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Energy Work, Soulwork and Love
Love and Healing © Martyn Carruthers, 2009

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Energy work
is often used to describe alternative healing modalities that are based on beliefs that health depends on energy fields that can be affected by the thoughts or actions of other people.
This web page includes a brief overview of some popular forms of energy work. (No sacred cows are barbecued in this article.)

Energy Work

I am sometimes asked what energies I use to supplement and support the rapid, powerful results that I enjoy in my work. Students sometimes say that they feel or see an energy flow between me and the people I coach. Those same questions just motivated me to start writing this article.

I believe that I know what this energy flow is, but when I try to describe it, I feel a bit lost for words. So, to write about my energy work, I need to first write about what other people say that they do, as background. If the following seems basic to you, please relax, many people have no idea what the words chakra, Reiki or orgone imply. Many people have never heard of Bioenergy or Shiatsu.

What is Energy Work?

Depression, fatigue, anxiety or unhappiness are common reactions to relationship issues. Many people who feel depressed, fatigued, anxious or unhappy seek inner peace, without medication or drugs. Then, balancing body energies may seem like an excellent idea!

Energy work certainly seems easier than analyzing and changing complex relationships. And someone else will do it for you? All you have to do is relax, think nice thoughts and breathe deeply? Wonderful!

Many energy work practitioners say that balancing body energies can empower people to harmonize their minds, bodies and souls. It takes time to wade through their descriptions, but most energy work practitioners claim to help people stimulate, release, clear or unblock body energies. (Some people may even offer to fluff your aura, while others, predictably, advise against this).

Descriptions of energies that can affect the human body can be found in older medical and spiritual systems. Such energies have been called prana in India, mana in Hawaii, qi in China, ki in Japan, orgone in Germany and animal magnetism in Britain and America.

Common Forms of Energy Work

The first step in each modality is that a practitioner become calm.
It is usually required that a receiver believe that the modality is effective.
The desired goal of energy work is usually a sense of wellbeing.

Acupuncture was developed in ancient China. Practitioners may say that everything is governed by the energies of water, wood, fire, earth and metal, and that they can affect the flow of body energy by inserting needles into the skin to balance the flow of a universal energy called Qi.

Animal magnetism need not mean sex appeal! The term referred to the application of a universal magnetic fluid that practitioners (mesmerists) could control. Research into animal magnetism was fundamental to the origins of clinical hypnosis and psychotherapy.

Bioenergy practitioners seek to unblock body energies restricted by suppressed emotions, which manifest as tension, pain and illness. Bioenergy practitioners may use psychotherapy, exercises and breathing to allow a universal energy called orgone to flow through a body.

Christian healing practitioners may say that some special people can ask a universal Holy Spirit to enter other people's bodies to promote transformation, forgiveness and health ... if those other people believe or have enough faith that this is possible.

Ho'omanamana is Hawaiian for making great energy. Practitioners may say that they use the elements of nature, generated by breathing or given by an aumakua (ancestral spirit) to replace or balance human mana (life energy), and to kick out malignant energies left by other people.

Polarity therapy practitioners may say that nature has positive and negative energies that must be in balance to prevent illness. Practitioners claim to balance human energy fields to restore the mind and body, using massage, dietary and nutritional counseling, yoga and positive thinking.

Prana is a Sanskrit word meaning invisible vital energy. Practitioners may say that they can use prana to balance, harmonize and transform body energies, to accelerate healing by increasing the life force or vital energy on the affected part of the body.

Reflexology practitioners apply pressure to the foot, holding that the foot represents a microcosm of the body and that parts of the foot correspond to other body parts. By pressing on certain parts, practitioners may claim to help alleviate body problems by clearing congested energies.

Reiki is Japanese for universal energy and uses touch and visualization to access a universal energy that can restore health. Practitioners may claim to transfer this universal energy by placing their hands on chakras, and body organs, to balance the energies of the mind, body and spirit.

Shiatsu means finger pressure and includes a massage rooted in traditional Chinese medicine. Shiatsu appears to follow the principles of acupuncture, replacing needles with finger pressure (acupressure).

Therapeutic touch practitioners may say that they can affect body health by intuitively assessing a person's energy field, clearing it, and transferring their own energy to the person by holding their hands close to the person's body.

Witchcraft healing practitioners may say that everything has auras in which adepts can see illness as cloudy or discolored areas which they can use to diagnose illness, and then transfer a universal light to those areas, often with the aid of gems, incense, candles or magical items.

How many universal energies are there? I asked many practitioners about their methods ...
and about the methods of their competition. Many people say that they can manipulate
universal energy to ease emotional distress and promote health and wellbeing.

Energy Work and Happiness

For me, happiness is a profound and lasting experience of well-being that can survive and even grow during difficult times. For me, happiness includes sharing high values and life purpose with people I love.

Yet if I claim that I love a person, I walk on thin ice. The word love has so many different meanings and implications. Important questions arise ... Am I truthful? What type of love am I talking about? How do I want to express my love? and What do I expect other people to do with my love?

To love someone is, I feel, different to falling in love. (Our brain chemistry seems to change when we fall in love - which can have similar effects to psychoactive drugs and severe emotional disturbances). I feel emotionally whole when I care about the happiness of other people; especially when I have evidence that those people care about me. If I encourage someone's happiness and accept their life path, we may both feel connected, and perhaps included, in each other's lives.

Yet love is often used to describe unhealthy behavior. When I coach unhappy couples, I may ask, "Why do you want to stay together?" Often their answers are, "because I love him/her. " If I delve deeper, I often find darker answers ... fear of being alone, fear of not supporting oneself, fear of never again enjoying sex, fear of not finding another partner, and just as much anger, sadness and guilt.

People who feel unloved, unlovable or incapable of loving, may try to distract themselves from unpleasant emotions with television, alcohol, sex, toys, food or gambling. In the absence of love-that-connects, they may instead seek people or things that can distract them from lives that lack sense.

And then, with that sad background, peaceful energy work from a calm practitioner makes sense. The energy work that I experienced usually involved gentle words, deep breathing and soft touches, in a room of pastel colors with scented candles or incense, and herb tea. I felt better ... so it worked ... didn't it?

Love as Energy Work

For me, real love can be active or passive, and is always appropriate to the relationship. Some adults are confused between love for parents and love for partners. Some therapists are confused between unconditional acceptance and romantic affairs. Some parents are confused between loving children and pets. For some people, "I love you" seems to mean "I want access to your resources".

For me, active love is encouragement ... but I can only encourage people with integrity if I know and support their values and goals, or else I risk playing word games. For me, passive love is acceptance ... but I can only accept people with integrity if I know their past and present circumstances, or else I risk fooling myself. And I am careful to clarify relationship types. A client, for example, is not a close friend, not a child, not a potential lover ... and so on.

It seems that people primarily communicate their love, or lack of it, non-verbally. Body language - posture, gestures, congruence, voice tone, pitch and tempo - often communicates more than words. Most people perceive body language unconsciously - although they may consciously feel the effects in their bodies. Then men may talk about their gut feelings, and women about their female intuitions.

Then they may ask me, What energies are you sending? and How can I do that too?

And so, my most profound energy work is probably my intention to fully accept and enthusiastically encourage people who have goals that I can heartfully support. And then my work makes sense!

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Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2012 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers
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