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It's easier for health professionals and most patients to
use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine,
or with anti-depressants and stimulants, are easier than applying intelligence,
focus and analytical skills to complex relationship situations. Drugs
seem cheaper for the patient (in the short term), and more profitable
for health professionals.
The long-term consequences of ignoring emotions,
together with the side-effects of psychoactive drugs, are unacceptable
to an increasing number of health professionals and their patients.
Crisis, Trauma & PTSD
Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved
injury, abuse or serious loss? Did you suffer a serious accident or a
life-threatening disease? Do you since experience anxiety, or helplessness,
or perhaps horror? Do you feel disturbed when something reminds you of that
event? Do you try to avoid anything that reminds you of it?
Did you cut off and hide some part of yourself? Are you
depressed following a traumatic event or series of events? Do you feel detached or
fragmented or dissociated? Do you have panic or anxiety attacks?
Can you concentrate - or does your attention wander?
Do you feel exhausted, yet you cannot sleep properly? Do
you suffer from recurring unpleasant emotions or violent nightmares? Are you
depressed - yet you do not know why?
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Military Intelligence |
Although mental health problems
are part of warfare, a survey of 1000 US troops returning from the
Middle East and Iraq in 2005 found that 30% had anxiety, depression, nightmares, irrational anger and an
inability to concentrate. A 2004 survey of combat troops in Iraq
combat zones showed that about 13% experienced significant
mental-health problems. Stress-related problems are often worse for
National Guard members, who try to return to civilian life after
active military duty. |
Unresolved trauma, from a stressful event or a series of
events, can cause flashbacks and nightmares. You may feel emotionally numb or
you may hurt yourself and others with explosive emotions and mood swings. You
may be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress (PTSD) or
depression, see
identity loss.
Trauma & Crisis Coaching
Systemic coaching can help you heal the consequences
of trauma in war, terrorism, prison, accidents, rape, military service,
domestic violence, childhood abuse or surgery. We can help you to help
yourself with our unique post-trauma and post-abuse coaching. Our systemic
coaching works.
We teach professional coaching strategies to resolve the
consequences of abuse and trauma in
Systemic 4. Sometimes, to accelerate healing, we can
even help people resolve their emotional and relationship issues in a meta-frame
from BEFORE their trauma and fragmentation.
[ Stress ] [
Depression ] [
Insomnia ] [ Anger Management ]
Forgotten, Taboo & Repressed Memories
You may have symptoms associated with
trauma, but not remember a trauma. You may have strong unpleasant emotions but
only remember a minor incident. You may have forgotten that you forgot some
traumatic or abusive event.
Perhaps you were young or perhaps the trauma involved important people.
We can coach you to recover and resolve traumatic events and abusive memories.
A common effect of trauma is identity loss,
in which you may feel you have lost part of your sense of
self, your sense of integrity or your sense of life. Identity loss has four main
varieties - identification, identity conflict, lost
identity and identity beliefs.
If you were abused, or if you participated
in or witnessed something that you could not rationalize, then you may
have "split off" some part of yourself. To maintain an important
relationship, you may believe things that you know are false. Our systemic coaching can
help you pull yourself together.
Your
identity has been shaped in part by your parents, by ethnic or religious values,
by political propaganda and by your education. Your
identity may involve your culture, such
as a racial or a minority group. Our systemic coaching can help you accept and acknowledge all
of who you are.
[
Refugee Coaching ] [ Exit Coaching ]
Consequences of Stress, Trauma & Abuse
If you experienced stress, trauma or abuse, yet do not resolve it,
you are less likely to stay employed or married, and
you are more likely to feel depressed, aggressive or violent. You may
suffer lowered well-being and self-esteem - and you may only relate
to people who suffered stress or trauma.
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Symptoms that may follow Stress,
Trauma & Abuse
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- accident prone
- anxiety and hypochondria
- apathy
- chronic or phantom pain
- dangerous relationships
- depression
- digestive problems
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- dissociation
- hopelessness
- hyperactive
- isolation and withdrawal
- mood swings
- panic attacks
- phobias
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- promiscuity
- self-harm
- sleep disorders
- startles easily
- substance abuse
- volatile emotions
- worthlessness
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If you split off part of yourself during stress, abuse
or trauma, you may feel and act like a wounded child whenever something reminds
you of your trauma. Our systemic coaching can help you recover, nurture and
integrate that part of you.
The consequences of abuse can include a sense of helplessness
or inability to make decisions or to act; shame, guilt, self-blame; a sense of
being dirty or defiled; a sense of complete difference from others (may include
feeling special, alone or separated).
Relatives, especially children, may try to carry your burden.
Your decreased sense of life and mood swings may be interpreted as
victim or unable to love. Your helplessness may motivate
your children to protect you as they would protect a wounded child. (This is
often repeated across generations).
The consequences of ignoring unresolved confusion and fragmentation can
include Toxic Bonds, Learning
Disabilities, Depression,
Schizophrenia and
Bipolar Disorder in yourself or your children.
Resolving Stress, Abuse & Trauma
Some symptoms associated with abuse and trauma can be
managed with medication. But if the underlying identity loss is not
restored, then the symptoms will return, often in other forms, perhaps
precipitating long term dysfunction. Adult dysfunction is most evident in
relationships.
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I was a soldier during Croatia's war with Serbia.
My unit was abandoned in a village attacked by the Yugoslav army.
I saw civilians being butchered ... and I ran. I found a hole in a
field and I stayed in that hole for three days. Part of me died in
that hole. Since then I could not concentrate. I might cry if I heard
sudden loud sounds. I was diagnosed with
PTSD ... During Soulwork, I found myself - the me who
died in that hole. Now I can concentrate and focus - I am myself
again for the first time in years. ZL, Zagreb, Croatia, 2005 |
If you have suffered severe stress, abuse or trauma, you
may have tried to distract yourself with alcohol, drugs, sex or food.
Our systemic coaching can help you regain your values and live with integrity.
Drugs and obsessions may become unnecessary as you rebuild your identity
and realign with your life purpose. DO you want to recover your self-respect - as you learn to live and love again.
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Soulwork Flowchart ] [ Addictions
] [ Sexual Issues ]
Loss of a Beloved Pet
If your pet was like a family member, then the
shock of losing your pet may be traumatic, with similar consequences
to post-traumatic stress. Systemic coaching can help
you heal relationships with pets.
Renewal
Our systemic coaching and coach training offers
systemic solutions for severe stress, trauma and
abuse. We can help you rebuild your relationships and
clarify relationships with people who are missing or dead.
Do you want to recover lost or hidden parts of yourself? Do you want
to recover your integrity, your essential sense of
self? Do you want to move on with your life?
[ Systemic
Coaching Overview ] [ Soulwork Review by
a Medical Doctor ]
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My mother and me were in a car crash when I was thirteen
and I watched her die. I had years of therapy for
panic attacks, but it didn't help much. Six hours of Soulwork helped me
find myself. Now I'm at university. Thank you! JK, Warsaw, Poland |
Please consult your physician about opinions
or recommendations about medical conditions.
We welcome friendly people who are emotionally
stable. Do you want to coach people to gain clarity, dissolve emotional and
relationship blocks to success, and find their own sense of life? Do you want to
help people build and maintain quality relationships? Contact us.
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Carruthers 2004, 2008 All rights reserved.
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