Our systemic coaching does not replace classical coaching. Classical coaching is
useful for people making decisions in controllable environments with simple
is useful when making relationship decisions,
especially in complex environments
or with ambiguous objectives.
We also mentor helping professionals who wish to
systemic coaching to their repertoire.
Meta-Model: Background & Definitions
The Meta-Model is a name of a
simple language model developed by Bandler and Grinder in the early 1970's,
based on the grammar models of Noam Chomsky.
Any experience is richer
than can be communicated with words. When you use words to communicate
experience, there are differences
between your experience (deep structure) and the language you use to
describe that experience (surface structure).
Whenever you describe an experience,
you delete, distort and generalize the information.
- Deletions: you omit
parts of an experience
- Distortions: you
modify the description of an experience
- Generalizations: you
make general conclusions about an experience
If you want to acquire or share knowledge, you can benefit from filling in
the missing information, clarify ambiguities; identify presuppositions; resolve conflicts and
challenge inconsistencies. You can try to reverse the deletions,
distortions and generalizations that are commonly made when people describe
internal or external experience!
interrogation or torture may gain wanted information, the use of
elicitation as taught in NLP is more subtle and less likely to create
lasting damage. However, you need to know:
- What information do you want?
- How you will use this information?
- Why you want more or better information?
- What are the relationship consequences of gaining this information?
Systemic Coaching . Comparison of
A meta-model is a model of a model - a model of a
language model. Although most sentences contain deletions, distortions and
generalizations; you can recover some missing or distorted information by
asking meta-model questions.
(Note that these meta-model questions
can annoy or irritate people.)
of deletion, distortion and generalization can be organized in 3
|1. Missing Information
||2. Map of the World
||3. Semantic Errors
- Unspecified nouns
- Unspecified verbs
- Unspecified referential index
- Universal quantifiers
- Modal operators of possibility
- Modal operators of necessity
- Mind reading
- Cause and effect
- Complex equivalences
The meta-model, as taught in NLP, is used to gain
information. However, some NLP trainers teach it in frames of covert
influence and covert elicitation - how to manipulate people or get valuable information
from them without alerting those people
that you are doing something they did not request and may well avoid.
Do you want to
influence a person's behavior (e.g. sales) or enhance your knowledge? Are you compelled to
challenge a person's map of the world or to correct semantic
errors? We note that people who can best be described as
or covert hostile often excel at semantic manipulation.
To avoid covert
manipulation, you can introduce and frame your questions, and your reasons for
asking them, and use
a normal (not hypnotic) voice tonality and tempo.
Meta-Model 1, 2, 3 & 4
The first three meta-model distinctions are commonly described
in NLP training. Our systemic coach training explores and applies Metamodel 4 in
- Meta-model 1:
which questions are useful for recovering which types of information?
- Meta-model 2:
what is your purpose for recovering information?
- Meta-model 3:
what is the relationship between an experience, its description
and physiological cues (non-verbal body language)?
- Meta-model 4:
what are the relationship consequences of describing and communicating experiences?
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