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Are you entangled in difficult
relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your
boss's moods? We can help you untangle
your life ... and you can help other people reclaim their freedom.
For me, there are no negative emotions. Guilt is a normal
result of hurting people. Anger is a normal result of perceiving injustice. Fear
is a normal result of a threat. Aggression is a normal response to an unjust
threat. And so on. And sometimes unpleasant emotions seem out of control.
Symptoms of Paranoia
Following abuse, trauma, emotional stress or sleep
deprivation, some people may show the unpleasant anxiety or aggression
associated with paranoia. Paranoid symptoms may also arise from
denied guilt and hidden anger.
Paranoid symptoms may also follow an accident, abandonment or betrayal.
Paranoia may include suspicion, anger and hatred. A
person may mistrust others, act constantly irritated, be easily offended,
cannot forgive, strongly react to perceived criticism, be preoccupied
with conspiracy, fear being deceived, incessantly argue,
change moods abruptly and act in self-righteous and perfectionist ways.
Paranoid behavior often involves exaggerated feelings
of self-importance or persecution. A person with paranoia may function
and relate in some contexts, however their lives often seem generally isolated.
Systemic Coaching & Paranoia
We can coach responsible people to resolve
paranoia, although we recommend that inexperienced coaches refer
people with symptoms of paranoia to experienced professionals.
Some people deliberately induce paranoia in others to
gain compliance. This may be used during induction into cults and cult-like
groups such as military organizations, and as preparation for interrogation.
Programs to induce paranoia often precede declaring war. See
abusive relationships.
Many people say they have healthy paranoia
- referring to a suspicion of promotional offers that seem too good
to be true, and to a perception that trusting unknown people is
naive or stupid.
Paranoia, Manipulation & Identity Loss
The people most concerned about manipulation
are sometimes the worst manipulators.
> How do you know, Martyn, who
you can trust with your
> knowledge and when it could be dangerous? I think
> so much about manipulation and I don't want people
> to get better at it. Is it OK for a good cause?
> I don't know yet. Can others use it to manipulate me?
> I try to stay aware of all manipulation so that I
> can make conscious choices every moment.
> I protect myself and watch people very carefully ...
> I work very hard to make sure that no-one can hurt me. |
As paranoid behavior seems to be related to
aggression, anxiety and guilt, systemic coaching can dissolve
unpleasant consequences of abusive relationships
and emotional incest etc and integrates hurt
parts or fearful sub-personalities of people with symptoms of
paranoia. Such split-off parts or partial personalities are common results of
abuse and trauma - we call it identity loss.
Some behaviors indicating identity loss are:
- Dissociated - person is not there,
preoccupied, withdrawn
- Aggressive -
person is irritable, mean, wants to fight
- Anxious - person is fearful, worried,
scared of ordinary things
- Depressed - person is melancholy,
purposeless
- Emotional swings
- person is endlessly conflicted, bipolar
- Guilt - person avoids happiness and
pleasure
- Psychosomatic - pains,
dysfunction and paralysis without physical or biological cause
Paranoia & Victim Identification
Identity loss includes
identifying with someone else. One common identification is
victim identification.
If you identified with a victim, you express anger
that the perceived victim did not express. You may be suspicious. You
may evaluate each person you meet - if you decide the other is a victim
- you may try to help that person. If you decide that the
other is a victimizer, you may try to punish that person.
You may dedicate your life to helping victims and punishing victimizers.
Some common signs of victim identification are tensed knuckles
and flared nostrils when remembering the victimizer, abnormally large jaw
muscles (from grinding teeth) and lines of muscles on the forehead. The eyes
and lips may become increasingly narrowed over time.
If you come to believe that the victims are the real
victimizers - you may feel lost at first, and then express anger to people
that you consider to be manipulative victims (people who pretend to be victims
to gain sympathy, power or other benefits).
Identification with a victim, combined with dissociation
following childhood abuse or abandonment, can comprise a systemic basis for
symptoms that may be called paranoid schizophrenia.
Our disidentification can resolve systemic imbalances
and perceived injustice. After disidentification, you become free to rebuild your
own identity, and to feel and express your own emotions.
Did you have to believe lies to protect important relationships.
Relationship bonds are like collections of toxic beliefs. They may be called
schema by psychologists, miasms by homeopaths, fixations
by psychoanalysts and entities by the esoterically inclined. In our early
work, we referred to relationship bonds as thoughtforms.
We often dissolve relationship bonds as a normal part
of helping people get what they want.
Consult a physician about any
opinions about paranoia or other medical conditions.
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