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Do you feel generally anxious? Do
you often feel overwhelmed? Do you worry unduly? Do you criticize
yourself without mercy? We coach people to control fear, worry and
anxiety - without drugs!
Many health professionals offer drugs as
substitutes for changing emotions and relationships. Drugs are easier than
applying intelligence, focus and analytical skills. Drugs are cheaper for
patients (in the short term) and much more profitable for health professionals.
If you prefer drugs, contact your MD.
Chronic Anxiety, Entanglement & Identification
Do you worry constantly, even when nothing seems wrong?
Anxiety is more than worrying. If you can't relax; if you always expect
the worst, you may suffer from chronic anxiety. And if you feel so afraid,
you may also feel depressed about feeling afraid. It's not your fault ... and we may be able
to help you.
If you worry a lot, people may call you irritable or
grouchy. Your muscles may get tense and sore. You will likely feel tired.
It may be hard for you to concentrate, to relax or to sleep. You may not
even know what you are worried about. Your life may not make sense.
Anxiety may originate in childhood, but more often
starts during teenage years. More women seem to suffer from anxiety than
men. Some anxiety problems may be due to food allergies and sensitivities;
while in our experience, most fears
represent entanglements and
bonded relationships.
Does chronic anxiety seems to run in your family? Does
someone in each generation suffer in this way? Anxiety may indicate a
cross-generational entanglement, if someone in each generation is
entangled with someone in the previous generation.
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I always had good ideas, but I couldn't make
any money ... I was scared that bad things would happen. During our talks I
realized that I was carrying my grandmother's fears. She often worried about
unknown problems. It was months after our sessions before I realized that 90% of
those old fears were gone. |
Chronic anxiety is often associated with a certain family
disturbance. If a person (usually a family member) does brave or courageous
acts, yet is criticized or condemned by the family, someone else in the family,
usually a child, expresses the fear of the brave person - the perceived hero.
Such anxiety may be a result of this identification.
The primary symptom is fear - often fear of change. Our systemic coaching
offers powerful ways to end this form of identity loss, a chronic display of fear.
(A paradox is - if you are afraid of change, you may be afraid of
change-workers.)
Health Anxieties
If you feel anxious about your health, you probably
wish that you didn't. You may have health anxiety.
Although many health professionals and drug salespeople are
happily obsessed with other people's health, few medical professionals
seem to accept that some people have health anxieties. They may accuse
you of exaggerating - or they may call
you a hypochondriac, a malingerer or a liar.
Obsessions
and Compulsions . Addictions
Do you interpret body sensations as evidence of
serious disease (hypochondria)? Do you invent medical symptoms to
avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to evade military
service (malingering)? Do you lie about your health
(sometimes called Munchausen's) to influence or manipulate people?
Do you invent medical symptoms to help you get what you want?
Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals? Health anxiety is also associated
with post-traumatic stress and eating disorders. It is common amongst people who
feel neglected or who want more control.
Trauma and
PTSD . Eating Disorders .
Psychosomatic
Hypochondria: Worried Sick?
Hypochondria is a name for persistent irrational fear
that you are suffering, or will suffer, from a serious medical
condition. You may think that you have heart problems, cancer or
some serious disease - and that your doctor is not trying hard
enough to help you.
You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain.
But if you misread these symptoms, you may distrust medical professionals.
You may interpret normal signs (like headache, dizziness, fatigue etc) as
dangerous. This may be connected to
loneliness, depression, guilt or a preoccupation with death.
If you believe that your body is defective or deformed
- you may be labeled with Body Dismorphic Disorder.
You may use phantom defects to justify a depressed lifestyle.
Endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your
unpleasant feelings about your body.
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Most
hypochondriac people will never go to a psychiatrist. They'll say, 'I don't
want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan
repeated.' Dr Arthur Barsky (Harvard Medical School). |
Phobias & Social Anxiety
Phobias may be called obsessions and compulsions, and
irrational. We perceive most phobias as examples of
accelerated learning! Something happens that a person can never forget. We can
help most people dissolve phobic reactions in a few sessions.
You may be labeled with social phobia
(social anxiety) if you dread being judged, criticized, and evaluated.
You may be told that your fear is irrational; yet anxiety persists.
If you have social phobia
you find it difficult to be with people ("What are they thinking
about me; maybe they don't like me"). You may attract attention to
yourself or even try to be a center of attention ("If they're going to
talk about me, I'll give them something to talk about!").
GAD - Generalized Anxiety
Are you
constantly worried or afraid? Do you even worry in
your dreams? You may have muscle pains and headaches, you may feel
constantly tired and yet you cannot seem to relax. You may sweat a lot,
even at night. You may feel that you might vomit.
If you have generalized anxiety
you may find it difficult to leave your home. (Something terrible might
happen). You may be afraid of losing it in public. You may feel
insecure in all parts of your life and you may be diagnosed as having agoraphobia.
Solutions for Chronic Anxiety
Anxiety often follows an imbalance in a family, such
as a divorce or premature death. Also, if a family member takes risks, for the benefit of the family,
and is ignored, another family member
may identify with that perceived hero - and express
the fear that the perceived hero could not express.
An example was a prostitute who
supported a poor family, but her (religious) family claimed that a rich relative was
sending them money. The prostitute's younger sister became extremely anxious. (This
anxiety was resolved within
eight hours of our coaching - and remained resolved two years later.)
Another example was a teenage boy diagnosed with an
anxiety disorder soon after his father became obsessed with multi-level
marketing. The boy's symptoms vanished during our family coaching.
We coach motivated adults to enjoy more calmness,
to change
their disturbing thoughts, to manage their motivations and to get what they want.
We help people change how they think about, and react to,
situations in which they feel anxious or fearful - how they respond
to life.
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We coach motivated adults to improve
relationships and manage emotions
as normal steps to achieving their goals. |
Doctors often treat anxiety with
antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs (benzodiazepines
& beta-blockers). Please consult your physician about anxiety
symptoms or other medical conditions.
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