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Systemic Solutions for Cultural Stress
© Martyn Carruthers

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Do you want to solve relationship problems, cultural stress or emotional bonds?


Cultural Stress & Systemic Diagnosis

The rabies virus causes infected animals to bite other animals - even their own young. This spreads the virus before the virus kills the hosts. Although a rabid dog is dangerous - rabies is not the dog's fault. Rabies is a symptom - not a cause.

People subject to prolonged cultural stress show predictable symptoms: depression, anger, fear, suppressed sexuality and loss or denial of reality. People stressed by their culture's behavior and values may sacrifice themselves and their children. The Maya, faced with this challenge, tore out the hearts of their best young men, to honor the Sun. The Phoenicians, faced with this challenge, burned their eldest children alive, to honor the Moon. The German Nazis killed populations to honor their god of Destiny. Today many people sacrifice themselves and their children to honor the great god Mediocrity.

Symptoms of cultural stress can include:

  • Men abuse women and children
  • People enslave or kill other people
  • People damage their own environment
  • Authorities proscribe and limit sexuality
  • Authorities use dogma and propaganda for indoctrination
  • Authorities pronounce what is evil and who must be punished

These symptoms ensured the deaths of millions of people, and the misery, suffering and poverty of billions more. These symptoms motivate religious and moral wars, and the genocide of native peoples.

These symptoms continue unabated in today's world following unquestioned faith, unquestioned morality and unquestioned compliance. Such denial of reality can justify any behavior, from child abuse to a Holocaust. If "morality channeled from a god accepted on faith" replaces human intelligence and understanding then irrational obsessions and compulsions lead to political and religious control.


Lost Reality

How you perceive your external, objective reality reflects the state of your internal, subjective reality. Much systemic coaching concerns the exploration and renovation of inner emotional reality as a basis for making changes in the external world.

In a similar way that a loss of identity can produce a state where "My life does not make sense", a loss of reality can produce a state in which "The world does not make sense". This can result in depression or existential crisis. This may occur in what is often called a mid-life crisis, although such a crisis can happen at almost any age in which people search for answers that make sense.

It seems that a lost sense of reality can be accelerated by retreating into fantasy and distractions - TV, cinema and music can be vectors of cultural disease.

Other indicators of cultural stress include:

  • anger and a desire to hurt people
  • fear and a desire to scare people
  • guilt and a desire to blame people
  • depression and a desire to sadden people
  • denial and cannot challenge dogma or propaganda
  • limited contact with reality and a desire to spread fantasy
  • suppressed sexuality and a desire to control others' sexuality


Child Abuse

A key indicator of cultural stress may be child abuse. Many children suffer physical and / or emotional abuse from angry parents, depressed teachers and other adults. If parents are insensitive, angry, impatient and blaming, children may sacrifice their happiness, playfulness and sense-of-life to avoid losing expressions of parental love.

Children are born with fight/flight/freeze instincts for avoiding animal predators. These instincts do not protect them against human predators. Cultural diseases are infectious and may lead people to harm themselves, their children and other people. Victims of cultural stress may victimize others.

Other consequences of cultural stress are that people:

  • cheat people for pleasure and economic gain
  • abuse employees and people perceived as weak
  • hurt people of different color, sex, religion or culture
  • support murderous governments, military aggression and genocide


Systemic Diagnosis

Symptoms of cultural stress arise in families and teams as well as in cultures. The irrational symptoms are often invisible within in the relationship system although they can be perceived from outside the system. Cultural diseases are unlikely to be ended by further dogma or indoctrination. Instead we can recognize their causes, redirect their focus and change their consequences.

Our coaching can touch everyone, from a child who has experienced domestic abuse; a teenager addicted to drugs; a working mother caring for a disabled parent; parents coping with an ADHD child; a college student who struggles with anorexia; a young adult who suffers from mental illness; an adult who mourns the death of a partner; a family that seeks freedom from conflict; and couples that want a better partnerships.

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Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 2001-2011 All rights reserved.


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Start with any segment and continue as you choose. We suggest that you start with Systems 1 if you can.

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1. Where are you now? Assess your fixations, bonds and enmeshments Systems 1
2. What are your life goals?  Identify your life goals ... and your emotional blocks Systems 2
3. How to reach your goals?  Use your conscious and unconscious resources Systems 3
4. Do your emotions limit you?  Dissolve abuse, trauma and mentor damage Systems 4
5. Do your beliefs limit you? Change your limiting beliefs to end dependence Systems 5
6. Does inner emptiness limit you? Resolve identity loss to recover qualities and skills Systems 6
7. Do you want happy partnership? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully) Systems 7
8. Do you want healthy children? We coach parents to resolve family problems Systems 8
9. Do you want success? We coach team leaders and teams ... together Systems 9
10. Do you want community? We coach community leaders and communities Systems 10

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Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2011 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers
to help people define and achieve goals, resolve emotional blocks and improve relationships. These concepts and strategies are for adult general knowledge only. Always use your own judgment and/or get the advice of professionals to create the best plans for your life. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... ask Martyn for permission to post or publish his work.