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Our systemic coaching does not replace classical coaching nor psychotherapy.
Classic coaching is useful when individuals make decisions in controllable
environments with simple objectives. Psychotherapy is useful for people
with diagnosable dysfunctions. Our systemic coaching is useful for people
making complex decisions in challenging environments or with ambiguous
objectives.
Alternative, Complementary & New Age Therapy
Alternative and complementary therapies refer to unconventional
treatments used in place of Western psychotherapy, and in the prevention and
treatment of diseases and illnesses, usually in Western nations. Yet alternative
and complementary are relative - they depend on the reference system.
In China, for example, Western medicine may be called
a new alternative medicine of complementary treatments, as Western
medicine has only existed for a hundred years or so, compared to thousands
of years of using traditional Chinese medicine.
Terms like complementary and alternative
medicine are vague and inaccurate, and do not begin to summarize or
describe the work of independent helping professionals. See
Evolution of Good Intentions and
Is Systemic Coaching New Age?
Therapy & Law
Few Western legal systems try to restrict the expression
of thoughts, beliefs and opinions, although legal systems may attempt to
restrain expressions of ideas which may harm other people.
Therapist incompetence or ineffectiveness are not offences
under most laws. It is not an offence to claim to help or alleviate mental
health, emotional or relationship problems; otherwise no helping professional
could offer their services, no matter how competent or effective.
In some countries it is illegal to claim credentials which
you do not have ... especially of a medical doctor. However, the availability
of email degrees and PhDs makes this a gray area. A number of popular books
about relationship therapy were written by people advertising
imaginary credentials.
Some letters after a name (e.g. MD) are protected by law,
although there seems to be little regulation of this in most countries and many
people claim corporate or 'scholarly' post-nominal letters. (Using post-nominal
letters to secure a job may be criminal fraud).
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advanced degree from an accredited academic institution without doing
any coursework, going to campus, or spending thousands of
dollars on tuition!
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Some regions have laws forbidding the use of diploma mill
credentials. In North Dakota, it is illegal to use a fake degree in connection
with a business, and in Illinois, a fake degree cannot be used to obtain
employment. (The Pacific
Western University, which delivered fake degrees for high fees,
changed its name to California Miramar University.)
Therapy & Conversation
Many people divide themselves into bodies and minds.
Whether or not this division is real is a question for philosophers, as
many people disagree on if or where or how those divisions
should be made.
Minds can be described as being sometimes rational
and sometimes irrational. We may describe the rational mind as intellect,
and the irrational mind as emotions. People who primarily study intellect
may be called psychologists, and people who primarily study psychoactive
medications may be called psychiatrists.
Psychologists often specialize, for example in educational
psychology or marketing. Clinical psychologists aim to reduce
distress and enhance and promote wellbeing. Psychiatrists, broadly speaking,
practice two distinct kinds of treatment - physical and conversational. Physical
treatment seeks to affect minds through bodies, using drugs or electric
shocks; and conversations seeks to affect minds directly, without
medication or physical intervention.
Psychotherapy could be described as structured conversations
aimed at changing behavioral and emotional habits through verbal communication
- much like parents talking to teenage children. Psychotherapy is people
talking to people.
Which Conversations are Appropriate?
Many people try to help other people through conversation
- this is a function of friendship! Yet ...
- Dissociated and immature people may not respond to
conversations
- Conversational change requires skill and experience
for good results
- The unskilled use of some conversational
methods may damage people
Many people who seek professional coaching are strong and
motivated, and seek assistance in a well-defined context. Some few people
may seek assistance for resolving existential life challenges or achieving
philosophical ideals that cross many contexts.
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Martyn, would you have half an hour
some time to do a session on what is
between the me now and the being in the heart of Buddha (state)?
This email might be the best compliment I've had lately ...
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Competence of Helping Professionals
For us, competence, as opposed to
credentials, is about successfully helping people choose what
they want and then to get what they want. The skills to fulfill
these competencies include:
- evaluate relationships
- define goals and objectives
- create trusting relationships
- dissolve objections and conflicts
- appropriate communication skills
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- improve partnership
- resolve identity loss
- provide short-term coaching
- resolve abuse and/or trauma
- provide long-term mentorship
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Some therapists act as if their clients are incompetent to
know what they want, and that they must be told what they should want.
Clients who disagree may be called resistant ... or worse.
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Damage by Therapists
Maturity, emotional stability and competence may be essential
qualities of a helping professional, yet these qualities do not appear to be
assessed by professional organizations. Deficiencies in those areas seem to be
the main source of damage to clients, patients or association members.
As no institute or
organization of helping professionals will test or vouch for the character or
stability of the people they graduate or certify, it is wise to seek evidence of
competence and emotional
maturity, to avoid
therapist damage.
Assess a Coach, Therapist or Counselor
How can you recognize a reliable
coach or a supportive therapist or a quality mentor?
Seek evidence of
competence and emotional maturity, rather than their credentials.
If possible, watch a potential mentor
assisting people, and talk to people who have been mentored by or who
were clients of this person. Notice if a potential therapist or mentor:
- walks their talk
- supports better relationships
- assesses needs and problems
- tries to understand your behavior
- has effective interpersonal skills
- has quality personal relationships
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- is sensitive and genuine
- is competent and caring
- is accepting and empathic
- is trustworthy and credible
- is friendly and knowledgeable
- is experienced and supportive
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Does this person help people to:
- evaluate relationships and change entanglements?
- recover identity loss; lost qualities,
expertise and skills?
- define goals, resolve inner objections and
plan for success?
- dissolve emotional trauma and abuse, and
rebuild motivation?
- end self-criticism and inner conflict, and
help recover integrity?
- dissolve mentor or therapy damage & find
inspirational mentorship?
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Do you want to resolve emotional blocks and relationship
challenges?
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