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Systemic coach training can develop
your skills in observation, planning,
assessing and implementing systemic coaching with individuals, couples,
families and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing
complexity, that follow the sequence of practical systemic coaching. Here's the
exam.
if you ask people, "What do you want?", many people
cannot answer clearly. Many people are so entangled in relationships
that they cannot focus on personal goals. In this first segment of systemic
coach training you can learn how to recognize many types of relationship
entanglements and how to start clarifying those entanglements.
After clarification, most people can better discuss their
goals, and plans for achieving their goals. For some people, this is all the systemic
coaching they need to move ahead in their lives. For others, systemic diagnosis
provides a summary of which relationships need what sort of attention, which
forms a basis for a relationship coaching plan. And for a few, systemic
diagnosis can show that you would be wise to refer them to other professionals.
On Systems 1 coach training, you observe many
demonstrations with real relationship issues, and you can practice with other
participants to build your experience:
- Relationships and systems theories
- How to stay resourceful amidst chaotic relationships
- How to recognize
emotional incest and
codependence
- How success, health and relationships are interconnected
- How to select exercise partners for homework assignments
- How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
- How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)
- How to recognize relationship transferences and
entanglements
- How to quickly assess relationship health and
relationship habits
- How to use relationship diagnosis to create a
relationship coaching plan
- How to identify which clients are unlikely to benefit from
systemic coaching.
- How to coach people to clarify relationships with living,
missing and dead people
- How to
dissolve entanglements
and damaged relationships with parents, partners and children
Few people know exactly what they want.
People more often know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have
some abstraction as a goal. Many people have verbal and nonverbal objections to their own goals,
and often describe conflict about the achievement and consequences of their goals.
If coaching is to be truly goal-directed, then you need some
way of coaching people to specify congruent (supported by
unconscious non-verbal communication) goals.
Systems 2 coach training offers you proven ways to coach people to
use both conscious and unconscious
resources to make effective plans for achieving congruent goals. You can observe many
demonstrations concerning problematic goals, and you can practice with other participants
to develop your skills:
- How to ask goalwork questions
- How to respond to philosophical goals
- How to respond to negative goals
- How to respond to conflicting goals
- How to respond to manipulative goals
- How to respond to abstract goals
- How to respond to untimed goals
- How to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections.
- How to respond to spontaneous trance during goalwork
- How to recognize identity loss (lost identity, identifications and
identity conflict)
- How to recognize relationship bonds
- How to dissolve "Yes-No" objections (simultaneous incongruence)
- How to dissolve "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation
- How to build harmony with "inner critics" (self-criticism)
- How to deal with criticism
- How to deal with compliments and flattery
Many people interrupt their coaching plan with descriptions of
vivid or recurring dreams. Other people may be unable to answer questions about
life goals without going into trance-like states. (In systemic coaching we don't use
trance inductions ... we don't have to).
Hence Systems 3 coach training explores how to find life
goals and how to
continue goalwork in dreams and in trance. You will observe many
demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with other participants to
build your experience:
- How and when to use mini-metaphors
- How to recognize and respond to spontaneous trance
- How to change reality using isomorphic metaphors
- How to start and continue interactive metaphors
(Dreamwork)
- How to create isomorphic interactive metaphors to identify goals and blocks
- How to coach people to end nightmares or recurring bad dreams
- How to commence and use goalwalks
- How to recognize major identity loss
- How to recognize identifications
- How to recognize identity conflict (complex conflict)
- How to recognize relationship bonds
- How to recognize ecstatic and transcendental states of consciousness
- How to coach a person to experience integrity (the Soul of Soulwork)
- How to stabilize integrity as a basis for dissolving
emotional incest,
bonds and
trauma.
Systems 4: Abuse, Trauma &
Motivation
Many people who cannot achieve their goals carry unresolved and often
forgotten trauma. Until these trauma are resolved, these people may act
childishly in situations requiring maturity. They will likely sabotage
themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail
The consequences of trauma and
PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of
life). Trauma may create the identity issues (see
Systems 6) and
relationship bonds (see Systems 5).
Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving
identity issues and relationship bonds provide only short-term
benefits at best. Our coach training provides effective skills.
