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We offer coaching, seminars and
workshops on family constellations,
relationship happiness, resolving family
chaos and relationship bonds.
Living with Integrity
You want to act with integrity, to be in
integrity, to value integrity? ... What is
integrity?
Integrity
from Latin
integritas, from integer “whole"
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- firm
principles: steadfastly adhering to moral principles
or professional standards
- completeness:
being complete or undivided (formal)
- wholeness: being sound or undamaged (formal)
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Integrity can also refer to an experience - a state
of being - an experience of relationship connectedness in which the pronoun
"I" reduces to the experience of a mobile perceptual position within a relationship matrix
with a potentially infinite size. So many people called this experience
Soul, that we called the path to it Soul Centered
Changework, and later Soulwork Systemic Coaching.
Our Systemic Coaching offers another piece of a new spirituality,
which defines and measures spirituality in terms of happiness ... and hence relationship skills.
Neale Donald Walsch & New Spirituality
On 8 June 2004, I found myself sitting next to Neale Donald Walsch in a
macrobiotic restaurant in Zagreb, Croatia. We discussed his concepts of
New Spirituality and how the world might change in the next 50
years. Neale talked about emerging new directions in spirituality - and I on how to
change the societal beliefs that could enable or disable that emergence.
Neale asked about my work and I explained that I
was in Zagreb to train a group of therapists to resolve Relationship Bonds,
(identity loss expressed as limiting beliefs by which we bond to important
people - see Relationship Bonds.)
Relationship bonds include societal beliefs - beliefs by which we lose
identity and bond with a community or nation. Our systemic coaching includes ways to
recognize, evaluate and change limiting societal beliefs.
Neale wrote a few words on a paper napkin and passed them to me. "The
title of your book", he explained with a smile.
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The Integrity of Integrity
Making Sense of Life at Last By
Martyn Carruthers |
His evening seminar Razgovori s
Bogom (Conversations with God) was like a walk
through a beautiful, yet familiar park. Many of his concepts were
similar to those that I have lived by for years - although with different adjectives and
adverbs. He talked of the ravages of religion - and of a new spirituality
without good and evil, without dogma or creed.
Thou art God
The following day was Neale Walsch's
workshop. Perhaps I can dare to summarize it ...
- You are God - and there is no other God before
you
- You can
choose to develop spiritually
- Your spiritual development
can transform your society
- A transformed
society can
end poverty, sickness and war
I was delighted to hear resonance with a
favored novel by Robert Heinlein. "Stranger in a
Strange Land" describes the life of baby born on Mars and
raised by Martians - and the boy's return to Earth, where he started a
religion. The greeting used in this new religion was
"Thou art God".
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Ivan Illich
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"There is no greater
distance than that between a man in prayer and God." |
Workshop Summary
My summary of Neale Donald Walsch's workshop
in Zagreb:
- "All is one." You are connected
with all-that-is.
Any differences that you may perceive are subjective illusions.
- If "all is one" then all is divine.
As part of creation, your divine essence reflects your divinity.
- If "all is divine" then you
have forgotten your divinity. You
and others suffer from a collective metaphysical amnesia.
- If you remember your divinity, you can fulfill
your human potential.
After about three hours of such
appetizers, came the evening meal - the question period. This was,
at least for me, the best part of the evening!
For perhaps two hours, Neale Donald
Walsch answered many complex and difficult questions - often from
complex and difficult people. He did not try to force strings of words
into our minds. He used his relationship skills to build experience.
Rather than logical explanations, which rarely increase understanding,
he answered with stories, challenges, paradoxes and warm humor. He
seemed to be almost painfully honest.
I asked about responsibility and the consequences of healing. I often
perceive that healing a person of a mental or physical disease will
trigger a crisis somewhere else in that person's family. Many families
seem to need a diseased family member for the family to
function. For example, if one partner of a codependent couple rises to
become happy and strong, the other partner may descend into anxiety,
depression, aggression or even suicide.
Neale did not offer a solution. Rather he admitted that he faces similar
challenges each week, and described some examples. His up-front honesty
and candor delighted me. I would have questioned any glib or
simple solution to such a systemic crisis. My decisions are my
responsibility, and studying the consequences of my decisions can help
me improve my spiritual ecology ... my relationship with all-that-is ...
my integrity. I relaxed with a sigh and a smile, which come
again as I recall the human-ness of that moment.
At the end of the workshop I offered a summary, that "I had never
learned so much and so little in so short a time". Neale seemed to like
that, and later quoted it. His workshop helps me remember to use what
I already know.
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