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We offer private coaching sessions, interactive workshops on systemic coaching,
relationship happiness, family chaos and relationship bonds. Contact us.
Sex & Motivation
Human motivation and creativity profoundly reflects human
sexuality. Soulwork systemic coaching helps people become emotionally
mature, find healthy partners, become parents, protect children and
assist children to become independent.
As sexuality reaches almost every part of life, any issue
connected to sexuality will likely generate emotional and political controversy.
Also, while pornography and masturbation are often called
victimless crimes, the victims of pornography are the partners and future
partners of sex addicts; and the children who find themselves burdened with
sexual fantasies.
Repression predicts Obsession
After millennia of sexual repression, many people are obsessed with sex and
express sexual behavior chaotically. Deviant sexual obsessions include
urges to control the sexual expressions of other people.
Sex is often a forbidden obsession. Murder, robbery, pollution, corruption
and wasted resources are acceptable themes for TV and cinema for young
audiences, while some people will obsessively strive to censor and control
expressions of human sexuality.
The hypocrisy can be stunning. An exposed female breast during a football
game can outrage a nation that exports most of the world's pornography, while murder
is accepted for children's
viewing.
Stress Disorders .
Divorce and Children .
Parent Alienation
Systemic Solutions
Sexual dysfunction is or will be a topic of importance to you and to those
with whom you share significant relationships. The quality of your sexual
relationships has great impact on your self-image and on your partnership. Any
physical, psychological or emotional changes affect your relationships. Issues
of sexuality can be addressed and resolved during the short and long-term.
We offer professional coaching for all parts of life, including the
expression of sexuality. This takes the following general forms. Sexual health
issues are also described at Sexual
Solutions.
- Sexual Happiness
- Sexual Harassment by Health Professionals
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Sexual Dysfunction: Impotence and Frigidity
- Sexual Abuse
- Solutions for Sexual Abuse
- Consequences of Abortion
Our Systemic Coaching supports and motivates people to achieve
goals and resolve problems. Depending on needs and resources, a coach provides
resources, exercises, homework, and assists you through difficult situations. We
also offer pre-abortion and post-abortion coaching to help you avoid really unpleasant
consequences of abortion.
Relationship Diagnosis & Sexual Addictions
Our Systemic Coaching first identifies if a person is in crisis, and
then makes a relationship diagnosis. Issues of guilt and conflicts are
addressed, so that goals may be defined with integrity. Relationship bonds and
emotional trauma can be resolved, and mentorship provided. Relationship
diagnosis is particularly important for resolving sexual addictions.
What is Sex Addiction?
Sexual addiction can include many activities: excessive masturbation, internet
pornography, using prostitutes, voyeurism, exhibitionism,
multiple sexual affairs, serial relationships, and other sexual behaviors. Casual behavior
becomes an addiction if you repeat the activity without control, even when
you suffer unpleasant consequences.
Do you use sexuality as an escape from boredom or as a way to
feel good? Sex can become an attempt to compensate for pain and feeling
unworthy. Over time, sexual behavior may show the damaging consequences of
addiction: preoccupation, compulsive behavior, despair and
depression.
Are you a Sex Addict? Has your work, education or relationships suffered because of your
sexual fantasies or activities? Do you live a double life? Some other signs
are:
- Do you keep secrets about your sexual life from people you love?
- Do you feel compelled to have sex repeatedly in a
short time frame?
- Does your need for sex cause you to visit places you would prefer to
avoid?
- Do your sexual practices harm your happiness, social
life, or sense of reality?
- Are you unable to stop your sexual behavior despite unpleasant consequences?
- Do you spend inordinate time obtaining sex, being sexual, or
recovering from sex?
- Do you want to get away from a sex partner after sex?
Do you feel shame or guilt?
We help people change destructive sexual urges and find healthy ways to
enjoy life. We use systemic coaching to help people change sexual
compulsions. Would you like to learn systemic coaching?
Sexual Harassment at Work
Sexuality in the workplace is a touchy subject, and the number of lawsuits
concerning sexual harassment are increasing. Our Team Coaching is often
offered at a retreat where a team can be together with minimal disturbances, or
at the workplace.
It is often cost-effective to invite a Soulwork Trainer to
join an annual meeting or
conference. A trainer can offer a package of short workshops, team
coaching and individual coaching sessions, usually over 2-5 days, often with a follow-up
day after about 4-6 weeks.
Lesbianism
Some women strive to fulfill their emotional needs and sexual desires through other
women. Many women seek non-sexual intimate relationships with other women. And
some women do not act upon their desires, and fantasize lesbian activity. These
women often seek a sense of wholeness within real or imagined relationships with
other women.
While few people want to change their sexual orientation, we can help women
redefine and fulfill their relationship goals with their
mothers, sisters, daughters etc - and with other women.
Systemic Couple Coaching
We offer single and couple coaching during private sessions where we
delicately coach people to dissolve emotional, relationship and sexual problems.
The stages of
sexual response typically follow a period of flirtation and romantic
preparedness. Without a period or romantic verbal foreplay, any sexual foreplay
may be rebuffed - or sex may become more businesslike, without romance and
intimacy. Each stage of sexual arousal may be sabotaged.
Enjoying Partnership .
Evaluating Partnership .
Predictable Partnership
Consult your physician about
any opinions or recommendations concerning sexual health, medical symptoms
or medical conditions.
We can help most people, from the child who has experienced domestic
violence; the teenager addicted to sex; the working mother who cares for a
disabled parent; the single parent who copes with an ADD child; the college
student who struggles with anorexia; the young adult who suffers from mental
illness; the partner who mourns the death of a spouse; the family that
seeks to solve conflict; and the couples who want to improve their partnerships.
Sexual Solutions
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