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Do you feel anxious about your health?
Do you feel overwhelmed about your finances? Do you worry
unduly about problems? We can help you
control fear and anxiety - without drugs! Contact us!
Chronic Anxiety, Entanglement & Identification
Do you worry constantly, even
when nothing seems wrong? Anxiety is more than worrying. If you can't relax; if you
always expect the worst, you may suffer from chronic anxiety. And if you feel so
afraid, you may also feel depressed. It's not your fault ... and we may be able
to help you.
If you worry a lot, people may call you irritable or grouchy.
Your muscles may get tense and sore. You will likely feel tired. It
may be hard for you to concentrate, to relax or to sleep.
You may not even know what you are worried about. Your life may not make sense.
Anxiety may originate in childhood, but more often
starts during teenage years. More women seem to suffer from anxiety than
men. Some anxiety problems may be due to food allergies and sensitivities; while
in our experience, most seem to
represent entanglements and
bonded relationships.
Does chronic anxiety seems to run in your family? Does someone
in each generation suffer in this way? Anxiety may indicate a
cross-generational entanglement, if someone in each generation is
entangled with someone in the previous generation.
Chronic anxiety is often associated with a certain family
disturbance. If a person (usually a family member) does brave or courageous
acts, yet is criticized or condemned by the family, someone else in the family,
usually a child, expresses the fear of the brave person - the perceived hero.
Such anxiety may be a result of an identification.
A primary symptom is fear - often fear of change. Our systemic coaching
offers powerful ways to end this form of identity loss, a chronic display of fear.
(A paradox is - if you are afraid of change, you may be afraid of
change-workers.)
Health Anxiety
If you feel anxious about your health, you probably
wish that you didn't. You may have health anxiety.
Although many health professionals and drug salespeople are
happily obsessed with other people's health, few medical professionals
seem to relate to people with health anxiety. They may accuse
you of exaggerating - and they may call
you a hypochondriac, a malingerer or a liar.
[ Obsessions
and Compulsions ] [ Addictions ]
Do you interpret body sensations as evidence of
serious disease (hypochondria)? Do you invent medical symptoms to
avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to evade military
service (malingering)? Do you lie about your health
(Munchausen) to manipulate people?
Do you invent medical symptoms to help you get what you want?
Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals?
Health anxiety is also associated with
post-traumatic stress and eating disorders. It is common amongst people who feel
neglected or who want more control.
[ Trauma and
PTSD ] [ Eating Disorders ] [
Psychosomatic ]
Hypochondria: Worried Sick?
Hypochondria is a name for persistent irrational fear
that you are suffering, or will suffer, from a serious medical
condition. You may think that you have heart problems, cancer or
some serious disease - and that your doctor is not trying hard
enough to help you.
You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain.
But if you misread these symptoms,
you may distrust medical professionals. You may interpret normal
signs (like headache, dizziness, fatigue etc) as dangerous. This may be connected to
loneliness, depression, guilt or a preoccupation with death.
If you believe that your body is defective or deformed
- you may be labeled with Body Dismorphic Disorder.
You may use phantom defects to justify a depressed lifestyle.
Endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your
unpleasant feelings about your body.
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"Most
hypochondriac people will never go to a psychiatrist," said Dr
Arthur Barsky (Harvard Medical School). "They'll say, 'I don't
want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan
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Schizophrenia ] [ Depression ] [
Bipolar Disorder ] [
Stress ] [ Vanishing Twin ]
Social Phobia - Social Anxiety
You may be labeled with social phobia
(social anxiety) if you dread being judged, criticized, and
evaluated. You may think that your fear is irrational; yet anxiety
persists.
If you have social phobia
you find it difficult to be with people ("What are they thinking
about me; maybe they don't like me"). You may attract attention to
yourself or even try to be a center of attention ("They don't like
what I'm doing; I am making a fool of myself."). You feel insecure and
self-conscious.
GAD - Generalized Anxiety
Are you
constantly worried or afraid? Do you even worry in
your dreams? You may have muscle pains and headaches, you may feel
constantly tired and yet you cannot seem to relax. You may sweat a lot,
even at night. You may feel that you might vomit.
If you have generalized anxiety
you may find it difficult to leave your home. (Something terrible might
happen). You may be afraid of losing it in public. You may feel
insecure in all parts of your life and you may be diagnosed as having agoraphobia.
Systemic Solutions for Chronic Anxiety
Anxiety often follows a systemic imbalance in a family, such
as a premature death. Also, if a family member takes risks, for the benefit of the family, the family
may not acknowledge the member for taking those risks. Another family member
may identify with that perceived hero - and express
the fear that the perceived hero could not express.
An example was a prostitute who
supported a poor family, but the (religious) family claimed that a rich relative was
sending them money. The prostitute's young sister became extremely anxious. This
anxiety was resolved within
eight hours of systemic coaching - and remained resolved two years later.
Another example was a teenage boy diagnosed with an
anxiety disorder after his father became involved with a cult. The son's symptoms
vanished following about six hours of systemic family coaching.
We can coach many people with anxiety
disorders to enjoy more calmness and better lives. Our systemic solutions
include individual, couple and family coaching. We can coach people with chronic anxiety
to change
their disturbing thoughts, manage their motivations and get what they want.
You can reduce the levels of stress and distress within a
family that may either contribute to or result from the expressed symptoms.
Systemic coaching can help you change how you think about, and react to,
situations in which you feel anxious or fearful. You can change how you respond
to life.
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We can coach you to improve your relationships,
achieve your goals, dissolve inner conflicts and manage your emotions.
Our systemic coach training can teach you how to dissolve toxic entanglements
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Doctors often treat anxiety with
antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs (benzodiazepines
& beta-blockers). Please consult your physician about anxiety
symptoms or other medical conditions.
We welcome friendly people who are motivated and
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Coach people to gain clarity, dissolve success and relationship issues. Coach people
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