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It's easier for health professionals and most patients to
use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine,
or with anti-depressants and stimulants, are easier than applying intelligence,
focus and analytical skills to complex relationship situations. Drugs seem
cheaper for the patient (in the short term) and are more profitable for health
professionals.
The long-term consequences of ignoring emotions,
together with the side-effects of psychoactive drugs, are unacceptable
to an increasing number of health professionals ... and their patients.
Crisis, Trauma & PTSD Coaching
Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved
injury, abuse or serious loss? Did you suffer a serious accident or a
life-threatening disease? Do you since experience anxiety, or helplessness,
or perhaps horror? Do you feel disturbed when something reminds you of that
event? Do you try to avoid anything that reminds you of it? We can help
you.
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What are Crisis, Trauma and Abuse? |
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In our Systemic Coaching, crisis refers
to an event in which a person has not yet re-gained emotional stability,
although much time may have passed.
In our Systemic Coaching, trauma
refers to events that cause a person to fragment their personality,
typically to manage overwhelming emotions that cannot be rationalized.
Following trauma, split-off partial personalities (parts) are typically
age-regressed (childish).
In our Systemic Coaching, abuse refers to trauma that, in the
opinion of a person,
was deliberately caused with an intent to create harm or suffering. |
Did you cut off and hide some part of yourself? Are you
depressed following a traumatic event or series of events? Do you feel detached
or fragmented or dissociated? Do you have panic or anxiety attacks? Can you
concentrate - or does your attention wander? Do you feel exhausted, yet
you cannot sleep properly? Do you suffer from recurring unpleasant emotions
or violent nightmares? Are you depressed?
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Military Intelligence |
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Mental health problems
are part of warfare. A survey of 1000 US troops returning from the
Middle East and Iraq in 2005 found that 30% had anxiety, depression,
nightmares, irrational anger and an
inability to concentrate. A 2004 survey of combat troops in Iraq
combat zones showed that about 13% experienced significant
mental-health problems. Stress-related problems are often worse for
National Guard members, who try to return to civilian life after
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Unresolved trauma, from a stressful event or a series of
events, can cause flashbacks and nightmares. You may feel emotionally numb or
you may hurt yourself and others with explosive emotions and mood swings. You
may be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress (PTSD) or
depression, see
identity loss.
Trauma & Crisis Coaching
We help motivated adults heal the consequences
of trauma in war, terrorism, prison, accidents, rape, military service,
domestic violence, childhood abuse or surgery. If you wish, we can help you to help
yourself with our unique post-trauma and post-abuse coaching.
In our
Systems 4 training, we teach coaching
strategies to resolve the consequences of abuse and trauma. To accelerate this
return to health, we may help people resolve their emotional and relationship
issues that existed BEFORE their trauma and fragmentation.
Stress
. Depression
. Insomnia
. Anger Management
Forgotten, Taboo & Repressed Memories
You may have symptoms associated with
trauma, but not remember a trauma. You may have strong unpleasant emotions but
only remember a minor incident. You may have forgotten that you forgot some
traumatic or abusive event. Perhaps you were young or perhaps the trauma
involved important people. We can coach you to safely remember traumatic
events and resolve and abusive memories.
A common effect of trauma is identity loss,
in which you may feel you have lost part of your sense of self, your sense of
integrity or your sense of life. Identity loss has four main varieties -
identification, identity conflict, lost identity and identity beliefs.
If you were abused, or if you participated in or witnessed
something that you could not rationalize, then you may have "split off"
part or parts of yourself. To maintain an important relationship, you may believe
things that you know are false. Our systemic coaching can help you pull yourself
together.
Your
identity has been shaped in part by your parents, by ethnic or religious
values, by political propaganda and by your education. Your
identity may involve your culture, such as a racial or a minority
group. We can help you accept, acknowledge and integrate all
of who you are.
Refugee Coaching . Exit Coaching .
Abuse
Consequences of Stress, Trauma & Abuse
If you experienced stress, trauma or abuse, yet do not
resolve it, you are less likely to stay employed or married, and you are
more likely to feel depressed, aggressive or violent. You may suffer
lowered well-being and self-esteem - and you may only relate to people
who suffered stress or trauma.
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Common Symptoms following Stress,
Trauma & Abuse
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- accident prone
- anxiety / hypochondria
- apathy / lethargy
- chronic or phantom pain
- depression / guilt
- digestive problems
- dissociation
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- hopelessness
- hyperactive
- isolation / withdrawal
- mood swings
- panic attacks
- phobias
- promiscuity
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- risky relationships
- self-harm
- sleep disorders
- startles easily
- substance abuse
- volatile emotions
- worthlessness
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If you split off part of yourself during stress, abuse
or trauma, you may feel and act like a wounded child whenever something reminds
you of those events. Our telephone coaching can help you recover, nurture and
integrate parts of you stuck in compulsions and obsessions.
The consequences of abuse can include a sense of helplessness
or inability to make decisions or to act; shame, guilt, self-blame; a sense of
being dirty or defiled; a sense of complete difference from others (may include
feeling special, alone or separated).
Relatives, especially children, may try to carry your burden.
Your decreased sense of life and mood swings may be interpreted as
victim or unable to love. Your helplessness may motivate
your children to protect you as they would protect a wounded child. (This is
often repeated across generations).
The consequences of ignoring unresolved confusion and fragmentation
can include Toxic Bonds, Learning
Disabilities, Depression,
Schizophrenia and
Bipolar Disorder in yourself or your children.
Resolving Stress, Abuse & Trauma
Some symptoms associated with abuse and trauma can be
managed with medication. But if the underlying identity loss is not
restored, then the symptoms will return, often in other forms, perhaps
precipitating long term dysfunction. Adult dysfunction is most evident in
relationships.
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I was a soldier during Croatia's war with Serbia.
My unit was abandoned in a village attacked by the Yugoslav army.
I saw civilians being butchered ... and I ran. I found a shell hole in a
field and I stayed in that hole for three days. Part of me died in
that hole. Since then I could not concentrate. I might cry if I heard
sudden loud sounds. I was diagnosed with PTSD ... During our work, I
found myself - the me who died in that hole. Now I can concentrate and
focus - I am myself again for the first time in years. Zagreb,
Croatia |
If you have suffered severe stress, abuse or trauma, you
may try to distract yourself with alcohol, drugs, sex or food.
We can help you regain your values and live with integrity. Drugs and obsessions
can evaporate as you rebuild your identity and realign with your life
purpose. You can recover your self-respect
- as you learn to live and love again.
Flowchart . Addictions
. Sexual Issues
Loss of a Pet
If your pet was like a family member, then the
shock of losing your pet may be traumatic, with similar consequences
to post-traumatic stress. Systemic coaching can help
you heal relationships with pets.
Renewal
Our telephone coaching and professional training offers
systemic solutions for stress, trauma and abuse. We can help you
rebuild your relationships and clarify relationships with people
who are missing or dead. Do you want to recover lost or hidden parts
of yourself? Do you want to recover your integrity, your essential
sense of self? Do you want to move on with your life?
Systemic
Coaching Overview . Review by
a Medical Doctor
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My mother and me were in a car crash when I was thirteen
and I watched her die. I had years of therapy for panic attacks that
didn't help me. Six hours of Soulwork helped me find myself. Now I'm
enrolled into a
university. Thank you! Warsaw, Poland |
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to benefit from our experience?
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