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Do you want to overcome success blocks and build relationships
with love and passion? We coach people to build lives that make sense. A sense-full
life seems to require access to a stable resource state - an ongoing sense of life
and integrity that can be experienced in any life context.
Sense of Life - Soul and Integrity
As we developed the basis for what we later called Soulwork systemic coaching,
we sought effective ways to help people evaluate their relationship
goals; dissolve conflicts, objections and limiting beliefs and experience a
sense of self or sense of life that we call integrity ... or connectedness ... or Soul.
As we coached people towards developing a meaningful life, we found that if
we help motivated adults
clarify six or seven key relationships, then the resulting sense of life or integrity need not diminish over time
(like fun or motivation) nor depend on the behavior of other people.
Once accessed and stabilized, this experience of integrity can inspire people to
improve their lives, to resolve past abuses
and to fulfill life goals. Yet this experience is not an
altered or dissociated state (as provided by drugs or hypnosis). During this
experience, people describe being intensely present and sensitive to their
feelings, environment and relationships.
When people describe this experience, they expose their
emotional maturity - they interpret their
experience through their beliefs. They may use esoteric words such as "Spirit talks through me"; religious descriptions e.g. "I am
within Christ"; or abstract metaphors such as
“I am a drop of water in an infinite ocean” or “I am a child of the
universe”. (People who have experienced Soul usually agree, while people
who have not may try to interpret such words literally or analytically).
Have you experienced integrity?
Other descriptions of integrity are at:
Psychobiology of Soul and
Chaos Coaching.
Soul as a Stable Experience of Integrity
The Soul of Soulwork refers to an experience, not to a theory, dogma, philosophy or
personality. You may call this experience
“the real you” or “your true self” - although not egotistically.
We offer ways that motivated adults* can access and stabilize this experience
of connectedness as part of everyday life.
(*Motivated adults is unlikely to include children,
immature adults,
people suffering severe brain damage, dementia or psychosis, addicts, dedicated
cult members, or people suffering
identity loss, in our experience, until they
resolve these issues.)
Soul as a Stable Experience of Connectedness
Soul refers to an experience of integrity and connectedness. People
describe feeling connected to other people (such as children or a partner), to
all humans, to all living things, to the planet, or to the universe. They may
say illogical sentences such as "I am a tiny part of the whole - and the
whole is me". We help people sort through the many varieties of
ecstatic experiences and altered states to find integrity.
Soul as a Stable Experience of Integration
People often act as if they are fragmented. They may say “I don’t like
the part of me that...” or "Part of me wants to - but part of
me doesn't". We help people integrate these "identity
fragments" or "personality parts" to recreate the identity that
existed before fragmentation. And we help people to acknowledge and integrate
the wisdom from which parts were created and maintained.
Soul as a Stable Experience of Identity
During Soul experience people can evaluate relationships and life-goals, and
choose how to maintain relationships that support sense of life. "Ego" becomes a
perceptual position within a matrix of relationships. Clarity, responsibility
and honesty characterize decisions made with integrity.
Soul experience can guide Meaningful Life
People may describe Soul as “the true me” or my highest potential.
Some people visualize a perfected self-image, or hear a compelling voice of
conscience, while others have experiences apparently similar to those
called enlightenment, satori or Samadhi.
The experience we call Soul seems to bridge the abstract experience of
connectedness and the specific details of everyday life. Unlike static
transcendental experiences (e.g. joy, pleasure, orgasm), people can refer to
integrity for insight, guidance and integrity during important decisions.
Integrity can become a compass during difficult decisions.
Soul experience can evaluate Relationships
Many people connect to family members with entangled and often toxic
beliefs or bonds. These bonds represent conditions for
relationships, although people often avoid recognizing their bonds (we often
call them taboo bonds or thoughtforms). People
can better evaluate their relationship bonds from integrity, and gain freedom from strong,
unpleasant emotions, enmeshments and unwanted habits.
Soul experience can evaluate Life Events
We help people enjoy lives that make sense. Each experience, no matter
how apparently toxic, can become a valuable learning opportunity. You can
resolve abusive or traumatic experiences and use unpleasant experiences to
motivate the fulfillment of your goals.
Soul experience can guide Life Fulfillment
If you have important and congruent (no objections) goals, you may find that
each step to a goal increases your sense of fulfillment associated with that
goal. There seems to be no limit to the happiness of fulfilling human life.
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Integrity, the Soul of Soulwork, is available as
an experience of connectedness and compassion that can help people make make
important decisions and fulfill life. Integrity provides a basis for
love without sympathy - not even sympathy for self. |
The experience of integrity that we call Soul has little in
common with psychological, metaphysical or philosophical theories.
In the context of our coaching; there are some things that Soul is
not ... including music, food and esoteric entities ...
Soul experience is not a philosophical concept
We do not persuade people to accept some theory or
philosophy. The experience of integrity seems to be only available to
responsible adults who have not lost access to identity through brain damage,
cult membership or trauma.
Living with integrity is always a choice - we cannot push people to choose
wisely (although we may point out the consequences of ignorance).
Soul experience is not a personality part
Soul is closer to that which connects or underlies ego-states or parts,
and to a “connectedness” that is neither you nor
another person or thing. Soul seems closer to the experience of resonance if you and
another person choose to love (respect, honor, accept etc) yourselves and each other.
Integrity may be described as a multi-dimensional experience of
connectedness that is simultaneously the source of connectedness - and
your experience of being connected.
Soul experience is not an emotional state
If you accept your emotions as representations or symbols of
your inner personality parts and of your outer relationships, you need not judge feelings as bad
or negative. Rather you can recognize that ignoring unpleasant emotions may
result in unwanted behavior (e.g. alcohol, substance abuse and physical abuse).
Accepting emotions as valid communications is a step towards Soul.
Soul experience is not inner dialogue (self talk)
The basic functions of inner dialog (self talk) seem to be to learn from the past, to analyze
the present and to plan the future. Uncontrolled inner dialog may be experienced
as endless internal commentary, self-criticism or even psychosis. When in Soul
experience, people often say, “It’s quiet inside me!” or "The world has
stopped!" (This is a goal of many transcendental meditations and
Eastern philosophies.)
Soul experience is not a desire
You may have desires related to survival, family, power, success or
community. You may have desires that you are afraid to fulfill because, "There
would be nothing left to life for!". We can help you find
“ultimate” desires, which you may describe as, “This is how I want to live
my life!"
Soul experience is not ego
Ego can often be likened to an adolescent personality part, dissociated from identity.
Soul might be described as the ego of the ego - a raw experience of life before
educational filters and cultural traditions. Integrity may also be described as anti-ego - when in
Soul experience, consciousness can be seen as a perceptual
viewpoint that can move between members of human (or other) systems.
Soul is not physical reality
A ruin, a mountain scene, a country garden or a home may be places where you
can look at the world with a sense of magic and mystery, and perhaps better
access a sense of self-in-life that we call Soul.
Would you like to
benefit from our experience?
During this experience that we call integrity or Soul,
many people say that they can examine their lives and relationships with
intense passion and with utter neutrality.
Or they may simply say, “I am awake” or
"I am back" or "I am here, now".
Chaos Theory & Soul
. Psychobiology of Soul
. Meaning of Life .
Rebirthing
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