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Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands?
Do you want to untangle your life ... free your self from other
people's negativity ... and enjoy real emotional freedom?
This is NOT
any Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) you may have seen promoted.
We offer deep, lasting solutions for unpleasant emotions
and relationship problems.
Can you ENJOY being you?
Emotional freedom is not free. Emotional
freedom comes with effort, and only to adults who are willing
to clarify and heal their relationships. Emotional freedom is
a natural result of untangling confusing relationships and
ending emotional blackmail.
- Freedom from unpleasant emotions
- Freedom from blaming yourself and others
- Freedom from identifying with someone else
- Freedom from obsessions, compulsions and habits
- Freedom from self-sabotage and self-defeating behavior
Emotional freedom includes freedom from excessive demands,
criticism or discouragement, and from withholding affection or love. The
damage caused by emotional abuse often manifests as self-sabotage and
passive aggression. Emotional freedom can bring an end to dependence,
and an end of being entangled in victim games in which you never
know who is the victim.
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Codependence . Father-Daughter
Bonds . Parental Alienation
Understanding emotional freedom applies to
your relationships and the unique aspects and resources which influence your
life. Your feelings help determine your life, your motivations and your values.
Your feelings can motivate you to endure extraordinary struggles and
accomplish awesome feats.
You may know less about your feelings than
you do about your garden or your car. (Few coaches and therapists seem to
know their own emotions as well as they know their clients' emotions.)
What is Emotional Freedom?
If you are enmeshed with abusive people, or with their
victims, you will suffer. If you mistrust your feelings, you may deny the
existence of your pain and conflict. Emotional freedom requires self-control.
Do you let other people control you? Do you ...
- let people dominate you?
- allow people to verbally abuse you?
- comply with their unreasonable requirements?
- go along with their
emotional outbursts and mood swings?
- let people manipulate you with
guilt, sympathy and weird logic?
Steps to Emotional Freedom
Emotional chaos usually reflects chaotic relationships.
You can find lasting emotional freedom - but not by playing games. Lasting
solutions for relationship and emotional problems require more than
wistful thinking. We can help you.
- Break old habits. Consider how much pain
you’ve already endured. Can you accept your hurt - and journey
toward healing?
- Examine fantasies and fears that keep you in
bondage. Do you cling to ideas of help from esoteric agencies or
complete self-control as a solution to emotional problems?
- Become more open and honest - with yourself
first, and then with other people. Assess your strengths and weaknesses
with brutal honesty.
- Consider why you cling to habits that don't
serve you. Are you willing to change them? Evaluate the possible
consequences of change.
- Assess any shame and guilt. Make amends, learn
your lessons, say Goodbye and move on. (We can help you change your
relationships - with the living, the missing and the dead.)
- Plan to stretch and transform throughout your life.
Your self-discovery and struggles can keep you alive, and help you find deep
friendships on your healing journey.
Consequences of Emotional Freedom
Instead of being silent, watchful and lonely you can feel
comfortable in your body. Instead of being aggressive, you can be neutral
or even friendly. We can help you find emotional freedom, especially if you
want to ...
- feel adequate
- enjoy new activities
- accept evaluations as feedback
- see yourself as normal and appealing
- deal with criticism, disapproval or rejection
- increase interpersonal contact - enjoy social pleasures
Do You Play Games with People?
Emotional freedom means maturity and independence - the
opposite of being childish and dependent. Are you afraid you may lose
something that other people provide? Do you play emotional games with
people? Do you:
- Block other people's goals?
- Withhold essential information?
- Disguise your abuse as humor?
- Reinforce your own limiting beliefs?
- Trivialize thoughts and achievements?
- Contradict the other person's perspective?
- Make threats to increase your feeling of power?
- Invalidate the other person's reality and perceptions?
- Express anger to release tension and to feel powerful?
- Forget promises, agreements or previous discussions?
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People who are entangled with
parents or other relatives
may be unable to live healthy, happy lives!
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You will find that some abusers are helping professionals
such as doctors, therapists and healers (see
therapist-client codependence). We help people resolve the consequences of
many forms of abuse.
Emotional Dependence & Emotional Freedom
We can coach you to explore, befriend and manage your
emotions. Together, we can explore how you can not only change the symptoms
but also dissolve the underlying causes of confusion.
Help for
Emotional Freedom
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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 2003-2012 All rights reserved.
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