can coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from solving their problems. Coach partners to coach each other! You can coach couples to increase love and resolve complaints. You can help couples dissolve single and double transferences (mistaking each other for someone else) and projections (pretending to be someone else).

Coach couples to prepare for committed partnership, end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully. Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching is the start of true systemic coaching.

Systems 8 coach training includes:

  • How to prepare for couple coaching
  • How to avoid triangulation
  • How to quickly uncover core couple partnership issues
  • How to build and maintain trust with both partners
  • How and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
  • How to resolve transferences and core transference loops
  • How to coach people through peaceful separation or divorce
  • How to set homework for couples

Your Next Step . Systems 9 - Family Coaching . Systems 10 - Team Coaching

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Hawaii, USA: Dragonfly, PO Box 675, Honaunau, Hawaii, 96726 USA
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Training

1. Where are you now? Assess relationship bonds and entanglements Systems 1
2. What are your life goals?  Identify your life goals ... and what blocks you Systems 2
3. How to reach your goals?  Use your conscious and unconscious resources Systems 3
4. What stops you?  Dissolve abuse and trauma to rebuild motivation Systems 4
5. What else stops you? Change your limiting beliefs to end dependence Systems 5
6. What else stops you? Resolve identity loss to recover qualities and skills Systems 6
7. What else stops you? Heal mentor damage and find quality mentorship Systems 7
8. What about your partnership? Build happy partnership (or separate peacefully) Systems 8
9. What about your children? We coach parents to resolve family problems Systems 9
10. What about your success? We coach team leaders and teams ... together Systems 10
11. What about your community? We coach community leaders and communities Systems 11
12. What about complex goals? Specialty coaching & training for unusual goals Specialty

Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We help people define and achieve goals, resolve emotional blocks and improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. Plagiarism is theft ... get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.