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Coaching, Paranoia & Paranoid Behavior
by Martyn Carruthers

Would you like to benefit from our experience?

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma? Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your boss's moods? We can help you untangle your life ... and you can help other people reclaim their freedom.

Symptoms of Paranoia

Following abuse, trauma, emotional stress or sleep deprivation, some people may show the unpleasant symptoms associated with paranoia. Paranoid symptoms may also arise from denied guilt and hidden anger. Guilt is a normal result of hurting people. Anger is a normal result of perceiving injustice. Paranoid symptoms may also follow an accident, abandonment, betrayal or increased responsibility.

Paranoia may include suspicion, anger and hatred. A person may mistrust others, act constantly irritated, be easily offended, cannot forgive, strongly react to perceived criticism, be preoccupied with conspiracy, fear being deceived, incessantly argue, change moods abruptly and act in self-righteous and perfectionist ways.

Paranoid behavior often involves exaggerated feelings of self-importance or persecution. A person with paranoia may function and relate in some contexts, however their lives often seem generally isolated.

Systemic Coaching & Paranoia

We can coach responsible people to resolve paranoia, although we recommend that inexperienced coaches refer people with symptoms of paranoia to experienced professionals.

Some people deliberately induce paranoia in others to gain compliance. This may be used during induction into cults and cult-like groups such as military organizations, and as preparation for interrogation. Programs to induce paranoia often precede declaring war. See abusive relationships.

Many people say they have healthy paranoia - referring to a suspicion of promotional offers that seem too good to be true, and to a perception that trusting unknown people is naive or stupid.

Paranoia & Manipulation

The people most concerned about manipulation are sometimes the worst manipulators.

> How do you know, Martyn, who you can trust with your
> knowledge and when it could be dangerous? I think
> so much about manipulation and I don't want people
> to get better at it. Is it OK for a good cause?
> I don't know yet. Can others use it to manipulate me?
> I try to stay aware of all manipulation so that I
> can make conscious choices every moment.
> I protect myself and watch people very carefully ...
> I work very hard to make sure that no-one can hurt me.

Solutions for Identity Loss

As paranoid behavior seems to be related to aggression, anxiety and guilt, systemic coaching can dissolve unpleasant consequences of abusive relationships and emotional incest etc and integrates hurt parts or fearful sub-personalities of people with symptoms of paranoia. Such split-off parts or partial personalities are common results of abuse and trauma - we call it identity loss.

Some behaviors indicating identity loss are:

  • Dissociated - person is not there, preoccupied, withdrawn
  • Aggressive - person is irritable, mean, wants to fight
  • Anxious - person is fearful, worried, scared of ordinary things
  • Depressed - person is melancholy, purposeless
  • Emotional swings - person is endlessly conflicted, bipolar
  • Guilt - person avoids happiness and pleasure
  • Psychosomatic - pains, dysfunction and paralysis without physical or biological cause

Paranoia & Victim Identification

Identity loss includes identifying with someone else. One common identification is victim identification.

If you identified with a victim, you express anger that the perceived victim did not express. You may be suspicious. You may evaluate each person you meet - if you decide the other is a victim - you may try to help that person. If you decide that the other is a victimizer, you may try to punish that person. You may dedicate your life to helping victims and punishing victimizers.

Some common signs of victim identification are tensed knuckles and flared nostrils when remembering the victimizer, abnormally large jaw muscles (from grinding teeth) and lines of muscles on the forehead. The eyes and lips may become increasingly narrowed over time.

If you come to believe that the victims are the real victimizers - you may feel lost at first, and then express anger to people that you consider to be manipulative victims (people who pretend to be victims to gain sympathy, power or other benefits).

Identification with a victim, combined with dissociation following childhood abuse or abandonment, can comprise a systemic basis for symptoms that may be called paranoid schizophrenia.

Our disidentification can resolve systemic imbalances and perceived injustice. After disidentification, you become free to rebuild your own identity, and to feel and express your own emotions.

Did you have to believe lies to protect important relationships. Relationship bonds are like collections of toxic beliefs. They may be called schema by psychologists, miasms by homeopaths, fixations by psychoanalysts and entities by the esoterically inclined. In our early work, we referred to relationship bonds as thoughtforms. We often dissolve relationship bonds as a normal part of helping clients get what they want.

Consult a physician about any opinions about paranoia or other medical conditions.

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Systems 1 How to evaluate relationship dynamics and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, identify blocks, resolve objections & plan for success
Systems 3 How to provide or continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma, and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to resolve therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
Systems 8 How to coach partners to build lasting happiness and avoid partnership breakdown
Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems and to achieve family goals
Systems 10 How to coach team leaders and teams to develop while solving team problems
Systems 11 How to coach communities to survive and prosper in a changing world
Specialty Advanced workshops and specialty training tailored to fulfill your goals and needs

Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must have Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.