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Interview with Martyn Carruthers by Roland Brantschen

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Roland: Martyn, you created a system of coaching that you teach internationally - Soulwork Systemic Coaching. I know that your work attracts many medical doctors, psychologists and other people with high credentials. Can you tell us about it?

Martyn: We offer a wide spectrum of services - including business coaching, individual coaching, couple coaching, team coaching ... and more. Can you be more specific?

Roland: What is the theoretical basis for your work?

Martyn: We integrated principles and practices from many disciplines. The famous anthropologist Dr Gregory Bateson provided a hierarchy of abstraction which helps us analyze a person's cognitive habits. The psychologist Dr Clare Graves provided a hierarchy of social evolution which predicts the development of relationship skills and organizations of a person or group. Richard Bandler provided a concept he called metaprograms, which are useful for predicting behavioral constraints. We also integrated skills used by native Hawaiian healers, who helped us recognize and change relationship bonds with dead people, and they provided the concepts of soul, family soul and healthy relationships that permeate our work.

Roland: Do you use other models for relationship coaching?

Martyn: We use a hierarchy of relationship development to predict the current and future relationship challenges that a person will face, which was inspired by Annegret Hallanzy. We use another relationship hierarchy to assess relationship health. Our systemic diagnosis can assess relationship conflicts and transferences; and sometimes predict diseases and deaths.

Roland: Are these psychological theories?

Martyn: Not really. Our coaching tends to be very practical. We focus not on resolving complaints, but on helping people get what they want, including meaning and happiness; on helping people define and achieve worthwhile goals. We help people find life purpose, or sense of life, if that is what they want.

Roland: Can people coach themselves in this way - or do they need a coach?

Martyn: Few people can use what they do not understand - or work on issues that they don't recognize. We coach people to resolve whatever stops them from solving their own problems. Once those issues are solved - a person can find information, make decisions and act. While entanglements remain active - a person may make robotic decisions or may feel unable to act.

Our work is about quality relationships - and it is not easy. We can help people find relationship resources to accept and acknowledge their complaints and to identify their goals and dreams. Then people can solve their conflicts, their anger, fear, sadness and so on, and move on freely. Without this coaching relationship, most people attempting self-coaching will distract themselves, or get stuck in "poor me", and in difficult moments they may just go to sleep.

We train people to respond to non-verbal communications or unconscious objections. Few people can do this for themselves. Unconscious signals are ... well ... not conscious. A coach can respond to those communications by gently provoking people to become conscious of them. This is a BIG step towards people sorting out their stuff - understanding their objections to their own happiness.

Roland: That makes sense - so - who will benefit most from your work?

Martyn: Motivated and responsible adults gain the most benefits in the shortest time. We can also coach people who cannot define goals in less direct ways, with isomorphic stories and interactive metaphors, instead of repeating goal questions or futile planning towards abstractions.

A more difficult answer is that people who lack quality relationships seem unable to explore the depth of themselves. It seems that people need supportive relationships as a basis for deep change. People who cannot maintain at least one quality relationship (that is, stable and meaningful but not dependent nor codependent) are unlikely to experience integrity as a stable state. While that is opposite to some Eastern philosophies, this is what I find in the West.

Roland: Would you call your work a New Age development?

Martyn: Some people complain that the word Soulwork sounds too New Age. Soulwork is practical. Each step of our coaching follows a structured, systemic sequence, without recourse to intuition or esoteric agencies. We check goals in three or four ways, to ensure that people want specific changes and are prepared for the potential consequences of those changes.

Some helping professionals prefer to intuit their clients' problems. That can lead to dependency and victimization. Clients have no idea if a New Age counselor's intuition is accurate - and some counselors and therapists seem to blame their clients if their intuitions do not produce the desired results.

Roland: Is not Soul an emotionally loaded word?

Martyn: Many people are not interested in anything to do with soul, and I wasn't a few years ago. A better word is integrity. We also call our corporate and organizational work Systemic Solutions and avoid words with esoteric or spiritual connotations - although, for me, the Soul of an organization is an extremely practical and worthwhile topic to discuss with managers, leaders and CEOs.

We do not ask or require that a client have or develop any particular belief. If a person wants success in some field, or wants coaching for recurring relationship problems or for controlling or replacing emotions such as depression or anxiety, that is often enough. We usually explore exactly when, where and with whom a person wants certain emotions.

Roland: Your demonstrations tonight were stunning. You make your work look very easy. But few of the audience have no idea how long it normally takes for people to make those type of changes.

Martyn: Some students ask if I choose easy demonstration subjects. But most people are easy to coach if they are motivated and responsible. When I present Soulwork; I demonstrate whatever I talk about. For my personal pleasure, I prefer to demonstrate with critics - and there are always critics.

Success and happiness require sane goals, mature decisions and healthy relationships.

Roland: You said that your coaching is holistic ... what does "holistic" mean to you?

Martyn: We attend to all a person's communications; including non-verbally expressed emotions and relationships as well as words, and we offer ways to change things that don't work or are counter-productive. We ask about thoughts and feelings. We offer ways to change unpleasant internal dialogue (limiting beliefs or self-sabotaging thoughts) and subsequent behaviors.

Roland: Is that always possible?

Martyn: Always is a very long word. If you are in a relationship with an entangled person - whether the entanglement is with another person, a substance or a behavior, then you risk becoming entangled with that person's obsessions. Many people say that they want to get rid of unpleasant symptoms but that they don't want to change the entanglements that cause them. Then it may seem that some form of medication will be their next step. We generally refer such people to doctors or psychologists.

