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The thousands of forms of joy in the world seem to be varieties of the joy of sharing love. Hopefully, this joy will never leave you. Even in the hardest moments of your life, you can preserve a lightheartedness that makes you smile and that comforts others.
Do you want good relationships? Probably you have some basic requirements. You might include compatibility, respect, commitment, stability, recognition, co-operation and shared goals. Soulwork systemic coaching offers you insights into your love and your relationships. These insights may increase your curiosity, as well as your knowledge. If you may want to learn more, why not try Soulwork relationship coaching ... or consider learning systemic coaching. You can share your life skills and expertise with other people. Do you want to share more love? Improve your love life with love coaching. Our telephone coaching can help you give and receive the love you want to share.
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| Love is Sharing | |
| Physiological | Sharing food, warmth, place to sleep, etc |
| Safety | Sharing the security of a home |
| Belonging | Sharing membership with special groups of people |
| Esteem | Sharing values, recognizing and valuing each other |
| Actualization | Sharing knowledge, experiences and skills; providing steps to fulfillment. |
If you can share with other people, you have a profound basis for wonderful relationships. If you cannot share, you would probably benefit from love coaching. People who cannot share will likely have problems in every relationship. People who cannot share often become dependent or codependent.
Dependent Relationships . Codependent Relationships
Probably, relationships give meaning to your life. We use a hierarchy of relationship development that supports love. The relationships that most affect your meaning of life may be:
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Love is Connecting |
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| Early Family | You feel connected to members of your family in which you use basic life skills and follow family rules |
| Friendship | You feel connected to special people with whom you share experiences, feelings, personal details and advice |
| Teamwork | You feel connected to special people with whom you work together towards shared goals with commitment and co-operation |
| Partnership | You feel connected to a special person to experience love and intimacy, and prepare for nurturing children or important projects |
| Parenthood | You feel connected to your own children, child substitutes (e.g. pets) or important long term projects that you create and nurture |
| Community | You feel connected to members of your community, whether geographical, political, professional or through shared interests |
| Humanity | You feel connected to all people, accepting their country of origin, and diverse cultural backgrounds, values and beliefs |
Your relationship goals add meaning to your life. Soulwork systemic coach training includes goal setting and relationship planning. The relationship goals that may most affect your life may be:
| Love includes Planning | |
| Survival | Your primary goal may be to survive a month or a year longer |
| Family | Your primary goal may be for your family to survive of flourish |
| Power | Your primary goal may be power - you exist for your own gratification |
| Stability | Your primary goal may be stability - you want to establish and regulate society |
| Success | Your primary goal may be success - you want to increase your material worth |
| Community | Your primary goal may be community - to share your feelings in a group |
| Systemic | Your primary goal may be participating in and changing complex systems |
| Global | Your primary goal may be to value and protect all living things |
Are you using appropriate relationship skills? Do you treat
your partner as a parent, or a child?
Do you relate to your colleagues as if they were family, or to your children as
employees? If so, you are nurturing relationship chaos. Do you want
to sort out your relationships?
Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 2004-2011 All rights reserved.
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