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Choose a Relationship Coach ... Wisely ...
by Martyn Carruthers

Would you like to benefit from our experience?

We offer coaching and training on relationship success,
resolving family chaos and relationship intelligence.

Relationship Coaching in America & Europe

Do you want quality long-term relationships? Do you want relationships that support long-term happiness? Can you imagine relationships in which you develop your highest values and express your deepest qualities? We coach people to develop quality relationships in all these areas. This is our work - and we continually develop and improve it.

Sooner or later, relationship coaching will be right for you. When you want to resolve a crisis, to avoid worsening conflicts or to improve an already-good relationship. If you assume that you can get along without relationship coaching, you may end potentially wonderful relationships; you may suffer for years; and you may never experience the lasting happiness that could have so easily been yours.

Many coaches, counselors and therapists advertise relationship coaching. Here are some questions to ask when choosing what relationship coaching is best for you in Europe and America, and when comparing appropriate relationship coaches:

Questions to ask Relationship Coaches ... and our answers

  1. Why did they become relationship coaches?
  2. What do they really offer?
  3. What have they published about their experience?
  4. What percentage of their practice is relationship coaching?
  5. What techniques of relationship coaching do they use?
  6. Will they describe a typical session?
  7. Will they help you resolve problems?
  8. Will we help you have better relationships?
  9. How long, on average, is their relationship coaching?
  10. Will they meet you together or only individually?

1. Why did we become relationship coaches?

In 1988, we started providing success coaching and expert modeling in sport, business and education. By 1992 we noticed that the most profound limitations and blocks to progress, success and development were usually relationship issues - even relationships from the distant past.

Family traditions and office politics, previous commitments and promises, abandoned responsibilities and reckless love affairs ... all these contribute to relationship chaos. And in organizations; mergers and near-bankruptcies; lay-offs and takeovers can scar both management and employees.

We specialize in relationship management. We can commit ourselves to your relationship goals.


2. What do we offer you?

Our systemic coaching is open-ended and goal-oriented. We encourage you to clarify old relationships and set clear relationship goals. We help you take specific, concrete steps to co-create wonderful relationships.

We discuss your goals, complaints, history and dreams; and we help you focus on your contributions, responsibilities and next steps. We can help you build appropriate intimacy and connection.


3. What have we written about our specialties?

We posted over 500 articles and resources about our systemic relationship coaching. Read some of our articles on partnership, parenthood, relationship management and business consulting.

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4. How much of our practice is relationship coaching?

Our systemic coaching is split between coach training, telephone coaching and systemic (couple, family and team) coaching. Many individual issues require couple coaching - and systemic coaching can resolve individual issues. At least 50% of our practice is coaching people to resolve relationship issues and emotional challenges. We spend about 30% of our time training coaches ... and we continue to develop and test better coaching strategies.


5. What kind of relationship coaching do we use?

Systemic relationship coaching is ... systemic. Even simple systems may require complex coaching strategies. For example, a married couple may wish to "make love not war". Yet each partner brings all their previous relationships into the marriage - including parents and past partners. Systemic coaching helps you discover exactly where you are now ... and exactly what each of you wants.


6. Can we describe a typical relationship coaching session?

Usually we meet people individually, to discuss goals and prepare for simultaneous relationship coaching together, if needed. Individual sessions help you to identify your key goals and complaints privately and without interference. Later, couple, family or team coaching can resolve systemic issues.


7. Will we help you resolve relationship problems?

Yes. In systemic relationship coaching, we notice how past problems and expected future difficulties show up in current relationships. We can coach you to either express thoughts or emotions about the past or future - and deal with the conflicts and discussions that candor and honesty provoke.


8. Will we help you have better relationships?

Yes. We can show you how to develop relationship skills and coach people in: Family; Friendship; Teamwork; Partnership; Parenthood and Community. We can offer you homework to reinforce learning. We can help you continue your relationship journey. We coach people to coach each other!


9. How long do relationships require coaching?

We offer short-term crisis coaching and luxury coaching - usually 3-10 sessions. Longer-term mentorship is available, to fine-tune ongoing relationship challenges. More time may be required if one or more people have emotional issues that limit participation in an important relationship.


10. Will we meet you individually or together?

We repeatedly find that individual coaching supports long-term happiness. We offer individual coaching to each adult member of a relationship system; and with each partner of a partnership. We also coach leaders of teams, organizations and communities.

Later we prefer to work with both partners together; or with teams - with as many members of the team as possible - together. But we find it better to first sort out individual blocks and issues privately.

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America: Dragonfly, PO Box 675, Honaunau, Hawaii, 96726 USA
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: Centar Angel, Trnsko 13A, 10020 Zagreb, Croatia
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Systemic Coach Training

Systems 1 How to evaluate relationships and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, and identify blocks, objections & conflicts
Systems 3 How to continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to heal therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
Systems 8 How to coach partners to build lasting happiness (and to separate peacefully)
Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems
Systems 10 How to coach team leaders and teams ... together
Systems 11 How to coach community leaders and communities
Specialty Advanced workshops and specialty training tailored to your goals

Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.