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Do you want to change emotional stress, bad relationships or limiting beliefs?
We can help you.
Can you Cope with Change?
Stress happens. Stress happens every day. Stress is a
normal part of life. And stress may interfere with study, work, friendships
and family. Many people react to stress with behavioral problems,
psychosomatic or physical disease symptoms, or learning disorders.
We help people deal with simple stress with simple
patterns, e.g.:
- Decide to avoid or reduce a source
of stress
- Dissolve anger or fear that contributes
to stress
- Search for options to avoid or reduce the stressors
- Find an option that controls, removes or
reduces a stressor
- Search for resources that enable you to follow
through and change it
Few people enjoy stress, but most people can adjust to stressful
events and move on. And some people get stuck. If the stress causes people to
split-off part of themselves - those parts may not grow up, rather continuing
to relive the stressful event, rather like a needle stuck on an old-fashioned
gramophone record. This can continue for many years or until the stressful event
is assimilated.
Following a stressful event or relationship disappointment
which caused a person to split-off part of their personality, we can coach
people to find, recover and integrate the lost parts of themselves.
Help for Stress Reactions
Stress reactions differ to common, everyday stress and
emotional problems. If you lose a partner or a job ... you may feel depressed.
If you lost a partner or job years ago, and you are still depressed, then you
may have a systemic (relationship) problem.
You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most
problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other
resources). You explore options, trying one and another until you remove
the stressor or reduce its intensity. Your emotional maturity
might be defined, at least in part, as your ability to rapidly respond
to stressors and to manage feelings of stress.
Some people cannot adjust to stress. Perhaps you were
never taught stress control; or the stressor is too much for you to handle.
An inability to resolve stress may be called age regression, immaturity,
emotional incest, emotional trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
or other possibilities.
If you experienced high stress and your symptoms impair your
life, then you may have a stress reaction. Important parts of your life may
include difficulties at school or work, social problems, legal difficulties,
relationship chaos or symptoms of disease .
What causes Stress Reactions
Stress reactions can be thought of as exaggerated emotional
or behavioral reactions to stressful events or changes. The reaction usually
occurs within a few months of an identified event or change (although the
unpleasant feelings may be dissociated or repressed for years, only to
explode later in life).
Stressful events that change the life of a child,
adolescent or immature adult include a family move, parental separation,
the loss of a family member, and the birth of a sibling.
Sometimes a parent's love can feel more confining than
freeing, more demanding than nurturing. Were you an "emotional partner"
to a parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert emotional incest.
We help people dissolve adjustment disorders and
stress reactions. As people vary in their experiences, temperament
and therefore in their ability to cope; and as stressors can vary in intensity,
duration and effect, we cannot accurately predict how many sessions might be
needed.
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Synonyms for Stress Reactions |
AD,
mental illness, PTSD, psychiatric disorder, adjustment disorders, non-psychotic
disturbances, sub-threshold disorders, sub-threshold syndromes, psychosocial
stressors, maladaptive reactions, stress disorders, suicide, suicidal
ideation, suicidal impulses, anxiety NOS, depression NOS, self-harm,
self-poisoning, psychopathology, stress reactions, relationship chaos,
self-sabotage |
Who is affected?
Stress reactions seem to occur equally between males
and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of stress reactions in
younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may
include hyperactivity, while adults more often experience
depression.
Unhealthy reactions to stress may seem to be exaggerated
compared to healthier people, and may significantly interfere with education,
work or family responsibilities.
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Most treatments for stress disorders
try to get rid of symptoms. We coach
people to change
the underlying emotions and relationship issues. |
Symptoms of Stress Reactions
The following are three common groups of symptoms
of stress reactions, roughly based on maturity. (Mixtures of symptoms
are common. A person who oscillates between two different symptom sets may
be expressing a systemic disorder that we call Identity Conflict.)
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Age Regression |
Age-regressed
adults act like children. In some
cultures, it is acceptable for a man to act childishly if he is
stressed or ill. This may not be acceptable in other cultures, and may
be unacceptable for women. |
1. Anxiety (mostly children or age-regressed adults)
- Nervous, worried, afraid of change
- Afraid of separation from parents or partner
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Generalized anxiety / agoraphobia (extreme)
2. Behavior (mostly teenagers or age-regressed
adults)
- Hyperactivity and Attention
Deficit Disorders (ADD - ADHD)
- Preoccupied with violence &
gore (e.g. TV, computer games and cinema)
- Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft)
or societal rules (e.g. truancy, delinquency)
3. Depression (mostly adults)
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Depressed and withdrawn
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Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
- Expresses hopelessness and
helplessness
Many stress symptoms are normal responses to
an overwhelming stress.
You can identify and understand the sources of your
stress as a step towards managing it.
But under your stress are likely strong emotions such as anger and fear.
We can help you manage your emotions and develop your emotional maturity.
Please consult a
medical doctor about medical or psychiatric conditions.
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