Soul work encourages a joyful
expression of life that brings insight and understanding.
We help people solve emotional and relationship problems.
As soon as the rush is over,
I'm going to have a nervous breakdown!
I worked hard for it,
I owe it to myself,
And nobody will deprive me of it!
What happens during a Nervous or Mental Breakdown?
Nervous, mental or emotional breakdowns are lay terms.
Nerves and emotions don't break down; these terms imply a loss of conscious
control or a sense of approaching collapse. These terms also refer to people
who hide negative emotions, until finally they express their emotions
The emotional crisis often called a nervous, mental or emotional
breakdown may include a temporary loss of personality or disintegration
of personal identity. The unpleasant consequences may
include an inability to function, dissociation,
disillusionment, depression, hyperactivity, anxiety and / or panic attacks.
Nervous breakdowns can be disturbing, disorienting and frightening.
They may come suddenly following stress or they may seem to build up over
time. They may be triggered by the
loss of idealistic dreams.
Depression, confusion or anxiety may accompany an unpleasant sense of,
"I am out of control".
We also help people deal with humiliation - feeling judged
as a failure by important people. Humiliation is common following
emotional neglect, bullying or favoritism; and threats of humiliation are
common in emotional blackmail -
including pressure from coaches, teachers and helping professionals.
Warning Signs of Nervous Breakdown
Some warning signs can alert you that someone might be experiencing
an emotional crisis or relationship breakdown, and may benefit from immediate
help or attention.
- threatens or tries to harm self or others
- cannot remember important recent events
- damages possessions, home or relationships
- endlessly complains about feeling
- words make no sense (often called word salad)
- cannot cope with daily chores and
If you see
any of these, consider calling a crisis help line or other source
Many cities have suicide or crisis hotlines. Hospitals or
medical centers may
help you decide how serious are the signs and what
you can do to help.
Stress and Emotional Breakdowns
Anxiety, stress and depression can occur when people suppress
and hide their reactions. People who feel that they have no choices
may experience and express strong negative emotions. Following
lasting stress, some people may say that they feel on the edge
of a nervous breakdown.
You may want to react to stressful situations by either
getting away from the situation or fighting back. You cannot
always do this. If you cannot run away or fight back, you
might force yourself to stay ... and your stress builds up.
The same thing might happen at home, or in a close relationship.
To avoid becoming overwhelmed, you can change your relationships
or you can learn to cope with stress. You can eat healthier. You can
walk a lot and exercise for about half hour at least 3 times a week.
You can ensure that get enough sleep. You can avoid alcohol and illegal
drugs. You can take a vacation. You can learn how to
relax. You can build and enjoy better relationships.
Coping with stress often means learning how to communicate
better. Our coaching in communication skills may help.
We also help people recognize and change stressful relationship
habits and complex relationship problems.
Personality Masks can Break Down
People we have met who broke down often appeared to
be either super-people-pleasing and/or
super-responsible. A people-pleaser
may obsess about being nice and not offending anyone. Super-responsible
people may be perceived by others as control-freaks, perfectionists or
Perfectionists usually obsess about their goals. They want to be
the champions, the best, the winners
etc. They may try to make their own lights brighter by making other people's
lights seem dimmer. But they may break down if they do not reach their goals.
On the other hand, the high achievers we have met seem to enjoy their
lives and their experiences, and they tend to be more persistent, happier with
life and more successful than perfectionists.
We offer solutions. When a personality mask finally breaks down,
a more truthful and healthier identity can emerge. This
emergence can be painful and haphazard with a lot of stress, or
gently self-controlled during our chaos coaching.
Solutions for Anxiety, Stress and Depression
What causes breakdowns?
- Do illnesses cause breakdowns? Perhaps sometimes,
although few people who become ill experience mental breakdown.
- Does trauma cause breakdowns?
Perhaps sometimes, although few people break down during trauma, even
those who suffer extreme trauma.
- Do genetic factors cause break downs? Rather than
genetics, behavior copied from suffering family members is the only
known link to inherited dispositions to stress illnesses.
- Do low levels of neurotransmitters (brain
chemicals) cause breakdowns? Perhaps, although low levels of
neurotransmitters may be a symptom of breakdowns rather than a cause.
Neurotransmitters are brain chemicals which help regulate moods. To
boost these levels, people can change their behavior or you can take drugs.
The easier route (and much more profitable for health professionals)
is that you take prescription medication -
(and support $12 billion / year drug sales in America alone).
About 70% of people who take antidepressants will experience
a breakdown if they stop taking these addictive drugs. Antidepressants
treat symptoms Ė low levels of neurotransmitters
in the brain. (While antidepressants are often given to the wrong people,
many people with severe depression are untreated.)
So what is the root cause of mental breakdown? The main difference
between people who experience a breakdown and people who donít appears to be
emotional maturity ... how well they
manage and express their emotions. Immature people more often seem to
suffer unhealthy relationships, especially with their families and friends,
they may avoid resolving stress and generally overwork.
Please consult a physician about
any medical conditions.
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