Do you want to explore how your emotions influence your
environment - your relationships with family, friends, co-workers and your community? This knowledge can change your life!Coaching, Training & Human Systems
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Are you interested in exploring and applying higher orders of cognition
- systemic thinking and
quantum thinking?
We offer coaching and training on
emotional blocks, resolving relationship chaos and developing relationship
skills.
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When you are with other people, you act differently to when
you are
alone. You act differently in different types of relationships. Much
human behavior that may seem irrational or even insane can become both obvious
and predictable when the rules of those relationships are known.
Do you sometimes act like a parent or like a child - with
people who are not related to you? Do you sometimes act like a manager - with
your family? Do you sometimes want time away from those people whom you love
most?
A systemic perception of relationships can bring
significant change (a paradigm shift) in the way
helping professionals diagnose problems and help people change. Systemic
diagnosis exposes underlying dynamics which, if not resolved, can be
expressed as misery, disease, accidents and criminal behavior.
Our systems coaching is for helping professionals
who wish to help people improve their relationship ecology
- the consequences of their actions upon their relationships.
Successful relationship ecology is shown as behavior which leads
to a sense of wellbeing.
Systems Coaching & Relationship Ecology
A human system is a group of people that attempt to
accomplish goals together. Many human systems include smaller groups
(sub-systems) that may strive to achieve their own goals at the
expense of the larger systems. (E.g.: an overly close relationship
between a mother and her son often alienates the son's father and disruption of the son's life ...
perhaps for decades).
If human systems are perceived in terms of hierarchies and
boundaries - then systemic goals will show similar hierarchies and boundaries.
Sub-groups may sacrifice their members in the service of larger goals - and
others may condemn or ignore larger goals in favor of
their more limited perspectives.
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System |
Survival |
Coaching Goals |
| Humanity |
Human Species |
Provide humanity with genetic diversity |
| Country |
National Traditions |
Provide regions with national
culture |
| Political Party |
Political Power |
Provide communities with leadership
and authority |
| Religion |
Religious Doctrine |
Provide communities with doctrinal
support |
| Region |
Regional character |
Provide communities with
traditions |
| City |
Municipal services |
Provide communities with life support
services |
| Community |
Mutual Support |
Provide families with security and
safety |
| School |
Knowledge & Skills |
Provide children with essential
skills for adulthood |
| Family |
Family traditions |
Provide children with skills for
family harmony |
| Individual |
Physical Body |
Create and protect children |
Changing Human Systems
Our coaching and training helps people look at people in families,
teams and communities with a wider perspective than individual behavior.
We use systems theory to identify and interpret repeated patterns (habits) and
predict the consequences to couples, families, workgroups and communities.
A family, team or community can include wonderful people who
may operate well by themselves but do not integrate well. A family,
team or community may suffer from any lack of integration. A systemic coach
can recognize the functions of a family,
team or community, and their interrelations, and can diagnose problems by
recognizing the patterns of interaction. They focus on provoking behaviors that
determine future goals -- rather than reacting to past disappointments.
Systems Theory, Systems Analysis & Systems Coaching
Systems theory, systems analysis and systems thinking
are major breakthroughs that are often ignored by helping professionals in favor of older,
statistical models. Systems thinking helps people view the world,
including its organizations, from a perspective of
structures, patterns and events, rather than the events themselves.
We use systems analysis to identify the causes of relationship issues and how to change
relationships ecologically ... so that everybody involved can benefit.
Systemic Examples
Family behavior depends on its entire structure (not the
sum of its parts). A family structure determines member's behavior,
which determine family events. Too often, people only see and respond
to events. We miss the broader scheme - the
systemic scheme offered by relationship diagnosis.
Too often in families (and in training programs), we think
we can break up the system and only have to deal with its parts; or that we can
focus on certain topics (e.g. performance) independent from other topics (e.g.
marriage).
There seem to be optimum sizes for each type of human
system, from friends to countries. A larger system may try to break
itself up into sub-systems to achieve stability. Pre-systemic models (e.g.
esoteric or statistical models) used
to fix human systems may hasten the disintegration of the system.
Some principles that apply to families are:
- A family system seeks balance with its environment
- A family ecosystem is greater than the sum of its members
- Most family systems are sub-systems of many larger systems
- A family system has sub-systems, borders and limits to growth
- A family system has an optimum size (in balance
with its environment)
A family may experience the same problems repeatedly -
many problems seem to recycle over time. Family members typically recognize the
patterns of behaviors, rather than the underlying dynamics. As children mature
and become parents, they recognize the phases their children pass through.
It may be against unspoken family rules
to know too much ... you probably know less about your
own family dynamics than those in any other family that you observe.
Systemic Family Behavior
Families have predictable patterns of interactions
(cultural and family traditions) that are passed and replicated across generations.
Family interactions can modify but rarely end these cross-generational
entanglements. External observation and assistance is often needed - and can be
provided with systemic coaching.
Each family member affects all other members of a family.
Parental moods and actions affect children and other relatives. Family
members respond to each other's emotions in predictable ways. Many solutions
create new problems - and often a solution is worse than the problem. Systemic
family coaching finds solutions that benefit all members.
Systemic Coaching & Quantum Thinking
We incorporate many concepts from quantum physics -
for example from Dr Werner Heisenberg (observation changes whatever is
being observed), Dr Erwin Schrödinger (all possibilities
exist until a system is observed), Dr Enrico Fermi (the absence
of a part describes that part), Dr Albert Einstein (all change
is relative to an observer).
You cannot know what a human system is doing NOW.
You can only know what its members were doing previously - and then only
from well-defined temporal and perceptual positions.
Violation of systemic rules in human systems can lead to
dysfunctional behavior - and tragedy in subsequent generations. Cross-generational
entanglements underlie many personal and
professional problems. Restoring balance and harmony to a family system
or management team can resolve physical symptoms of its members,
not only emotional and mental suffering. See
quantum coaching.
While family systems will create problems - problems
can also create family systems. Can problems exist independently of
an observer who defines them? We coach
people to change their family structure, rather than attempting
to change individual compensation behavior.
When family systems are honored; when guilt is healed
and duties clarified; members usually feel enormous relief. We help people
move forward into their lives with a sense of purpose instead of a burden of depression
and guilt. We help people live lives that make sense.
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