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People affected by abortion may become unable
to joyously connect to their friends and partners, to their families and
communities, and to their God. If joy and connectedness can be replaced by
depression and suffering, then it is important to resolve the consequences of
abortion.
Part 2: Relationship
Consequences of Abortion :
Part 3: Spiritual
Consequences of Abortion
See also: Consequences of
Miscarriage and Infertility
Does Abortion affect you?
Abortion is common in most countries. Abortion can provide
rapid relief ... and delayed suffering. The consequences of abortion can include
guilt, depression, mourning, shame, self hatred,
insomnia, addictions, anger and aggression in the parents and siblings of an
aborted child. Parents, surviving children, other family members and abortionists
may all suffer ... and we often help people dissolve the emotional consequences of abortion.
If you feel strong emotions as you read this - please STOP reading and relax.
Post Abortion Stress
If, following an abortion of a close friend or family
member, many of these apply to you, you may suffer from post-abortion stress:
- Are you easily depressed?
- Do you avoid taking care of yourself?
- Do you hear babies crying when none are near?
- Has an abortion changed the way you look
at yourself?
- Do you try to turn off feelings or memories
about an abortion?
- Do you feel uncomfortable around babies
or pregnant women?
- Does an abortion seem to hold you back
from intimate relationships?
- Do you feel anger, grief, shame or guilt
when you remember an abortion?
- Do you experience recurring dreams or nightmares
related to an abortion?
- Do you feel less connected to your parents,
family or spouse since an abortion?
Does abortion affect other children?
Following an abortion, we find that a family
member (especially a child born immediately before or after an aborted child)
or close friend may
experience depression, eating or sleep disorders, or obsess about babies.
Frequently, a child seems to identify with an aborted sibling - see
identification with a dead person -
with predictable, unpleasant symptoms. (People who identify with a
dead, missing or vanishing twin
may experience similar symptoms.)
Consequences don't care about good intentions!
We help motivated adults alleviate the relationship consequences
of abortion, (which may occur even if the mother was raped or if a doctor recommended
an abortion - for example if the unborn child was diagnosed with a genetic disease).
The consequences are often carried by other children - who become
entangled with the missing sibling.
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All my life I felt that someone was
missing. My parents just told me that they had an abortion before
I was born ... my parents murdered my older brother.
Vancouver, BC |
Children's relationship entanglements show up as
inappropriate behavior and emotions; although the impact of these
entanglements often remain
latent until adolescence. We find that entangled behavior and
bonded relationships of parents are typically
expressed by their children - often starting in their middle or late teens - and
the consequences may last for decades.
Common relationship enmeshments are:
- I am entangled with an ignored victim (I
experience chronic anger)
- I am entangled with an ignored hero (I experience
chronic anxiety)
- I lose access to my own identity (I experience chronic
dissociation)
- I am entangled with two people in conflict (I
experience chronic conflict)
- I am entangled with an ignored dead person (I
experience chronic sadness)
- I am entangled with people I have hurt (I experience
chronic guilt or depression)
Life gives birth to life
Most people want suitable partners and healthy children.
Many adults who cannot have children may instead dedicate themselves to
some social or religious cause, thereby finding substitutes for partnership
and children. Adults with few quality relationships may complain a lack of
sense of life ... commonly called depression. (Many people take psychoactive
medication in an attempt to remedy the effects of poor quality relationship
skills.)
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A 13-year study of pregnancy-associated deaths, published in
the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, found that the maternal
mortality rate associated with abortion is 3 times higher than the maternal
mortality rate associated with pregnancies carried to term. |
Who benefits from abortion?
This week, about one million pregnancies will be ended by abortion.
Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people able and
willing to provide it. Although the financial and relationship benefits of
abortion may seem obvious to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to
an abortionist, the consequences of abortion can damage their
relationships and their health.
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Your writing about abortion is pure nonsense. Abortion
is not murder anymore than liposuction ... and the proper term is
'abortion doctor', not abortionist. Anonymous |
Who really suffers?
Children require attention, time and endless love. After
an abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be attributed to
other causes. Abortions may make sense - for example if a pregnancy
endangers a mother's life. But consequences don't seem to care about
the goodness of intentions. Other family members and particularly other
children may suffer as a consequence of abortion.
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I had an abortion ... my boyfriend
said he would leave me if I had his baby ... and my mother said abortion
was best ... she told me later that she had an abortion at my age.
Now I can't hardly look at either of them. London, UK |
Health Consequences of Abortion
Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have
an abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? Check the
total cost of abortion, which may include:
- Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
- Sterility (infections occur in 30% of abortions)
- Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
- Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
- Miscarriages and premature
births in subsequent pregnancies
- Post-abortion coaching or therapy for self, partner
or surviving children
- Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing
bleeding, fever and infections
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... I don't regret my abortions
for a minute. The drugs make you sleep so you don't see anything bad. My
problems were gone and I can keep on having fun ... and my boyfriends are
grateful too ... I will have children when I am ready. Boston, Mass
I wrote to you about my abortions years ago.
Since then I got married ... I had three miscarriages in two years ... Could
they be connected to my abortions? Boston, Mass |
Abortion is a Family Issue
Partners, parents, siblings and other family members may experience
post-abortion reactions, including guilt, depression, anxiety and damaged
relationships. Anybody who pressures a woman into having an abortion may later
be unable to enjoy a relationship with that woman.
Although the consequences of abortion can be painful and
distressing, we help people affected by abortion to find healing
and peace.
Part 2: Solutions
for Relationship
Consequences of Abortion
Since you started this article, about 2000 more abortions were
just made. About 2000 little bodies are now in garbage containers and a few
are being frozen for research or to harvest their tissues. Many of these
abortions will have consequences that the parents, families nor abortionists
neither expect nor understand.
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I made my wife have an abortion.
Since then, guilt, depression and bitterness have tormented me and my
wife threatens to leave. Please help us before is too late ... Do help us please ... Johannesburg, South
Africa
Thank you ... since our talks we both
feel much better ... my wife is pregnant again
and we both feel very good
about becoming parents ... Johannesburg, South Africa |
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