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We offer private coaching and interactive
training on relationship happiness, resolving emotional and family chaos, and
solving complex relationship problems. Contact us.
Partnership Definitions
- Partnership is a committed relationship to achieve
mutually important goals.
- Partnership requires acceptance, commitment, gratitude
and responsibility.
- Partnership goals cannot be achieved by one person
working alone.
- Committed implies active engagement
in fulfilling partnership goals.
What is Systemic Couple Coaching?
We coach partners to enjoy partnership.
Both partners contribute to relationship problems,
and both can learn to resolve and prevent relationship problems. The
partners may be shown how to dissolve communication blocks, describe
their mutual goals and accept responsibilities.
Do you wishing to improve your relationships
- behavioral problems, personality issues, or with
emotional problems. Our premarital coaching helps people ensure that they
are compatible. Our couple coaching helps couples understand and love each
other. And we also coach couples to separate or
divorce peacefully.
As unresolved issues from past partnerships usually show up in
subsequent partnerships, our couple coaching helps people
resolve emotional bonds with past
partners. (Sometimes a past partner may be a parent -
Father-Daughter Bonds and
Mother-Son Bonds are a common form of
emotional incest.)
What Happens when it's Over?
Following an intimate partnership, one partner will re-orient
to another partner faster than the other, while the other
(even if he or she initiated the breakup) may cling to the old relationship. An
ex-partner may continue to feel or try to express love to the other, and experience
crisis if and when the other signals that expressions of love are no longer
appropriate or wanted.
If you are emotionally entangled with a past-partner, you
are probably clinging to what your partner represented to you.
Entanglement seems inevitable if your past partner represented "success"
or "stability"; or someone from your history - perhaps a
parent, a sibling or a previous past-partner.
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My wife was the world to
me. When we broke up, I
felt that she had stolen my life. She was my best friend
and my lover - and she was my mother, my daughter and my
mistress ... since Soulwork I know I can love a different
woman - differently. PM Cardiff, Wales |
What are Partnership Goals?
The fulfillment of partnership goals requires relationship
skills - especially friendship skills, team skills.
And partnership skills are required for both successful
parenthood and project management.
[ Partnership &
Couple Coaching ]
What is a Partner?
When participating in a partnership, you are likely
sensitive to the other person's behavior. You are likely to notice if the
other person keeps his or her promises, supports mutual decisions and brings
resources into the relationship. You will also notice if this person abuses,
betrays or abandons you.
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Enjoy Partnership ] [ Evaluate
Partnership ] [ Predictable
Partnership ]
If you partner a person, then that person's actions and
reactions may influence your behavior long after separating.
The behavior of a past partner may inspire you to find
another partner with similar or quite different qualities, or a past
partner may inspire you to avoid other partnerships.
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Divorce ] [ Children of
Divorce ] [ Parental Alienation ]
Substitutes for Partners
Some people prefer a non-human substitute for a
partner to the reality of sharing a part of life with another human
being. Common non-human partner-substitutes include pets, plants,
automobiles, houses, televisions, computers and boats. Do you want to stay
single?
Another type of partner-substitute are people who are
not partners. A series of brief affair-partners, for example, may reduce
your need for committed adult companionship.
Some human substitutes for partners are parents, siblings and friends.
Non-human substitutes could include most addictions.
When Parents partner Children
if a parent behaves in ways that can be mistaken for
partnership, a child may enjoy the special attention and expressions of
love. Later in life, however, a child may have difficulty finding a
relationship with anyone except a substitute for the
partner-parent. See
emotional incest and single parents.
Parent-bonded adults may sabotage their own attempts
at partnership. This sabotage may motivate common dysfunctional behaviors,
which can be grouped under reclusive
and promiscuous.
Emotions & Past Partners
If an intimate partnership ends because of betrayal
and abandonment, then the betrayed partner seems more likely to express
strong emotions (see affairs) and to
act childishly. If an intimate partnership ends because of abuse,
then the abusive partner is more likely
to express strong emotions and age-regress to some childhood trauma. See
Abusive Relationships
Many people have emotional issues about past partners.
Some are objective - for example an ex-wife wants
more alimony or an ex-husband is stalking his ex. Yet the majority of
past-partner problems seem to exist in the mind. See
Self-Sabotage and
Pheromones
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I
felt that he was always around me ... everything reminded me of him.
I would meet friends and feel disgusted that they were not him.
I tried sleeping with other men - hell I tried everything - but I
couldn't get him off my mind. I thought I was crazy. You
helped me deal with it. JGY Leeds, UK |
Feeling entangled with a past partner may drain your
energy and sabotage your peace. You may feel desperate, anxious and empty. If
old bonds are still active, contact with an entangled past partner can
re-awaken unresolved emotional pain, and damage your present partnership.
We can coach you can heal a partnership so that both of
you can truly move on towards long-term happiness. Do your feelings about a past-partner:
- make you sick with anger, worry or remorse?
- encompass you, or seem to surround you?
- cause you to feel guilty or depressed?
- prevent you enjoying another partnership?
Is it time
to end your entanglements to past partners and regain your life?
Relationship Coaching ...
Systemic Coach Training ...
Your Next Step
Do you want relationship coaching or
systemic coach training? Do you want to coach people to resolve relationship
challenges? Do you want to coach people to fulfill their dreams? Contact us.
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