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We find that people affected by abortion may become unable
to joyously connect to their friends and partners, to their families and
communities, and to their God. If your joy and connectedness can be replaced by
depression and suffering, then is important to resolve the consequences of
abortion.
Part 2: Relationship
Consequences of Abortion :
Part 3: Spiritual
Consequences of Abortion
Consequences of
Miscarriage ... Infertility
Does Abortion affect you?
Abortion is common in most countries. It provides rapid relief
... and often delayed suffering. The
consequences of abortion can include guilt, depression, mourning, shame, self hatred,
insomnia, addictions, anger and aggression in the parents and siblings of an
aborted child. Parents, surviving children, other family members and abortionists
may all suffer ... we often help people dissolve the consequences of abortion.
If you feel strong emotions as you read this - please STOP reading and relax.
Post Abortion Stress
If many of these apply to you, you may suffer from post
abortion stress:
- Are you easily depressed?
- Do you avoid taking care of yourself?
- Do you hear a baby crying when none are near?
- Has an abortion changed the way you look at yourself?
- Do you experience reccurring dreams related to an
abortion?
- Do you try to turn off feelings or memories about an
abortion?
- Do you feel uncomfortable around babies or pregnant
women?
- Does an abortion seem to hold you back from intimate
relationships?
- Do you feel anger, grief, shame or guilt when you
remember an abortion?
- Do you feel less connected to your parents, family or
spouse since an abortion?
Does abortion affect other children?
Following an abortion, we find that a family
member (especially a child born immediately before or after an aborted child) may
experience depression, eating or sleep disorders or obsess about babies.
Frequently, a child seems to identify with an aborted sibling - see
identification with a dead person -
with predictable, unpleasant symptoms. (People who identify with a
dead, missing or vanishing twin
may experience similar symptoms.)
Consequences don't care about good intentions!
We help families
alleviate the relationship consequences of abortion, (which may occur even if the
mother was raped or if a doctor recommended an abortion - for example if the unborn child was diagnosed with a genetic disease). The
consequences are often carried by other children - who become entangled with the
missing sibling.
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A 13-year study of pregnancy-associated deaths, published in
the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, found that the maternal
mortality rate associated with abortion is 3 times higher than the maternal
mortality rate associated with pregnancies carried to term. |
Children's relationship entanglements show up as inappropriate
behavior and emotions; although the impact of these
entanglements often remain
latent until adolescence. We find that entangled behavior and
bonded relationships are typically expressed by children in their middle or late
teens and may last for decades.
Common relationship enmeshments are:
- I am entangled with people I have hurt (I experience
chronic guilt or depression)
- I am entangled with an ignored dead person (I
experience chronic sadness)
- I am entangled with an ignored victim (I
experience chronic anger)
- I am entangled with an ignored hero (I experience
chronic anxiety)
- I am entangled with two people in conflict (I
experience chronic conflict)
- I lose access to my own identity (I experience chronic
dissociation)
Life gives birth to life
Most people want suitable partners and healthy children. Many
adults who cannot have children may instead dedicate
themselves to some social or religious cause, thereby finding
substitutes for partnership and children. Adults with few quality relationships may complain a lack of sense of life ... commonly called
depression.
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All my life I felt that someone was
missing. My parents just told me that they had an abortion before
I was born ... my parents murdered my older brother.
Vancouver, BC |
Who benefits from abortion?
This week, about one million pregnancies will be ended by abortion.
Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people able and
willing to provide it. Although the financial and relationship benefits of
abortion may seem obvious to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to
an abortionist, the consequences of abortion can damage their
relationships and their health.
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Your writing about abortion is pure nonsense. Abortion is not
murder anymore than liposuction, and the proper term is 'abortion
doctor', not abortionist. Anonymous |
Who really suffers?
Children require attention, time and endless love. After an
abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be attributed to
other causes. Abortions may make sense - for example if a pregnancy
endangers a mother's life. But consequences don't seem to care about
the goodness of intentions. Other family members and particularly other
children may suffer as a consequence of abortion.
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I had an abortion ... my
boyfriend said he would leave me if I had his baby ... and my mother said abortion
was best ... she told me later that she had an abortion at my age.
Now I can't hardly look at either of them. London, UK |
Health Consequences of Abortion
Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have
an abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? Check the
total cost of abortion, which may include:
- Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
- Sterility (infections occur in 30% of abortions)
- Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
- Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
- Miscarriages and premature births in subsequent pregnancies
- Post-abortion coaching or therapy for self, partner or surviving children
- Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing bleeding,
fever and infections
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... I don't regret my abortions
for a minute. The drugs make you sleep so you don't see anything bad. My
problems were gone and I can keep on having fun ... and my boyfriends are
grateful too ... I will have children when I am ready. Boston, Mass
I wrote to you about my abortions years ago.
Since then I got married ... I had three miscarriages in two years ... Could
they be connected to my abortions? Boston, Mass |
Abortion is a Family Issue
Partners, parents, siblings and other family members may experience
post-abortion reactions, including guilt, depression, anxiety and damaged
relationships. Anybody who pressures a woman into having an abortion may later
be unable to enjoy a relationship with that woman.
Although the consequences of abortion can be painful and
distressing, we help people affected by abortion find healing
and peace.
Part 2: Relationship
Consequences of Abortion
While you read this, about two thousand more abortions have
just been made. Most of those bodies are now in garbage containers and a few were frozen for research
or to harvest their tissue. Many of these abortions will have consequences
that the parents, families and abortionists neither expect nor understand.
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I made my wife have an abortion.
Since then, guilt, depression and bitterness have tormented me and my wife
threatens to leave. Please help us before is too late ... Please,
I am contemplating suicide ... Do help please ... Lagos, Nigeria
Thank you ... since our talk we both feel
much better ... my wife is pregnant again and we both feel very good
about having baby ... Lagos, Nigeria |
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