Steps to Emotional Freedom
Untangle your Life © Martyn Carruthers

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Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands? Do you want to untangle your life ... free your self from other people's negativity ... and enjoy real emotional freedom?

This is NOT any Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) you may have seen promoted.
We offer deep, lasting solutions for unpleasant emotions and relationship problems.

Can you ENJOY being you?

Emotional freedom is not free. Emotional freedom comes with effort, and only to adults who are willing to clarify and heal their relationships. Emotional freedom is a natural result of untangling confusing relationships and ending emotional blackmail.

• Freedom from unpleasant emotions
• Freedom from blaming yourself and others
• Freedom from identifying with someone else
• Freedom from obsessions, compulsions and habits
• Freedom from self-sabotage and self-defeating behavior

Emotional freedom includes freedom from excessive demands, criticism or discouragement, and from withholding affection or love. The damage caused by emotional abuse often manifests as self-sabotage and passive aggression. Emotional freedom can bring an end to dependence, and an end of being entangled in victim games in which you never know who is the victim.

Mother-Son Codependence . Father-Daughter Bonds . Parental Alienation

Understanding emotional freedom applies to your relationships and the unique aspects and resources which influence your life. Your feelings help determine your life, your motivations and your values. Your feelings can motivate you to endure extraordinary struggles and accomplish awesome feats.

You may know less about your feelings than you do about your garden or your car. (Few coaches and therapists seem to know their own emotions as well as they know their clients' emotions.)

What is Emotional Freedom?

If you are enmeshed with abusive people, or with their victims, you will suffer. If you mistrust your feelings, you may deny the existence of your pain and conflict. Emotional freedom requires self-control. Do you let other people control you? Do you ...

•  let people dominate you?
•  allow people to verbally abuse you?
•  comply with their unreasonable requirements?
•  go along with their emotional outbursts and mood swings?
•  let people manipulate you with guilt, sympathy and weird logic?

Steps to Emotional Freedom

Emotional chaos usually reflects chaotic relationships. You can find lasting emotional freedom - but not by playing games. Lasting solutions for relationship and emotional problems require more than wistful thinking. We can help you.

1. Break old habits. Consider how much pain you’ve already endured. Can you accept your hurt - and journey toward healing?
2. Examine fantasies and fears that keep you in bondage. Do you cling to ideas of help from esoteric agencies or complete self-control as a solution to emotional problems?
3. Become more open and honest - with yourself first, and then with other people. Assess your strengths and weaknesses with brutal honesty.
4. Consider why you cling to habits that don't serve you. Are you willing to change them? Evaluate the possible consequences of change.
5. Assess any shame and guilt. Make amends, learn your lessons, say Goodbye and move on. (We can help you change your relationships - with the living, the missing and the dead.)
6. Plan to stretch and transform throughout your life. Your self-discovery and struggles can keep you alive, and help you find deep friendships on your healing journey.

Consequences of Emotional Freedom

Instead of being silent, watchful and lonely you can feel comfortable in your body. Instead of being aggressive, you can be neutral or even friendly. We can help you find emotional freedom, especially if you want to ...

• feel adequate
• enjoy new activities
• accept evaluations as feedback
• see yourself as normal and appealing
• deal with criticism, disapproval or rejection
• increase interpersonal contact - enjoy social pleasures

Do You Play Games with People?

Emotional freedom means maturity and independence - the opposite of being childish and dependent. Are you afraid you may lose something that other people provide? Do you play emotional games with people? Do you:

1. Block other people's goals?
2. Withhold essential information?
3. Disguise your abuse as humor?
4. Reinforce your own limiting beliefs?
5. Trivialize thoughts and achievements?
6. Contradict the other person's perspective?
7. Make threats to increase your feeling of power?
8. Invalidate the other person's reality and perceptions?
9. Express anger to release tension and to feel powerful?
10. Forget promises, agreements or previous discussions?

You will find that some abusers are helping professionals such as doctors, therapists and healers (see therapist-client codependence). We help people resolve the consequences of many forms of abuse.

Emotional Dependence & Emotional Freedom

We can coach you to explore, befriend and manage your emotions. Together, we can explore how you can not only change the symptoms but also dissolve the underlying causes of confusion.

sexual abuse toxic partnership learning disabilities sexual dysfunction attachment disorders

consequences of affairs consequences of abortions blocks to financial success parental alienation syndrome obsessions and compulsions

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What would you change - if you could? We may have the tools that you want.   Have You Suffered Enough?  Where are you now? Assess your fixations, bonds and enmeshments What do you want? Know your life goals ... and how you sabotage yourself Do you feel resourceful? Find your lost resources by dreaming together Which emotions block you? End relationship disappointments and mentor damage Do your beliefs limit you? Change your limiting beliefs and end dependence Do you feel empty? Resolve identity loss to recover your lost resources Is your partnership happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully) Are your children healthy? Happy parents can better manage family problems Do you want team success? Team leaders and top teams can develop together Do you have other goals? Specialty coaching & training

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2012 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers
to help people dissolve emotional blocks and improve relationships to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work.