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Systemic Coaching & Happiness
Spiritual Experience not Dogma © Martyn Carruthers

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We offer coaching and mentorship on enjoying ongoing spiritual experiences,
experiences that we often call Lasting Happiness, Integrity ... or Soul.

Science, Happiness & Spiritual Development

People in our scientific society read and write more about spiritual life, spiritual growth and spiritual development than about science. Yet, although most people consider spiritual development to be important, our definitions of spirituality, spiritual practices and spiritual relationships are often different.

Your sense of spirituality affects how you live your life - and how you express love. Perhaps your relationship behavior most strongly reveals your spiritual development. You expose your spirituality in your happiness, fulfillment and integrity. These are relationship qualities - not individual skills.

A spiritual path requires spiritual coaching; with mentors and teachers. As spiritual coaches can only assist people who know less than they do - some guidelines about how to recognize who is spiritually advanced or spiritually developed or even spiritually healthy would be useful. Let's start with spirituality.

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What is Spirituality?

Spirituality appears to be an integral part of all human cultures. Spiritual development may be regarded as connection to something external to the self, or as an internal experience, or both. At its most basic it can be called luck. A lone survivor of a disaster may be called holy or chosen.

Spirituality is often defined as reverence for sacred objects, learning holy chants and special songs, repeating body movements and reciting dogma. If so, spirituality might then be measured in terms of ability to repeat chants, copy body movements or remember dogma.

Spirituality may be perceived as success without effort, in which unseen forces are assumed to cluster around certain individuals. Some people measure spirituality by unearned material success. Others by the profundity of their statements, e.g. "If you're here and now you're nowhere."

Spirituality includes unusual varieties of human experience, including an ability to create relationships with what are often called gods, spirits, ancestors, or other non-physical realities. Spiritual evolution can then be assessed as ability to channel esoteric information.

Spirituality includes approaching external spiritual agencies through their symbolic manifestations - interacting with perceived spiritual agencies with fear, respect, gratitude, or reverence. Spirituality may be assessed in terms of ability to bribe spiritual agencies, evidenced by good luck for the community.

Spiritual Experience

Spirituality includes descriptions of experiences. Obsession with sacred images, chants, mythic language, incense and ritual can provide religious experiences. Shared experiences both prove a dogma and form community bonds. Through our Soulwork we offers experiences of connectedness that can survive death of the body.

The validity of spiritual experience is easily questioned. Similar experiences of a relationship with an esoteric agency may indicate a saint in one culture - and a schizophrenic in another. Experiences following the ingestion of psychotropic substances may indicate the presence of the spiritual in one culture - and the absence of spirituality in another.

The qualities of a spiritual experience vary between cultures. It appears that many practices taken for granted in Western civilization were once "spiritual experiences" of the highest order. These once-spiritual experiences include: writing, spelling, mental arithmetic, planning and guesstimating.

Dr William James, in his lectures: Varieties of Religious Experience (1902), described four qualities of mystical experiences. Dr. James said: "These four characteristics are sufficient to mark out a group of states of consciousness peculiar enough to ... be called the mystical group."

  • Ineffable: cannot be described or appropriately verbalized
  • Noetic: deep insights into non-intellectual truth or reality
  • Transient: short-term - not all-of-life
  • Passive: not willfully created

"I took your communication course (Integrity Bridges) and was shocked to find that everyday communications can become almost spiritual events. I see people differently and I respond in ways that I like very much. For a computer geek like me, this is a different world."

Hierarchy of Spiritual Experience

The similarities and differences in spiritual experience across human cultures follow a predictable hierarchy. Spiritual evolution and development has many dimensions. Some important dimensions are Environment, Things, Actions, Beliefs, Values, Identity and Transcendence. These form a hierarchy of abstraction (suggested by Dr Gregory Bateson in Steps to an Ecology of Mind, 1976):

Environment Some locations are considered especially sacred or spiritual - often locations with unusual geographic features - or a place where one or more persons have died or been buried - or a place where a spiritual event was recorded.

