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Are you entangled in difficult
relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from childhood abuse?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your children's demands, your
boss's moods? We can coach you to untangle
your life and reclaim your freedom. Contact us.
A single parent has many challenges, including some
that you cannot solve. You may lack knowledge or resources for fulfilling your doubled
duties. As a custodial parent, you have the practical problems of parenthood,
while as a
non-custodial parent, you may suffer from not being with your children.
Healthy parenthood requires intensive involvement from both
parents. Caring for children, from their physical health, though their schooling
to their social behavior, requires intense commitment.
Lack of parental support may precede future arrogance, aggression, withdrawal
and dysfunctional behavior!
Do you believe that children can create their own reality, and
allow your children to deal with life challenges without guidance? Do you forget to care, especially during
a difficult separation? Do you use your children as bargaining pawns (see
parental alienation syndrome).
For whatever reason, you may be unable or unwilling to
care for a child. Perhaps you divorced or perhaps a
partner died. Perhaps the pregnancy was accidental (although, if you didn't arrange
an abortion, you avoid unpleasant
consequences of abortion.)
We coach single parents to deal with deep overwhelming
emotions and recover inner strength. You can do this in workshops, individual meetings
or with telephone support. We present Single Parenting workshops, and we provide
single parent coaching
sessions and telephone consultations.
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Everybody told me to give my
children support and love. But I felt miserable about my
divorce and almost crazy from guilt about an abortion. During Soulwork
coaching, I cleaned up a lot of relationship habits - and then I
could love and support my children. KP, Zagreb, Croatia |
[ Parent Coaching
] [ Partnership Coaching ]
Single Parenting
Pregnancy and the birth of children represent an awesome
responsibility - and an awesome potential for joyful fulfillment - and an awesome loss of
freedom. Your children probably enjoy a more permissive
childhood than you did, which can provoke predictable challenges.
Although single
parent families and blended families are more common and accepted than in the
last 500 years, your challenges as a
single parent may be very different to your parents' challenges. If you feel
overwhelmed - if you don't know how to cope - we offer coaching support. Some
basic rules are:
- Take care of your children ... and yourself
- Balance your time with your children's time
- Enjoy a loving relationship with your children
- Help your children grow to independent adulthood
Soulwork systemic coaching can help you create wonderful
relationships - and solve problems.
See Dating, Partnership &
Sexual Compatibility and Dealing with Affairs.
Single Parent Coaching
Single Parent Coaching helps single parents solve parenting
problems. Single Parent Coaching can recognize and support your individual
and your family happiness. Single Parent Coaching may be best in personal
sessions, backed up by
telephone support. We offer you easy access to coaching support and you can
enjoy another perspective as you cope with difficult situations.
Single Mothers
A recent study of nearly 3000 mothers found that single
mothers have a 40% higher incidence of depression,
with depressive episodes lasting an average of about a year.
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If you feel depressed, we strongly recommend that you
visit a medical doctor or clinical psychologist, especially if you might
harm yourself or others. Unless you a medical
professional, we strongly recommend that you refer people with signs of
depression to appropriate professionals.
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The two primary events that may trigger a single mothers'
depression are increased stress and decreased support. Yet you may
feel that you lack time to reduce your stress and increase your support.
Systemic coaching can help you.
Single Fathers
Many men have a "fix and protect" attitude. Men may listen long
enough to identify a problem, and then focus on solutions or protection.
Children may not want solutions; they often prefer prefer coaching that helps
them protect themselves
and solve their own
problems.
If you overprotect or over-fix, your children may rebel
against you or become dependent on you. You can allow or encourage limited risks
that
help your children
learn confidence as they learn to succeed.
Single Parents
Like most single parents, you are probably very creative and resourceful! You
have to be. It's love, duty, hard work and often little sleep for single
parents. Soulwork coaching can help you:
- Seek help for depression.
- Seek financial advice; find a direction and make a plan.
- Forgive yourself and others.
- Befriend your inner critics.
- Accept ALL the help you can get -- if people offer help,
accept. If you need help, ask!
- Remember deep breathing, taking mental holidays, enjoying
a shower etc
- Organize morning and after-school
rituals, chores, meals, baths, bedtimes and family fun.
- Avoid clutter. Recycle household items. Get your kids
involved.
- Let your children do what they can for themselves.
- Keep a sense of humor.
- Get your children involved in camps, church, Big
Brother/Big Sister and mentoring programs.
- Keep a family calendar for your kids' activities.
- List your stressors. Decide what you can control and
focus there, first. Learn to let go.
- Join a single parent support
groups, where you may exchange taxi and babysitting duties, etc ...
Single Parents & Dating
After a partnership ends, many single parents feel that they lack
time and energy for dating. Further, your children may not want a new parent,
and sabotage your efforts. Also, some charming male predators (often
mother's boys) seek single
mothers for short-term sexual intimacy. A few questions ...
- Have you healed? A new relationship may be tempting,
especially to avoid the pain
of a break-up. Give yourself time to heal and rebuild your life.
- Have you family routines?
Children enjoy consistency. Family routines can increase security.
- Who is most important?
Children may resent your new relationship if they feel ignored.
- Is there long-term potential? Assess
a relationship before you introduce a new person to your
children, consider their confusion and sense of security.
- Can you go slowly? Perhaps introduce the children
to a new person before arranging family activities. A person who is worth
having in your life will understand your need to be careful.
- What about sex? Avoid disturbing your
children to this side of your life.
- How can you meet potential friends and
partners?
- We recommend this free single parent
friendship and dating service: click on the picture:
Do you want single parent coaching or systemic
coach training? Do you want to coach people to resolve
complex relationship challenges and enjoy life?
Relationship Coaching ...
Systemic Coach Training ...
Your Next Step
Are you motivated and emotionally stable? Do
you want to coach people to gain clarity, dissolve success and relationship
issues? Do you want to coach people to enjoy success and quality relationships?
Do you want to help people fulfill their dreams? Consider joining us.
Copyright © Martyn Carruthers & Teresa Mocna,
2004-2006
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