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Solutions for Grief & Loss
Hope & Renewal © Martyn Carruthers

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Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old abuse?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your boss's moods?
We can help you untangle your life ... and reclaim your freedom.

From Grief & Loss To Hope & Renewal

Grief is a reaction to loss that can damage your sense of life.

Sooner or later you will lose important things and important people. A serious illness, an unfortunate accident, a poor investment - stuff happens. Bad things can happen to good people and bad things can happen to you. Insurance doesn't cover everything. You will probably always remember the people you love ... you won't forget them easily.

A significant loss may trigger overwhelming unpleasant emotions, disrupt your everyday life and cause long term problems. You may experience loss as you age - as you lose some of your mental and physical resources and maybe some body parts. Before you die physically, you may suffer emotionally. Maybe you will seek oblivion in alcohol or with a needle. Maybe you will consider suicide. We hope that you will recover, while many don't ... or won't.

A heavy sense of loss often follow the loss of a precious person, the loss of a pet or an abortion. If an important person dies or leaves you, your grief may be intense. But despite any loss, you can recover hope and you can regain your sense of life. We can help you, at your own speed, reclaim your life after a major loss.

Silent Conspiracy

Can you talk about your loss with your family and friends? Or do you all avoid talking about losses? Or do you have little contact with people? Do you avoid talking about your feelings? Or do you try to medicate them away? Do you try to endlessly distract yourself? Does hope seem like a distant mirage?

Each loss brings a potential for growth, insights, understanding and hope. Can you see see that far ahead when you're experiencing grief? Can you focus on renewal? See emotional outbursts

Lovers who Die: Grieving Loss

Although you may grieve the loss of a home or a car, your greatest grief may concern the loss of important people with whom you shared life experiences. Shared life experience is often more important than whether or not you liked a person. And there are other forms of loss ...

  1. Loss of a family member - a parent or sibling ... or a mentor
  2. Loss of a friend - someone you could share life experiences with
  3. Loss of a colleague or team member - someone you worked with
  4. Loss of a partner - someone with whom you shared life happiness
  5. Loss of a child - someone you created or adopted ... or a pet animal
  6. Loss of a community - a neighborhood or a workplace that you left ... or that left you

Coaching, Grief & Recovery

After the acute stage of grief, listening ears, caring hearts and support may disappear. You may feel alone with your loss. We offer you a safe space in which you can redesign or rebuild your life.

Coping with a death in the family is one of the most difficult challenges that you and your children will undertake. We can help you take care of yourself while simultaneously providing you with emotional support to care for any children following a death in the family.

We coach motivated adults ...

  • we can help you rebuild your life

  • we can help you regain perspective
  • we can help you find additional resources
  • we can help you manage emotional outbursts
  • we can help you make sense of your experience
  • we can talk to you objectively and without judgment
  • we can support you through the changes you choose
  • we can help you choose changes you may want to make

The end of a partnership sometimes feels like a death in the family. See Relationship Breakdown.

Your Next Steps?

Your next steps depend on your desires and goals, and may depend on what you have lost. Do you want another partner, another child, another workplace? How can we help you? Do you want to:

  • Explore and select the next steps of your life path?
  • Find and focus on a meaningful life project?
  • Find a hopeful, future-oriented perspective?
  • Learn how to manage your emotions?
  • Or maybe you have a better idea?

Solutions for Grief and Loss

Here are some useful tips when dealing with grief and loss:

  1. Be empathic and share your emotions calmly
  2. Help people describe their underlying emotions
  3. Recognize complaints, criticism, justifications and blame
  4. Identify underlying values and find benefits within problems
  5. Interpret what is communicated - identify what is missing or inferred
  6. Separate the content of messages from how they are communicated

Loving relationships are the path and goal of love; and lasting love requires unusual clarity. We help people deal with grief and loss to find a bridge across forever - a bridge to integrity.

We offer Systemic Coaching for Health Coaching and Relationship Management

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Copyright © 2001-2010 by Martyn Carruthers. All rights reserved.



 

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Systemic Coach Training

Systems 1 How to evaluate relationships and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, and identify blocks, objections & conflicts
Systems 3 How to continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to heal therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
Systems 8 How to coach partners to build lasting happiness (and to separate peacefully)
Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems
Systems 10 How to coach team leaders and teams ... together
Systems 11 How to coach community leaders and communities
Specialty Advanced workshops and specialty training tailored to your goals

Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.