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We offer coaching, seminars and
workshops on fertility, parenthood,
resolving family problems and
other relationship issues.
Fertility Issues
Some couples cannot conceive a child, and some women
cannot carry a child to
term. About a third of infertility cases have identifiable causes in the
male, about a third have causes in the female, and about a third are due
to conditions that could not be identified.
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Our fertility coaching
is for mature adults and requires responsibility.
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The chance of conception in any given month is about 1 in
5 for sexually active, fertile couples. Many doctors will not diagnose infertility
until a year of regular unprotected intercourse has not
resulted in pregnancy. If a medical diagnosis of infertility
is made, examinations, tests, and medical histories
are used to identify a physical cause.
We help people resolve emotional and relationship
entanglements that may be depressing or influencing their ability to create
babies.
Inconceivable?
There are many steps to conceiving a child. A man's fertility
is often tested first, to determine the quantity and health of sperm (for
example, do the sperm have tails and are they active?)
Women undergo a physical examination,
laboratory and imaging
tests to seek problems that may cause infertility. Testing in women may include
exploratory surgery or laparoscopy, in which a fiber-optic tool is
inserted through an incision to inspect the reproductive system.
A frequent
cause of infertility in women is abnormal
ovulation. Normally one egg is released each month under the influence
of several hormones. If any hormones are absent, ovulation will occur
irregularly, or not at all.
Ultrasound may also reveal structural or functional problems
such as endometriosis, in which cells from the uterus lining are in
patches and cysts. Tests may reveal irregular ovulation or
dysfunctional eggs.
Impregnable?
A frequent cause of infertility in men is low sperm
count. Men may have swollen veins around the testis (organ that
produces sperm). The sperm may contain the
wrong number of chromosomes, or it may have been stored too long. The
man may not ejaculate normally, or he may have diabetes.
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Female Infertility |
Male Infertility |
- Abnormal ovulation (25%)
- Blocked fallopian tubes
(35%)
- Dysfunctional eggs
- Thick cervical mucus
- Endometriosis
- Venereal diseases
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- Low sperm count
- Swollen veins around testes
- Sperm cannot move properly
- Blocked vas deferens
- Prostate disease
- Untreated diabetes
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Both men and women require sufficient levels of
certain hormones for conception and birth to occur; and the absence
of these hormones will prevent conception or healthy birth. While many
hormones can be administered medically, it appears that these hormones
can be regulated by the emotions of the men and women. This implies that
the quality of their relationships and their history of trauma can
affect their ability to become parents.
Unbearable?
Ovulation problems can be treated with hormones and
fertility drugs to induce ovulation in women whose sex hormones are not
functioning normally.
Other possibilities include assisted reproductive
technology (ART). The best known is in vitro fertilization
(IVF), which involves the mixing of sperm and egg in a laboratory to
trigger fertilization. After fertilization, the fertilized egg is
allowed to develop outside the body and is then introduced into the
woman’s uterus. After placement in the uterus, a zygote should follow the
course of pregnancy.
Some people with psychosomatic infertility may
benefit from our relationship coaching. Certain family trauma,
relationship entanglements or family enmeshments can
effectively prevent some women or couples from having, or even wanting,
children. Two examples of entanglement are the identification of a person with a
dead person or identification with a victim. We often resolve these entanglements by recourse to a
stable resource state that we call integrity or soul.
Family Entanglements
A family is a complex system with a genetic imperative to
create and raise babies to independence. For most people, sense of life
includes creating and raising something to independence. If not babies,
this something can be pets, projects and businesses.
Family enmeshments or emotional entanglements can pass toxic
family habits to the next generation. Toxic habits are not genetic diseases,
although the two may be confused. In a toxic family habit there is no DNA
involvement. Our systemic diagnosis can often predict who in the next
generation of children will express symptoms associated with a specific
entanglement.
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If you are entangled,
you may feel that you control or are controlled by somebody. The consequences
of entanglement are not alleviated by good intentions. |
Some entanglements that seem to be often connected
with infertility are Dead Person Identification, Relationship Bonds, Vanishing Twins
and lingering love for a past partner.
Identifications . Relationship Bonds
. Vanishing Twins .
Past Partner
Identification with a Dead Person
If a person dies young, there will be shock throughout that
person's family. If the person dies in an accident, from a diagnosed disease
or as a hero, the family can often grieve and relax. If a person dies as a
result of a deliberate action, especially by another family member or by
suicide, the shock can be intense and long-lasting, and affect to subsequent
generations. The two most common causes of dead person identification seem to
be suicide and abortion.
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If you are identified, you may feel
something or somebody in or close to you that may seem to direct your
behavior. You may feel that you are specially guided or protected, but
you may be unable to state a well-formed goal. |
Suicide and abortion can cause intense
feelings of guilt in a family. If one family member carries
the burden of guilt, that person may identify with the dead
person, typically while a young child. As an identified child reaches
adolescence and becomes available for partnership and parenthood, the
symptoms associated with identification usually become more pronounced.
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If you have
identified with a dead person, you may feel sad and express
melancholy. You may be especially sensitive to
relationships and consequences of actions. You may enjoy
visiting cemeteries, battlefields, concentration
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Sexual
Issues . Sexual Solutions
. Sexual Abuse
The consequences of dead person
identification often include that children die, either as a
miscarriage, stillbirth or cot death (crib death). To avoid this
trauma, it seems that a person may unconsciously avoid becoming a parent,
unconsciously regulating hormone production to prevent conception.
Relationship Bonds
Relationship bonds refer to shared beliefs
about identity, and may be perceived as dark shapes or unpleasant feelings in
or close to the body. Toxic relationship bonds may prevent the happiness of
committed partnership, sexual pleasure and responsible parenthood.
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During your coaching I was shocked to "see" a black knife in my
womb ...
It was connected with my father, who always told me that he
never wanted children, and that he didn't want me to waste my life
being a mother. |
Other entanglements and issues that may affect fertility are
relationship conflicts, relationship stress, homosexuality or a
revulsion against sexual contact, possibly following sexual abuse.
Consult your physician about any opinions about
fertility, medical symptoms or medical conditions.
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