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Understand and Dissolve the Consequences of Abortion
         © Martyn Carruthers

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We find that people affected by abortion may become unable to joyously connect to their friends and partners, to their families and communities, and to their God. If your joy and connectedness can be replaced by depression and suffering, then is important to resolve the  consequences of abortion.

Part 2: Relationship Consequences of Abortion : Part 3: Spiritual Consequences of Abortion 

Consequences of Miscarriage ... Infertility

Does Abortion affect you?

Abortion is common in most countries. It provides rapid relief ... and often delayed suffering. The consequences of abortion can include guilt, depression, mourning, shame, self hatred, insomnia, addictions, anger and aggression in the parents and siblings of an aborted child. Parents, surviving children, other family members and abortionists may all suffer ... we often help people dissolve the consequences of abortion.

If you feel strong emotions as you read this - please STOP reading and relax.

Post Abortion Stress

If many of these apply to you, you may suffer from post abortion stress:

  1. Are you easily depressed?
  2. Do you avoid taking care of yourself?
  3. Do you hear a baby crying when none are near?
  4. Has an abortion changed the way you look at yourself?
  5. Do you experience reccurring dreams related to an abortion?
  6. Do you try to turn off feelings or memories about an abortion?
  7. Do you feel uncomfortable around babies or pregnant women?
  8. Does an abortion seem to hold you back from intimate relationships?
  9. Do you feel anger, grief, shame or guilt when you remember an abortion?
  10. Do you feel less connected to your parents, family or spouse since an abortion?

Does abortion affect other children?

Following an abortion, we find that a family member (especially a child born immediately before or after an aborted child) may experience depression, eating or sleep disorders or obsess about babies. Frequently, a child seems to identify with an aborted sibling - see identification with a dead person - with predictable, unpleasant symptoms. (People who identify with a dead, missing or vanishing twin may experience similar symptoms.)

Consequences don't care about good intentions!

We help families alleviate the relationship consequences of abortion, (which may occur even if the mother was raped or if a doctor recommended an abortion - for example if the unborn child was diagnosed with a genetic disease). The consequences are often carried by other children - who become entangled with the missing sibling.

A 13-year study of pregnancy-associated deaths, published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, found that the maternal mortality rate associated with abortion is 3 times higher than the maternal mortality rate associated with pregnancies carried to term.

Children's relationship entanglements show up as inappropriate behavior and emotions; although the impact of these entanglements often remain latent until adolescence. We find that entangled behavior and bonded relationships are typically expressed by children in their middle or late teens and may last for decades.

Common relationship enmeshments are:

  • I am entangled with people I have hurt (I experience chronic guilt or depression)
  • I am entangled with an ignored dead person (I experience chronic sadness)
  • I am entangled with an ignored victim (I experience chronic anger)
  • I am entangled with an ignored hero (I experience chronic anxiety)
  • I am entangled with two people in conflict (I experience chronic conflict)
  • I lose access to my own identity (I experience chronic dissociation)

Life gives birth to life

Most people want suitable partners and healthy children. Many adults who cannot have children may instead dedicate themselves to some social or religious cause, thereby finding substitutes for partnership and children. Adults with few quality relationships may complain a lack of sense of life ... commonly called depression.

All my life I felt that someone was missing. My parents just told me that they had an abortion before I was born ... my parents murdered my older brother. Vancouver, BC

Who benefits from abortion?

This week, about one million pregnancies will be ended by abortion. Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people able and willing to provide it. Although the financial and relationship benefits of abortion may seem obvious to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to an abortionist, the consequences of abortion can damage their relationships and their health.

Your writing about abortion is pure nonsense. Abortion is not murder anymore than liposuction, and the proper term is 'abortion doctor', not abortionist. Anonymous

Who really suffers?

Children require attention, time and endless love. After an abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be attributed to other causes. Abortions may make sense - for example if a pregnancy endangers a mother's life. But consequences don't seem to care about the goodness of intentions. Other family members and particularly other children may suffer as a consequence of abortion.

I had an abortion ... my boyfriend said he would leave me if I had his baby ... and my mother said abortion was best ... she told me later that she had an abortion at my age.
Now I can't hardly look at either of them.
London, UK

Health Consequences of Abortion

Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have an abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? Check the total cost of abortion, which may include:

  1. Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
  2. Sterility (infections occur in 30% of abortions)
  3. Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
  4. Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
  5. Miscarriages and premature births in subsequent pregnancies
  6. Post-abortion coaching or therapy for self, partner or surviving children
  7. Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing bleeding, fever and infections
... I don't regret my abortions for a minute. The drugs make you sleep so you don't see anything bad. My problems were gone and I can keep on having fun ... and my boyfriends are grateful too ... I will have children when I am ready. Boston, Mass

I wrote to you about my abortions years ago. Since then I got married ... I had three miscarriages in two years ... Could they be connected to my abortions? Boston, Mass

Abortion is a Family Issue

Partners, parents, siblings and other family members may experience post-abortion reactions, including guilt, depression, anxiety and damaged relationships. Anybody who pressures a woman into having an abortion may later be unable to enjoy a relationship with that woman.

Although the consequences of abortion can be painful and distressing, we help people affected by abortion find healing and peace.

Part 2: Relationship Consequences of Abortion

While you read this, about two thousand more abortions have just been made. Most of those bodies are now in garbage containers and a few were frozen for research or to harvest their tissue. Many of these abortions will have consequences that the parents, families and abortionists neither expect nor understand.

I made my wife have an abortion. Since then, guilt, depression and bitterness have tormented me and my wife threatens to leave. Please help us before is too late ... Please, I am contemplating suicide ... Do help please ... Lagos, Nigeria

Thank you ... since our talk we both feel much better ... my wife is pregnant again and we both feel very good about having baby ... Lagos, Nigeria

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Systems 1 How to evaluate relationships and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, and identify blocks, objections & conflicts
Systems 3 How to continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to heal therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
Systems 8 How to coach partners to build lasting happiness (and to separate peacefully)
Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems
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Systems 11 How to coach community leaders and communities
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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.