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Some people say
that weight loss is easy - just consume
less energy than you expend. But weight control is difficult for many people. Weight
reflects your caloric intake - and your exercise, emotions, lifestyle and relationships.
Your weight also reflects the multi-million dollar marketing of junk food.
Weight-ing for Health?
Body weight is a form of communication. Underweight, overweight or obese
often communicates messages that people do not or cannot otherwise express. See me!
Love me!, Help me!, Avoid me! are common examples of
communication-by-weight. Your body weight indicates much more than diet.
If you do not express your feelings, you may overeat instead. (Overeating sweet food
seems especially common amongst people who, as children, were rewarded with
candies and chocolate by their parents.)
Many weight issues have emotional benefits
that outweigh the health costs. Being overweight often signals emotional and
relationship issues. See Eating Disorders
and Obsessions & Compulsions.
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Does a relationship or family crisis change your
eating habits? Do you respond to
family problems or a relationship crisis with binge-eating or with self-imposed starvation,
especially if you feel guilt or
depression. Or do you respond to weight changes with a relationship crisis?
You are not alone.
Weight & Compliance
Overweight and underweight is often the result of manipulation
- by sales pitches, the media, friends, colleagues and family members. Are you subtly pressured
to eat? Do you eat when you are not hungry? Do you eat to please others?
A common feature of codependent
relationships is that one person may control another person's access to
resources (e.g. money, transportation, medication) or to addictive
substances (e.g. cigarettes, alcohol, illegal drugs) ... or to food.
Sexual Issues & Weight Loss
Happily married women gain an average of about 6 kilo
(14 pounds) during 12 years of marriage, while unhappily married women gain
about 20 kilo (42 pounds) in the same time. (Davis 1987)
A study found that 35% of female patients indicated that being overweight
decreased their husband's jealousy, or reduced their own fear of having an
affair (Felitti 1993). Another study found that husbands may become anxious
about their wives' weight loss (Neil, Marshall and Yale 1978).
Sexual Issues . Sexual Solutions
Boundary Issues & Weight Loss
Boundary issues concern limits, rules, power games and victimization
- although much boundary behavior is either unconscious or semi-consciously decided.
Body weight is often used to either avoid being victimized and / or to victimize others.
Examples are:
- You eat to feel full - not to satisfy hunger
- Your parents expressed love primarily as food
- You never learned to say "No!" to
offered food
- You or your partner become overweight to test
each other's love
- You or your partner become overweight to avoid sexual intimacy
- Your parents believed that "overweight = healthy"
and "healthy weight = too thin"
Our telephone coaching and coach training can help you control your desire to eat by changing
your boundaries which may include trauma-coaching.
Weight Loss Strategies
Moving from an unhealthy weight to a healthy weight is not easy, fast
nor convenient! In Western countries, refined starches and processed fats are so cheap
and commonly available that if you insist on easy food - if you insist on
fast food - and if you insist on convenient food - you may become
overweight, or even get
fatter! If you really want to lose weight, make your weight loss a real priority ...
Assume that food companies want you to eat refined starches
and processed fats. Assume that your government is powerless to stop them. Assume that you are the victim of years of
psychological promotion and - probably - parental
brainwashing. A common diet will likely cause common health problems and
common deaths (see hypertension.)
You are not alone. We can help you dissolve
emotional entanglements and relationship
bonds that motivate eating disorders or prolong obesity.
After resolving relationship issues, emotional compulsions and
limiting beliefs, 30 simple weight-loss strategies are:
- Talk to your doctor
- Avoid canned drinks
- Eat fruit twice each day
- Sit down at a table to eat
- Eat more green vegetables
- Walk when you're stressed
- Keep a food diary or journal
- Avoid anything in a cereal box
- Avoid junk food as if it is poison!
- Eat less meats and refined starches
- Have a sweet treat only once a week
- Drink many glasses of water each day
- Eat more fiber with fruits and vegetables
- Keep healthful snacks at home and at work
- Exercise or walk most days for 1 to 2 hours
- Forgive yourself - and make healthier choices
- Do not eat while reading or watching television
- Shop for food after eating, using shopping lists
- Forget fast results. Healthy weight loss is slow!
- Eat slowly-- make meals last at least 20 minutes
- Eat fresh fruits and raw or lightly cooked vegetables
- Eat three meals and two or three planned snacks daily
- Minimize fat by baking, grilling, broiling, roasting or steaming
- Cook with a clear broth, nonstick cooking spray, wine or water
- Avoid food with added sugar (sucrose, fructose corn syrup, etc)
- Ask your friends and family to support your efforts to be
healthy
- Aerobic exercise a minimum of 30 minutes three times a week
- Alcohol stimulates appetite, slows metabolism and
is full of calories!
- Stop eating before you feel full. Within 20
minutes you
should feel fine
- Eat regular meals to increase your metabolism and burn more calories
Consult your physician about any opinions or
recommendations about weight or medical conditions.
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