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Solutions for Stress
Coping with Life © Martyn Carruthers

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Do you want to change emotional stress, toxic relationships or limiting beliefs?


Can you Cope with Change?

Stress happens. Stress happens every day. Stress is a normal part of life. And stress may interfere with study, work, friendships and family. Many people express their reactions to stress as behavioral problems, psychosomatic or physical disease symptoms, or learning disorders.

We help motivated adults deal with simple stress following a simple pattern:

  1. Decide to avoid or reduce a source of stress
  2. Dissolve anger or fear that contributes to stress
  3. Search for options to avoid or reduce the stressors
  4. Find an option that controls, removes or reduces a stressor
  5. Search for resources that enable you to follow through and change it

Few people like stress, but most people can adjust to stressful events and move on. And some get stuck. If the stress causes people to split-off part of themselves - those parts may not grow up, rather continuing to relive the stressful event, rather like a needle on an old gramophone record. This can continue for many years or until the stressful event is assimilated.

Following stress which sub-divided the personality, we can help people find, recover and integrate the lost parts of themselves.


Help for Adjustment Disorders

Adjustment disorders differ to common, everyday stress and emotional problems. If you lose a partner or a job and you may feel depressed. If you lost a partner or job two years ago, and you are still depressed, then you may have a systemic (relationship) problem.

You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other resources). You explore options, trying one and another until you remove the stressor or reduce its intensity. Your emotional maturity might be defined in part as your ability to rapidly respond to and control stress.

Some people cannot adjust to stress. Perhaps you were never taught stress control; or the stressor is too much for you to handle. An inability to resolve stress may be called age regression, immaturity, emotional incest, emotional trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or other possibilities.

If you experienced high stress and your symptoms impair your life, then you may have an adjustment disorder. Important parts of your life may include difficulties at school or work, social problems, legal difficulties, relationship chaos or symptoms of disease .


What causes Adjustment Disorders (AD)

An adjustment disorder is an exaggerated emotional or behavioral reaction to a stressful event or change. The reaction usually occurs within a few months of the identified event or change (although the unpleasant feelings may be dissociated or repressed for years, only to explode later in life).

Stressful events that change the life of a child, adolescent or immature adult include a family move, parental separation, the loss of a family member, and the birth of a sibling.

Sometimes a parent's love can feel more confining than freeing, more demanding than nurturing. Were you an "emotional partner" to a parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert emotional incest.

We help motivated adults dissolve adjustment disorders and stress reactions. As people vary in their experiences, temperament and therefore in their ability to cope; and as stressors can vary in intensity, duration and effect, we cannot accurately predict how many sessions might be needed.

Synonyms

AD, mental illness, PTSD, psychiatric disorder, non-psychotic disturbance, sub-threshold disorders, sub-threshold syndromes, psychosocial stressors, maladaptive reactions, stress disorders, suicide, suicidal ideation, suicidal impulses, anxiety NOS, depression NOS, self-harm, self-poisoning, psychopathology, stress reactions, relationship chaos, self-sabotage


Who is affected - and how?

These stress disorders occur equally in males and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of adjustment disorders in younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may include hyperactivity, while adults more often experience depression.

In these disorders, the reaction to the stressor seems to be exaggerated, and may significantly interfere with education, work or family responsibilities.

Most treatments of adjustment disorders try to get rid of symptoms. We help people manage the underlying emotional responses to relationship disappointments.


Symptoms of Adjustment Disorders

The following are the three most common groups of symptoms of adjustment disorders, roughly based on maturity. (Mixtures of symptoms are common. A person who oscillates between two different symptom sets may be expressing a systemic disorder called Identity Conflict.)

Age Regression

Age-regressed adults act like children. In some cultures, it is acceptable for a man to act childishly if he is stressed or ill. This may not be acceptable in other cultures, and may be unacceptable for women.


1. Anxiety Symptoms (mostly children or age-regressed adults)

  • Nervous, Worried, Afraid of change
  • Afraid of separation from parents or partner
  • Generalized Anxiety / Agoraphobia (extreme)


2. Behavioral Symptoms (mostly teenagers or age-regressed adults)

  • Hyperactivity and Attention Deficit Disorders (ADD - ADHD)
  • Preoccupied with violence & gore (e.g. TV, computer games and cinema)
  • Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft) or societal rules (e.g. truancy, delinquency)


3. Depressive Symptoms (mostly adults)

  • Depressed and withdrawn
  • Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
  • Expresses hopelessness and helplessness

Consult a physician about medical or psychiatric conditions.


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1. Where are you now? Assess relationship bonds and entanglements Systems 1
2. What are your life goals?  Identify your life goals ... and what blocks you Systems 2
3. How to reach your goals?  Use your conscious and unconscious resources Systems 3
4. What stops you?  Dissolve abuse and trauma to rebuild motivation Systems 4
5. What else stops you? Change your limiting beliefs to end dependence Systems 5
6. What else stops you? Resolve identity loss to recover qualities and skills Systems 6
7. What else stops you? Heal mentor damage and find quality mentorship Systems 7
8. What about your partnership? Build happy partnership (or separate peacefully) Systems 8
9. What about your children? We coach parents to resolve family problems Systems 9
10. What about your success? We coach team leaders and teams ... together Systems 10
11. What about your community? We coach community leaders and communities Systems 11
12. What about complex goals? Specialty coaching & training for unusual goals Specialty

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We help people define and achieve goals, resolve emotional blocks and improve relationships. This information is for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. Don't steal ... ask Martyn for permission to post or publish his work.