A coach offers support, structure and accountability to people
who want to
define and fulfill their
success. Jan Sikorski
Soulwork Coaching
Like counselors, we assist personal development.
Like consultants, we are goal oriented and we help people find ways to fulfill
their
goals. Like therapists, we help people dissolve emotional and relationship
blocks to success. Like trainers, we encourage and support success.
Like mentors, we can provide long-term support for reaching complex goals.
A systemic coach is different to a counselor, consultant,
therapist, trainer or mentor in that a we do not provide
your goals, or your steps to them. A systemic coach provides process
expertise, helping you find and use your own resources, which includes
finding and using your ability to find and use your other resources!
The Personal and Professional Coaches Association
defines coaching as an "ongoing relationship which focuses on clients
taking action toward the realization of their vision, goals or desires.
Coaching uses enquiry and personal discovery to build the client's level
of awareness and responsibility, and to provide clients with
structure, support and feedback."
Coaching by Telephone and Internet
Are you confused or broken? Do you want coaching or therapy? The following table
is adapted from Therapist as Life Coach: Transforming Your Practice
by Dr. Patrick Williams, Ed.D, MCC.
| Coaching |
Psychotherapy |
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For healthy people who desire better situations |
For patients with identifiable
dysfunctions |
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Deals mostly with a person’s goals and blocks and seeks to help people
enjoy better futures |
Deals mostly with a patient's past trauma, and seeks to heal
people |
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Helps people learn new skills and tools to build more satisfying
successful futures |
Helps patients resolve old pain and suffering |
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Co-creative equal partnership (coaches help people explore their
blocks and solve their problems) |
Doctor-patient relationship (a therapist provides the diagnosis and
the solutions) |
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Assumes emotions are natural and normal |
Assumes emotions are unnatural and abnormal
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Growth and progress are often rapid and enjoyable |
Growth and progress are often slow and painful |
| A coach helps people identify their goals and
blocks, then walks with them to success, holding people accountable
for reaching their own goals. |
A therapist provides professional
expertise and guidelines to diagnose problems and provide a path to
healing. |
We can coach you to resolve whatever underlying issues
that prevent you solving your own problems. Your underlying issues are
usually relationship issues that reflect your family or organizations
or systems within which you live and work.
Our coaching usually begins with an initial phone
call, and then a goal-setting session of one or two hours. Your momentum and
focus are maintained with weekly appointments until you reach your goals. You
determine the agenda for each session, within an overall progression:
- Goalwork and Planning
- Relationship Diagnosis
- Clarification
- Resolve Conflicts
- Find Integrity
- Relationship Bonds
- Emotional Trauma
- Mentorship
Often your coach may not live in your community or even in
your country. This means that your coach is not part of the systems within which
you live and work, providing you with distance, objectivity and
perspective.
Working Together
You and your coach define how to support
your success. Your coach does not define how things should be, instead helping
you clarify what is happening now, and what you
want. Probably, one of your key questions is: "What is the best use of
your coaching time?"
Your coach won't have all your answers. Yet, by not
knowing, the coach helps you find a clarity, control and
responsibility. Your systemic coach helps
you define and perhaps challenge your own rules. As you gain
clarity, your goals and action steps often become obvious.
What do we provide?
A coach provides a safe space that allows you
time to evaluate what is happening, to establish your evidence for
success, and to choose future steps. A coach does not judge results,
and expects you to take responsibility and to develop your
flexibility to resolve your blocks.
A coach provides structure. Your coach asks
questions, asks for action and holds you accountable for taking the
agreed steps.
A coach provides feedback. This helps
you evaluate your situation and find opportunities for you to move forward.
Coaching Questions
Your coach will often ask simple questions.
"How do you want to do that?" "What is your
next step?" You choose what actions to take and what decisions to make.
Your solutions are always better than your coach's solutions.
You are THE expert about your goals. A lot of planning is simply
remembering what you want and choosing an appropriate sequence.
How long is a Coaching Relationship?
Your coach may require an initial commitment of
one month to one year. Coaching helps you develop your flexibility and accountability that make
your coach redundant. After you complete your work with a coach, you can
arrange monthly or quarterly
feedback sessions.
Putting it Together
We begin our coaching with goal specification.
Useful goals are specific and positively stated without
unconscious objections. Such goals help you specify your dreams and plan for
success. A coach can help you fine tune negative goals, abstract goals and
conflicting goals.
- Your coach can help you decide "what to do next".
- Your coach helps you explore your blocks and find
breakthroughs.
- Your coach will carefully listen to your words - and to
your body language.
- Your coach helps you deal with
self-imposed limits and challenge your limits.
- Your coach can help you heal old wounds, realize dreams and have a better life.
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After a
session I felt that I had all the answers
and that I did the work. You asked me good questions and you provoked me to find my own
answers. Glasgow, Scotland
I learned to define what I want and then to get it. I
learned to change my beliefs and take action. You did not change me,
you showed me how I could change myself. You encouraged me to
trust myself, and you expected me to reach
my goals. New York, USA
Advanced Soulwork (Identity Blocks, Relationship Bonds, Trauma and
Mentorship) is the best coach training I have ever attended ... your
earlier courses (Family Matrix, Goalwork and Integrity)
provided a good basis for the advanced skills. Warsaw, Poland
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Our Coach Training
We offer systemic coaching, coach training and certification.
Our training can
help you gain essential skills to assess and change the behavior of people in
families, marriages, businesses and other relationship systems.
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