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People affected by abortion may become unable
to feel joyously connected to their friends and partners, to families and
communities, and to their God. If your joy and connectedness can be replaced by
depression and suffering, then the consequences of abortion are important issues.
Part 2: Relationship
Consequences of Abortion :
Part 3: Spiritual
Consequences of Abortion
Are you affected by abortion?
Abortion often provides rapid relief and delayed suffering. The
consequences of abortion can include guilt, depression, mourning, shame, self hatred,
insomnia, anger and aggression in both parents and siblings. Our post-abortion counseling helps people control guilt and
the other consequences of abortion that may be suffered by the parents, by
surviving children, by other family members and by abortionists.
Post Abortion Stress
If most of these apply to you, you may suffer from post
abortion stress.
- Are you easily depressed?
- Do you avoid taking care of yourself?
- Do you hear a baby crying when none are near?
- Has an abortion changed the way you look at yourself?
- Do you experience reoccurring dreams related to an
abortion?
- Do you try to turn off feelings or memories related to an
abortion?
- Do you become uncomfortable around babies or pregnant
women?
- Does an abortion seem to hold you back from intimate
relationships?
- Do you feel anger, grief, shame or guilt when you
remember an abortion?
- Do you feel further from your parents, family or
spouse since an abortion?
Are other children affected?
Following an abortion, other children in the family
(especially a child born immediately before or after an aborted child) may
experience depression, obsessions about babies, or eating or sleep disorders.
Frequently, a living child identifies with an aborted sibling - see
identification with a dead person -
with predictable, unpleasant symptoms. (People who identify with a
dead or vanishing twin may experience similar symptoms.)
Consequences don't care about your good intentions!
Our post-abortion coaching helps families
alleviate the relationship consequences of abortion, (which occur even if the
mother was raped or if an unborn child was diagnosed with a genetic disease). The
consequences are often carried by other children - who become entangled with the
missing sibling.
Children's relationship entanglements show up as inappropriate
behavior and strong emotions; although the impact of these entanglements may be
latent until adolescence. Entangled behavior and
bonded relationships are typically expressed by the late
teens and may last for decades.
- I am entangled with people I have hurt (I experience
chronic guilt or depression)
- I am entangled with an ignored dead person (I
experience chronic sadness)
- I am entangled with an ignored victim (I
experience chronic anger)
- I am entangled with an ignored hero (I experience
chronic anxiety)
- I am entangled with two people in conflict (I
experience chronic conflict)
- I lose access to my own identity (I experience chronic
dissociation)
Life gives birth to life
Most adults want to find partners and raise babies to
independence. Adults who cannot have children may may dedicate
themselves to some social or religious cause or they may obsess about
substitutes for partnership and children, or about helping children. Or they may
suffer depression.
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I am 15 years old. All my life I felt that someone was
missing. My parents just told me that they had an abortion before
I was born ... I feel like my parents murdered my older brother.
DB Vancouver, BC |
Who benefits from abortion?
This week, about one million pregnancies will be ended by abortion.
Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people able and
willing to provide it. Although the financial and relationship benefits of
abortion may seem obvious to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to
an abortionist, the consequences of abortion can damage their
relationships and their health.
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"Your writing about abortion is pure nonsense. Abortion is
not murder anymore than liposuction,
and the proper term is 'abortion doctor,' not 'abortionist." Anonymous |
Who really suffers?
Children require attention, time and endless love. After an
abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be attributed to
other causes. Abortions may make sense - for example if a pregnancy endangers a
mother's life. But consequences don't seem to care about
the goodness of
intentions. Other family members and particularly other children may suffer as a
consequence of abortion.
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I had an abortion. My
boyfriend said he would leave me if I had his baby. My mother said an
abortion was best ... she told me later that she had an abortion at my age.
Now I can't hardly look at them. PT London, UK |
Health Consequences of Abortion
Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have an
abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? Check the total cost of
abortion, which may include:
- Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
- Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing bleeding,
fever and infections
- Sterility (infections occur in about 30% of abortions)
- Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
- Miscarriages and premature births in subsequent pregnancies
- Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
- Therapy for self, partner or surviving children
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I don't regret my abortions
for a minute. The drugs make you sleep so you don't see anything bad. My
problems were gone and I can keep on having fun ... and my boyfriends are
grateful too ... I will have children when I am ready. HA Boston, Mass
I wrote to you about my abortions about four years ago.
Since then I have married ... I have had three miscarriages. Do you think
they're somehow connected to my abortions? HS Boston, Mass |
Abortion is a Family Issue
Partners, parents,
siblings and other children experience post-abortion reactions, including guilt,
depression, anxiety and damaged relationships. Anybody who
pressures a woman into having an abortion may be later unable to enjoy
a relationship with that woman.
Although the consequences of abortion can be painful and distressing,
people affected by the consequences of abortion can find healing and peace with
Soulwork systemic coaching.
Part 2: Relationship Consequences of
Abortion
Since you began reading this, about two thousand more abortions
have just been made. Most of those bodies are now in garbage containers and
some are being used for research. Many of these abortions will have consequences
that the parents, families and abortionists neither expect nor understand.
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I made my wife have an abortion.
Since then, guilt, anger, depression and bitterness have tormented me. Please
help me be peaceful after abortion. Please help me before is too late ... Please,
I am contemplating suicide ... Do help me please ... Lagos, Nigeria |
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