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If sense of life can be replaced by guilt, shame
and depression,
then abortion is a spiritual issue.
If you feel
strong emotions as you read this - please STOP reading.
1: Consequences of
Abortion : 2:
Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Spiritual Consequences of Abortion
Abortion offers high incomes for
those people who are able and willing to provide it. Whether or not
abortion is murder, and whether or not a fetus can experience pain are
controversial legal and medical opinions. But consequences don't seem to care
about good intentions, opinions or laws.
I described some emotional consequences of abortion here. This article focuses on
spiritual consequences of abortion. (Some of this information is also
relevant to other situations where children die young - including
accidents, miscarriage, still-birth or crib deaths.)
During an abortion, the key people are the mother,
the father, the aborted child and the abortionist. However the families
of these people, and their colleagues and communities, are also affected.
Ignored problems rarely go away and often get worse.
Yet many people do not know why they are suffering,
depressed or addicted ... and many people avoid considering these consequences.
The financial, medical and social benefits of abortions
may be obvious, while damaged relationships, guilt, depression and addictions are
not. Sometimes an abortion makes financial or medical sense - for example if a
pregnancy endangers a mother's life, or is the result of a rape, or the parents
do not want a child. Spiritual consequences are about
"sense of life".
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After my second abortion, I
was severely depressed ... I was almost suicidal.
BC, Canada |
Primary Consequences
I suggest that the primary spiritual consequence
of abortion is a depressed ability to feel joyously connected to
families, to partners, to friends, to communities, to humanity or
to God. If sense of life can be replaced by guilt, shame
and suffering, then abortion is a deeply spiritual issue.
These painful issues can be resolved. We help motivated
adults dissolve many of the consequences of abortion discussed
here. The facets of our work most relevant to the spiritual
consequences of abortion may be to resolve guilt, clarify
relationships and regain sense of life.
Guilt, Shame & Clarification
Guilt depresses life. Being joyous may not make sense if
you have hurt or killed someone. We help people resolve seven types
of guilt issues result from having hurt or betrayed people.
Whether or not a fetus has a legal status as a human being - most people
recognize a fetus as a potential child.
When coach people to evaluate significant relationships, many are
surprised identify an aborted child as a significant relationship.
An abortion is often described as an unpleasant block that
seems to limit the expression of love and communication, primarily
within a family ... and we help people dissolve blocks.
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You asked if my mother
had an abortion between my elder brother and me. I was certain
that my mother would have told me about any abortions. When I
asked her - she said that she had - but that not even my father
knew about it ... how did YOU know about it? Warsaw, Poland |
Abortion & Intimacy
Arranging an abortion may decrease intimacy between
partners. Sometimes separation or divorce may follow even an attempted
abortion, although a couple may not recognize that their subsequent
estrangement and separation as a direct consequence of the abortion.
Sometimes, a woman may arrange an abortion unwillingly, following an
ultimatum from her partner, that either she arranges an abortion or he
leaves. In our experience, it is unlikely that this couple will remain in
an intimate partnership. This often marks the end of intimate partnership,
even if they stay together.
Similarly, some pregnant girls are told by their parents to
get an abortion or to leave the family home. It is hard to imagine joyous family
relationships following such abuse.
If a woman has an abortion despite the father's desire for the
child to be born, the consequences may also include the end of
romantic intimacy, although the couple may stay together for other reasons.
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I was very
happy to be pregnant, but my husband wanted me to have an abortion. He
threatened to leave me if I didn't. I got an
abortion, but after that, I felt like a cold fish when we had sex. It
was two bad years before we divorced. London, UK |
Ghosts, Abortion & Lost Children
Many people describe feeling haunted by ghosts
or spirits. A spirit is often seen as a dark shape
close to (often directly in front or directly behind, occasionally
above) the person, that may seem to cause depression and prevent
long-term happiness. This occurs for both men and women.
As many religions forbid abortion, parents arranging
an abortion may also feel a diminished relationship with their community,
with their God and with life. To our initial surprise, we found that
this diminished sense of life seems to be equally true for
agnostics and atheists.
The birth order
of children is important and becomes apparent during our work.
Family members often perceive an abortion as either a dark
energy or as a hole in the family. Subsequent children
may feel this hole, and be strongly affected by it. If seen as a spirit,
a child may consider it an imaginary friend.
Compensation for Death?
We notice that, following an abortion, the first pregnancy of
the next born sibling will often be spontaneously or deliberately aborted,
and/or the first living child often show signs of dead person
identification (chronic melancholy and preoccupation with death). Often the siblings of an aborted child, particularly
the next-born, say that they have searched for some important person who
seemed to be missing.
Examples of this include children who create imaginary friends that
no=one else can see.
Many people have described such searches to us. They
searched for a missing person who would make things right!
Some people will find and marry a person who appears to have these missing qualities. In this way, a missing family
member can be returned to the family - by transference.
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My wife and I had been trying to have
a baby for years and she had two miscarriages ... we had three sessions
with you ... now we have a baby son ... during our coaching, I found
that I really was entangled with an aborted sister and probably with an abortion I
had when I was a teenager. Manchester, UK |
Hidden emotions are eventually expressed, and we often
find that one family member may express the hidden emotions of another.
Even following a secret abortion, other family members may
feel that something is not right, that something is missing. This
feeling of not-rightness may be experienced by family members of
subsequent generations! A potential child died - at the parents request.
Dead Person Identification
Sometimes a later child identifies with the missing
child, and may grow up melancholic - and highly sensitive to other
people. (This includes psychic sensitivity - many psychic and healers boast
about dead spirit helpers). Such children are often fascinated by
death, dying and gore.
Occasionally, we meet people whose parents tried to abort them, and
failed. Such children seem to grow up fearful and distrustful of one or
both parents. We have plenty of evidence that a child not only knows and
remembers what happened in the womb, but also that a fetus can respond to family
relationships even before birth. We help motivated adults dissolve these
symptoms.
Consequences to Abortionists
We have noticed that people we have met who profit from abortion may become dissociated
(unable to feel emotions) and generally callous towards human life.
This is often reflected by a lowered ability to enjoy intimate relationships,
spiritual experiences or long-term happiness. The doctors and staff of abortion
clinics that we have met seem to have a higher risk of addictions and depression than in
medical clinics
that support and nurture human life.
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Your writing about abortion is nonsense. Abortion is
not murder anymore than liposuction,
and the proper term is 'abortion
doctor,' not 'abortionist. Anonymous |
Abortionists and the staff of abortion clinics may
search for distractions instead of happiness, resulting in fixations and
obsessions. Their children may experience depression, learning disabilities and
chronic psychosomatic disease - whether or not they consider themselves
spiritual.
Spiritual Dimensions of Abortion
Reality appears to have a spiritual dimension, which, as it flows
into human existence, can transform whatever it touches. I believe that
spirituality is about acquiring virtues that support long-term happiness
and that we often develop virtues under unfavorable and uncomfortable conditions.
If you experience danger, you can develop courage,
and if you experience lack, you can develop generosity. If you experience guilt
you can develop purity. If you experience
depression, you can develop compassion. Do you want to resolve an emotional
or spiritual issue?
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