Roland: How do you motivate people to change?

Martyn: I don't, or at least not often. I'm more likely to provoke people about the consequences of their current actions or lack of action. I find that a gram of provocation is worth a kilogram of motivation, so I teach 16 types of provocation.

Roland: How do you identify mind-body connections?

Martyn: I ask questions such as: Where do you hold emotional experiences in your body? and What are the benefits of withholding these experiences? Unless the person is dissociated, the answers will describe subjective experience and we can usually recognize the type of entanglement quite quickly. A large part of our training is about recognizing and responding to nonverbal communication. But often, onlookers ask if we are telepathic or if we can see a people's souls or auras or something like that.

Roland: Where does Soul come into all this?

Martyn: We make basic assumptions about the innate wholeness of people, and people's desire for wholeness and their desire to connect with other human beings in an experience of wellbeing that is generally called happiness. We coach people to experience a state of integrity as a basis for rapidly assessing, evaluating and changing personal and relationship problems.

Roland: What sort of problems do people bring for systemic coaching?

Martyn: People often want to control emotions, to end compulsions or obsessions, to gain communication skills, to change difficult relationships and to find meaning in life. Most people have vague goals, but want something different. Very often, people want to stop sabotaging themselves.

Roland: And your systemic coaching includes ... what?

We coach people to resolve entanglements, conflicts, identifications and other forms of identity loss. This leads to the experience of integrity and connectedness that we call Soul. From an experience integrity, mature people can choose fulfilling life-goals and finally control their self-sabotage.

Roland: Who are your main clients?

Martyn: We help a wide range of people; we support private therapists and helping professionals in public health and mental health sectors, as well as corporate Human Resources people.

Many people who seek change want to experience life differently; they want to achieve their goals or end their complaints. Our systemic tools help people reach their emotional goals as well as physical goals. This may include helping people integrate their personality. Most people live fragmented lives based on conflicting desires, conflicting beliefs and conflicting values.

Roland: Are you saying that most people - me for example - are split? That sounds like multiple-personality ...

Martyn: In multiple personality syndrome, people are amnesic of their actions and decisions in other states - but few people are that dissociated. Most people know well the experience of "Part of me wants to ... but part of me doesn't", and many people make promises in one state and forget them in another.

People with complex conflict may announce important decisions one day and deny those decisions the next day. People who experience self-criticism often have "inner voices" which can be horribly critical. People who dissociate those inner voices may be diagnosed as psychotic - and medicated.

Psychosis is exaggerated normality

Roland: What issues are people concerned about today?

Martyn: The sources of inner conflict may change but conflicts remain. Many women suffer grief and conflict after postponing childbirth and motherhood in favor of a career. Many men suffer shame following immature sexual exploits. Many people suffer from the emotional consequences of abuse and trauma, and other relationship disappointments. Although our world is changing rapidly, our emotional responses to our relationships seem to be rather constant.

We offer effective solutions for cross-generational entanglements. Motivated adults can end chronic suffering. We also deal with the self-sabotage associated with abuse and the consequences of trauma that show up as limiting beliefs. We can better recognize the symptoms of post-traumatic stress and we can help motivated people rapidly dissolve those symptoms.

Roland: Martyn - I have heard good things about your results - but who coaches you?

Martyn: I enjoy exploring other modalities from a client perspective - although not many therapists seem to enjoy me as a client. I focus on results - not credentials - and I am not very compliant if something doesn't make sense. My life is not a testing ground for their theories. So I turn to my graduate students.

Roland: How do you determine what type of coaching is helpful for what type of problem?

Martyn: Coaching, consulting, counseling, advising and therapy are words that are often used interchangeably. In a consulting role, I work in a focused way in a highly defined context, perhaps to change the structure of a human resources department. On the other side, individual client coaching is exceedingly open. Who knows what the next client will want? Very few people know what they want.

Roland: How long does your coaching take?

Martyn: How long is a road? I often works with time-limits for people who want a fast solution rather than long-term mentoring. Much depends on their motivation, health and age. For example I may offer a person 5 or 6 sessions to change a defined complaint or to expedite a specific goal. This can be in one week, if the person can has the time and is healthy enough to handle the intensity.

I am using the telephone and Skype more frequently lately. Skype is a great way to reach out to people, with the limitation that it is more difficult to notice and respond to nonverbal objections.

Roland: You said that your work has a spiritual side. How do you know whether a person is spiritual? How do you perceive spiritual evolution?

Martyn: Life includes many distractions, games and illusions - often self-inflicted or provided by ignorant, arrogant or manipulative people. Each of us can pass these distractions to fulfill life and perhaps transcend death. Yet these distractions can be so compelling or so uncomfortable that people may stop moving forward. It's like they reach a certain age - could be six or sixteen - and not mature much after that. We expect such people to show age-regressed, immature behavior.

The Soul of Soulwork is an experience of integrity and connection that seems to transcend thoughts and feelings. The egoistic "I" can merge with an apparently unborn and undying reality. Age-regressed behavior is incompatible with this emotional maturity and responsibility for life - and the stable resource that we call Soul can provide a reference - a compass - through life challenges.

We coach people to examine their goals, resolve identity loss, end toxic habits and perceive illusions. We travel together through the often chaotic wildernesses of the body-mind - to find lasting solutions for emotional and relationship symptoms, and for life to make sense!

Roland: Martyn, thank you for your time.

(This interview was condensed from a longer transcript)

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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.