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Would you like to benefit from our experience?

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your boss's moods?
We can coach you to untangle your life ... and reclaim your freedom.

Preparation for Private Coaching & Telephone Sessions

We like seeing happy people and we like results. We want to get calls from you telling us how well your life is changing! We want you to refer people to us. To accelerate your success, we suggest that you ...

1. List 5 to 10 goals that you really want. The prioritize them and mark the most important. If you want to work on one issue first, ensure it is the most important - especially if it is a goal that enables other important goals or makes other goals possible - e.g. control chronic anger.
   
   
2. Write your top THREE coaching goals with short, clear words. E.g., if your top goal is happy family, ask yourself how you want us to help you. Do you want to change your habits, find a new partner, change a relationship, generate new ideas, or what?



3. Take full responsibility for your life - and for your future. We are not responsible for your past - we help people create their futures. Don't expect us to do your work for you. That's your job!
   
   
4. Reach for your goals. We are goal-oriented and we coach action. If your goal is friendship, we can enjoy talking with you about your past, your life philosophy etc. We will listen carefully and offer you feedback before we explore how to create your future.
   
   
5. Ask us questions and request what you want. We may ask you unusual questions to expose important insights, and we may make unreasonable requests to provoke or motivate you.
   
   
6. Deal with what you can before your session. We rarely need to know much of your history to coach you to achieve your goals. Your success is more in your future than in your past.



7. Prepare - help us focus on you and your goals ...
fill out a preparation form (below) before your first session and e-mail to us it so that we have your background information.


8. Review each coaching session. We can both explore what you got out of your session, and we can both focus on what we can accomplish in the next meeting.



9. Feedback - let us know what is of most value to you. Let us know what's not working and what is less valuable to you.
   
   
10. Breakthrough = Insight + Action! Insight without action is like a kiss on the cheek; briefly interesting but not very profound. Focus on action! When you have insight into your life, use it!

Prepare yourself before each session. Take time to relax and review your goals.

Systemic Coaching Preparation
This is not an online form ... please cut and paste it into your email program.
If any question seems too private ... please withhold the information until you feel comfortable.

Name: ________________________________     Profession ________________   Age _____

Phone: ____________________________    Email Address: ___________________________

About yourself:

Education: ____________________________________________________________________

Career: _______________________________________________________________________

Interests: ______________________________________________________________________

1. What are ten important goals or things that you wish to change?

1. ___________________________________  6.______________________________________

2. ___________________________________  7.______________________________________

3. ___________________________________  8.______________________________________

4. ___________________________________  9.______________________________________

5. ___________________________________  10._____________________________________

2. What are your top three important goals or things that you wish to change?

1. ____________________________________________________________________________

2. ____________________________________________________________________________

3. ____________________________________________________________________________

What will convince you that you have achieved your three important goals?

1. _____________________________________________________________________________

2. _____________________________________________________________________________

3. _____________________________________________________________________________

What seems to stop you reaching your three important goals?

1. _____________________________________________________________________________

2. _____________________________________________________________________________

3. _____________________________________________________________________________

Where are you now with your health, success, emotions and relationships?:

Health: ________________________________________________________________________

Wealth: ________________________________________________________________________

Happiness: _____________________________________________________________________

Relationships: ___________________________________________________________________

If you have you used coaching / counseling / therapy before, what happened?

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Your relationships ... what's going on between you and your:

Father: _________________________________   Mother: _______________________________

Partner:  ________________________________  Ex-Partners: ___________________________

Children: ________________________________  Friends: _______________________________

Boss : __________________________________ Colleagues: ____________________________

Other: __________________________________  Other: _________________________________

Your emotions ... when do you feel:

Anger: _________________________________  Peace: _________________________________

Sadness:  ______________________________  Joy: ____________________________________

Fear: __________________________________  Courage: ________________________________

Guilt : _________________________________  Happiness: ______________________________

Other: _________________________________  Other: __________________________________

Notes - What else seems important:

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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2010 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to define and achieve goals, to resolve emotional blocks and to improve relationships. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. You must get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.