- The stages of a crisis
- How to recognize the consequences of abuse, crisis and emotional trauma
- How to coach people to make friends with parts of themselves that
they don't like
- How to help people recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
- How to transform unpleasant emotions into motivation
- How to dissolve trauma about disease and health issues
- How to prepare for future unpleasant events
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Systems 4 was another fine piece of the complex and
comprehensive system of your coach training. I hope that Soulwork
develops and spreads, so that it can help people to fulfill their lives.
Professor Martin mid, (PhD, Prague, Czech Republic)
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Many people feel compelled to repeat actions that they would
prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect
relationship bonds
- deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. In Soulwork 5 you can explore
the systemic structure of compulsions and obsessions as you learn
how to end relationship damage and help people improve their lives.
In early systems training we called these bonds
thoughtforms. Relationship
bonds may be called demons by esoteric, archaic and medieval authorities.
In Systems 5 systemic coach
training you can learn:
- How to recognize seven types of relationship bonds
- How to differentiate between the isomorphic descriptions of relationship
bonds
- How to coach people to identify the consequences of bonded relationships
- How to limit the consequences of relationship bonds
- How to replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love
Toxic relationship bonds loss may be diagnosed as mental
disorders. After relationship bonds are dissolved, our systemic coaching addresses
issues of identity Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements
that cause emotional and relationship problems.
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Systems 5 was fantastic! I didn't believe that
relationship bonds were real until I
found and dissolved some of my own during this excellent training. Please make
these coaching skills available to other professionals. Academy Director, Croatia
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Systems 6: Identity Loss: Lost Identity,
Identifications & Identity Conflict
If people have existential (all life) blocks against
long-term happiness; then endless encouragement or goal coaching cannot
help them fulfill meaningful goals. This
coach training segment is about
people who have lost themselves (identity
loss), who have identified with others
(identification) or who have
complex conflict (identity conflict).
Systemic disturbances may be contextual (triggered by
some internal or external event) or existential (all of life). Identity
loss is
associated with subtle or overwhelming emotions, or the lack of emotions. These
disturbances
are usually formed during a family crisis or period of relationship chaos during childhood,
although the consequences may remain dormant until adolescence.
In Systems 6
coach training you can
learn how to explore the varieties of identity
loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic
coaching and interactive metaphors. You will observe many
demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice with others to
build your experience:
- How to coach people to recover Lost Identity (endless dissociation)
- How to coach people to end Dead Person Identification (endless sadness or melancholy)
- How to coach people to end Victim Identification (endless anger or rage)
- How to coach people to end Hero Identification (endless fear or anxiety)
- How to coach people to end complex conflict (cannot be resolved by sequencing goals)
- How to coach people to end Identity Conflict (endless conflict)
Extreme identity loss may be diagnosed as mental
disorders. After identity loss is resolved, we address
relationship bonds and then emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5
and 6, offer complete coaching for relationship entanglements
that cause many emotional and relationship problems. We estimate that about 20%
- 25% of Europeans and Americans suffer from chronic identity loss.
Many issues of Identity Loss covered in Systems 6
coach training can be considered as an extreme form of relationship
bonds. Other forms of relationship bonds are covered in Systems 5 coach training.
Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship
You can learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors.
Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn
how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving
techniques. Learn how to coach people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.
Systems 7 includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate
mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see
Exit Coaching), incompetent
therapists and (often) well-meaning authorities.
- How to recognize therapy damage
and coach people to dissolve it
- How to expert modeling of conscious and unconscious strategies
- How to compare and fine tune unconscious strategies
- How to discuss solutions for sexual issues
- How to start a Soulwork systemic coaching practice
As the consequences of even the best individual coaching can disturb a partner,
couple coaching is a wonderful way to complete a systemic coaching program.
You can coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from
solving their problems. Coach partners to coach each other! You can coach
couples to increase love and resolve complaints. You can help couples dissolve
single and double transferences (mistaking each other for someone else) and
projections (pretending to be someone else).
Coach couples to prepare for committed partnership,
end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully.
Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching is the start of true systemic coaching.
Systems 8 coach training includes:
- How to prepare for couple coaching
- How to avoid triangulation
- How to quickly uncover core couple partnership issues
- How to build and maintain trust with both partners
- How and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
- How to resolve transferences and core transference loops
- How to coach people through peaceful separation or divorce
- How to set homework for couples
Your Next Step . Systems
9 - Family Coaching . Systems 10 - Team
Coaching
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