Things

Some items and objects are considered especially spiritual - often objects of unusual scarcity. Spiritual objects also include possessions or even parts of people who were recognized as "spiritually advanced".

Actions

Some body movements or repetitive behaviors are considered sacred. This includes movements, chants, repeated words or thoughts that symbolize or request a "preferred" relationship with an esoteric or spiritual agency.

Beliefs

Some beliefs are considered especially spiritual. Spiritual beliefs often lack factual basis, and concern dead people or locations considered spiritual.

Values

Some values are considered especially spiritual. Spiritual values often lack practicality and can rarely be measured or assessed in ordinary reality. See the next table.

Identity

Some manifestations of identity are considered spiritual. People recognized as spiritual often communicate in abstract metaphors and die in interesting ways. Their lives typically include periods of intense suffering during which they found ways to limit suffering, usually by identification and dissociation.

Transcendence

Transcendence of identity is a goal of many spiritual paths, although there can be bitter disputes about whether or not a person has, in fact, transcended.

Hierarchy of Values

We often classify values using the evolutionary hierarchy suggested by Dr Clare Graves (described in Spiral Dynamics, 1996, Wiley, ISBN-10 1557869405). The following table loosely uses Dr Graves work to show a hierarchy of spiritual development in both personal and community spiritual evolution.

  Sacred Things Sacred Actions Sacred Beliefs
Lucky me Lucky tools; hunting weapons; clothes Find lucky places; using magical thoughts Spirituality is luck
Tribal Sacred charms; foods; protective symbols Chants; movements; rituals; songs Spirituality is obedience to shamans and chiefs
Warrior Sacred tools of battle and warfare Duels; Sacrifice; Respect; Conquest Spirituality is having magical power
Dogma Sacred papers: books; certificates; awards Marches; respect dogma; initiations; authorities Spirituality is obedience to dogma; (rewarded after death)
Success Status symbols; luxury toys; "trophy" partner Competing and winning; donations Spirituality is recognition for individual success
Community Communal ownership Sharing information and human resources Spirituality is a shared experience of community
Systemic Communication and information tools Integrating self; effective systemic diversity Spirituality is systemic human behavior
Global Everything and nothing is sacred Living for humanity and/or nature Spirituality is connecting with the universe


Spiritual Ecology, Sense of Life & Soulwork

Our world seems burdened with spiritual paths and spiritual teachers. While it was interesting to note the evidence of spiritual development shown by followers of various spiritual paths - it seemed more useful that we focus on the spiritual goals of happy people whose lives make sense.

If you are stuck, seek support. Through our Soulwork we can help you learn and develop. Through our Soulwork we can help you experience yourself as a spiritual being - you are not alone and at the core of your being is the the perpetual experience of Soul.

Spirituality for Couples . Spirituality for Families . Is Soulwork "New Age"?

Happiness, fulfillment and enlightenment are individual experiences and relationship qualities. We help people clarify their spiritual goals and their sense of life, to apply their spiritual development to their everyday lives and to experience the ongoing sense of connectedness that we call Soul.

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1. Where are you now in your life? Assess fixations, bonds and enmeshments Systems 1
2. What do you want?  Define life goals ... and blocks to success Systems 2
3. How can you reach your goals?  Use conscious and unconscious resources Systems 3
4. Do your emotions limit you?  Dissolve abuse, trauma and mentor damage Systems 4
5. Do your beliefs block you? Change limiting beliefs to end dependence Systems 5
6. Does inner emptiness limit you? Resolve identity loss to recover qualities and skills Systems 6
7. Do you want happy partnership? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully) Systems 7
8. Do you want healthy children? Coach parents to resolve family problems Systems 8
9. Do you want team success? Coach team leaders and top teams ... together Systems 9
10. Do you want community? Coach community leaders and communities Systems 10
**   Do you have unusual goals? Specialty coaching & training for unusual goals Specialty

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